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aroacebananas

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    JiYoung (call me Jia)
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  1. Just wanna thank everyone who has commented and helped me on my (albeit very short) journey to discovering and accepting that I'm aroace. I don't plan on coming out of the closet anytime soon, but thank you all! I wish you all a very belated but happy pride month!!! Much love and thanks, bananananana <3
  2. THANK. YOU. SO. FREAKING. MUCH. this helps so much!!! I'm more comfortable with my identity as asexual, because even tho im 14, I cannot ever imagine wanting it. Yes, that may be childish, but I'm pretty sure I'm ace. Aromantic, not so much. Probably because of the community I'm in. But I've only ever come out as aroace to a couple of people. anyhoo, thank you so much. that helps a lot. here, have this:
  3. Okay, so this response might become irrelevant later, since my church will no longer be a church on 8/14/22. My denomination is (I think...) the Prespyterian (i spelled that wrong) Church of America. I could be wrong, though. And yes, it does say that. But, and I'm sorry if I'm nitpicking here, but Aromanticism and Asexuality is defined as "feeling little to no romantic/sexual attraction." So where I'm confused is that how am I sort of unable to feel this attraction if God created it for humans? My mom said that God created sex as a holy thing for married couples. But I'm kind of terrified of the idea of doing it myself, or anything remotely close to that. And another part of my struggle is that when I told my dad that I didn't want to ever get married/date/have a romantic relationship, he didn't believe me and seemed dissappointed. That's when I knew I would have to stay in the closet. I'm 99% sure I'm Aroace, but how can I ever come out to the people I care about? My friends have been trying for months now to get me to tell them my "type." It's annoying, but I can't tell them because I'm scared of rejection. But I can't leave them because I know they mean well, and honestly I love them so much. Haha, nuns are a different type of christianity. It's not a big deal, but it's also expected. Everyone in my church expects me to eventually get into a relationship. I don't want that. And for the God being loving part, well... It's complicated. It's not easy to explain and even harder to understand if you're not in the Christian community. I wish I could explain it, but its 8:45 pm and I'm too tired. Also, I can't find a new religion. I still want to be a Christian (and I've been one all my life) and I've never found another religion that I agree with. Thank you. I'm not sure if this helps, but I appreciate the thought! <3 Thank you! <33333 Thank you all for the support!!!
  4. I'm 14. And I am 99% sure I'm not 100% alloromantic (which is basically being a normal person that has crushes, relationships, and all that jazz) but I've brought up the idea that "I don't want marriage later on in life, I don't really want a relationship. Like ever" and everyone I've said that to (which is a lot of people) say it's just a phase. That I'll find someone later on in life. And maybe that's true. I might be overthinking my straight-ness (if that's a thing). I'm open to the idea that I might find someone later in life, but for now I detest the idea of being in a relationship, which is strange because I'm the biggest shipper ever. On another note, my dad, my sister, pretty much my whole fam is LGBTQ-phobic, or at least don't really support them. My friends are more flexible with that idea, but are still pretty strict christians. And EVERYONE says its just a phase. But I'm also struggling with the fact that I might not be aro-spec and I'm just looking for attention. Maybe I'm just looking for a place where I can belong. Being aro-spec scares me a lot, and I don't even know if I want to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I'm scared of it, because that's the way I've been brought up. I don't want to be scared, but I am. I'm scared of myself. It might be internalized homophobia. I don't know what's biblically correct because IT DOESN'T SAY IT IN THE BIBLE SO WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!?! *sigh* sorry to bother you all, I just needed to rant. You can ignore this.
  5. So I think I might be aroflux, but I'm Christian. I've been struggling with this for like a month, and honestly I need a fellow Christian (if you're on the aro or ace spec that would be great) to help me out. I don't know how to come out or even if I am aroflux. I want to talk to my friends first, but how do I bring that up? Also, I'M SO FREAKING SCARED. I'm Christian and don't want to let go of my beliefs/religion. But I'm also struggling with romantic identity. (And to y'all out there who think that Christians don't like LGBTQIA+, that's wrong. I don't mind it, not many real Christians do. We just want to help people WITHOUT changing their sexual/romantic/gender/etc identity.) SEND HELP PLEASE. (this was posted on ditch the label too but i need a lot more help than i thought)
  6. I'm struggling with the same thing, that's actually how I found this (and here I am, 15 years old, in 2022...eh, yolo). Honestly, I have no idea what to do. On one hand, I am totally okay with not marrying/having a relationship (one day). But people like my church members and my dad say: "you'll change your mind when you're older." But will I though? This one guy had a crush on me and I freaked out. I overreacted and gave him death threats (in a joking tone, guys. I wasn't really gonna kill him) for a week and then he left me alone. For a while, I thought I was Ace but I realize that the topic of sex just makes me squeamish and so I wasn't. Now my lesbian friend says I might be Aromantic and honestly? I think I might be on the spectrum. So someone please help me! I really need advice from other Christians and I HAVE NO IDEA how to come out or even bring up the topic around my dad or my friends.
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