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root22

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  • Birthday 02/01/2002

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  1. I think both previous answers could be correct. I wouldn't discourage you from exploring the labels just because you're young but if it ever brings you too much distress and you get very confused trying to find the perfect microlabel maybe just "chill" a bit. If that ever becomes a problem just wait and see where time and experience leads you. Just go with what feels most comfortable to you, if you like exploring labels and it feels nice to have a word for your experience then hooray but don't become trapped in it
  2. Welcome from me also. Much of what you said sounds very familiar to me. And I agree that you probably can never really "know for sure". I have a few points to make why you should be comfortable ignoring that, if you wish to: 1. Everything Does change. Constantly. There are labels that used to apply to us that no longer do – I used to be a cashier and I'm not anymore, I used to be a first trumpet and I no longer am. Sure those are more tangible than something like "aromantic" but I only mean to show that if it ever turns out that you were "wrong" that doesn't mean that you were wrong to use the label. Since 2. labels aren't a select once at the beginning of the game type deal. They can change. They don't have to set rigid rules for how to live your life. They aren't boxes you make a home in, they are little decorations you put in the home you have (does that make sense?). If you feel like the label could help you, make you feel more comfortable or help you connect with a community of people with shared experiences, then that can be all that's important. 3. We're not gonna be mad at you in case it turns out you're "wrong"! If you say in a week or a year or 10 years that this whole "aromantic" thing was completely off for you then we're not gonna be angry or anything. I'm not even sure myself if I'll always identify as aro, but it helps me now and it's very important to me now 4. I do get not wanting to come out in case people will think of you differently. I don't know your friends and family but I think you're right, they might see you a little differently for a bit but eventually they're probably going to realize it's just a tiny fact about you that adds to the person they already know. I also used to be afraid I'd come out and change my mind and have to come out again and people would believe me less (which is honestly such a mean thing to think they would think. I think deep down everyone would know life is confusing. you can't always know everything about yourself). Funnily this lead to me identifying as bi "to me safe" and having to come out again later because guess what! turns out I was actually right the first time. Wow. If you really feel you're ready and you're maybe annoyed by the assumptions people make don't hold back on coming out just because you're not a million percent sure. You're probably never going to be
  3. I don't know if this is helpful and I'll admit my friends and I aren't that close, but maybe offer to spend time with them as a couple? I spend time with my friends partner sometimes and he's a cool guy. We all just sort of hang out. I guess it's not likely that your friend will come to you for emotional support quite so much and you may not be so close anymore (which sucks! i'm sorry) but perhaps if you and her and her partner get acquainted better and enjoy each others company there might be a way to get a bit closer again rather than just "do smalltalk". Does that make sense?
  4. I'm glad you said this because I feel the same way. I don't really see myself having any sex in the forseeable future, it involves a lot of trust and vulnerability and I'm also still struggling with internalized homophobia about my sexual attraction. I honestly don't think I really need someone else to take care of my needs in this regard
  5. I'm a very private person in many ways. I've always viewed romance pessimistically but the idea of being very close to someone and being vulnerable around them also seems utterly unappealing to me. I don't one to be someone's One person they are closer to than anyone and the responsibility that comes with this (I'm aware poly relationships exist but I assime the dynamic here is very different and varied). A close friendship is much more free than that.
  6. I don't believe in that stuff. I get INFP every time and my friend who's into that shit a lot and has like a book on it agrees that's my type but I don't really feel it fits me.
  7. You can fundamentally always do whatever the hell you want with your own life! labels aren't supposed to limit your possibilities. being aroace means a lot of different things to many different people. all it means, by definition, is the abscense of sexual and romantic attraction. wowie there you go, that sure sounds like you from what I hear! many aros are in relationships that go beyond the conventional definitions of romance and if you find someone who wants to cuddle, hold hands and kiss you even though you're not romantically into each other, and this seems like a sweet deal to you, that's fantastic! please don't let random people online or offline tell you what you're allowed to feel
  8. type: aro coded villain rep: Appearance headcanon fodder tarot: cups flag: plain aromantic
  9. i was raised catholic, which had a considerable impact on my coming to terms with being gay, but aromantic not so much. i now consider myself a pantheist but not religious in any way.
  10. there is a new aspec group in my area! the group is from my city but the next meeting they have, that i'm thinking of joining, is in a different town and pretty far away (1h 20min). i'm not sure if i wanna drive that long and if yes, whether i could do so without getting my family asking what exactly i'm doing. the meeting is in 2 weeks. i'm gonna think about it

  11. sexual. sexual attraction is easy, i just look at women and go "wow so hot". i'm becoming more and more sure of my romantic attraction but it's much less tangible than sexual. it's this state of "could happen but i won't know if it can til it does" but this, in my experience is a good sign in the direction of "yeah it probably won't tho to be fair". it's something I had to learn back when i labled myself as bi, just in case i ever fall for a guy which in retrospect is pretty silly
  12. I wear one on my right hand. I'm not ace so the finger isn't "taken" by a black ring or anything. Also since it's my dominant hand I just prefer it there. Bought it on wish and have had it since February 2021.
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