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Lost.Allo

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  1. Hello all! Thank you for taking the time to reply to this, & for all your advice! MulticulturalFarmer, by commitment I meant future plans, for example what he saw for the future between us, moving in together, moving to a country together (he’s from the US & is currently in Europe where I live), meeting his parents, etc. So, for me, as someone who needs this in a relationship I took his doubts & inability of deciding on these issues as commitment issues but now I understand it has nothing to do with that but simply that he is aro & this is not something he desires. I hope this clears up what I said. Again, thank you everyone!
  2. Hello everyone! I am submitting this topic because I am a lil bit lost rn. So, I was dating a guy for a year, & during the relationship we were both very aware that something just wasn’t right. We had very open conversations about how he seemed to have issues with commitment, expressing love, etc. Because of this “issue” (which we now know isn’t an issue it’s just bc he’s aro) my romantic feelings for him stagnated & kind of disappeared. We split up nearly a month ago when he realized he’s aro. We would like to stay friends & atm we are managing to. But, I’m just a little lost bc our dynamic hasn’t really changed at all & so I’m worried that I’m just in denial. There is still a physical element to our friendship but again, I do not have romantic feelings for him. All this just to ask for some advice bc this is a situation I’ve never been in & I have no idea how to navigate it. I have done so much research to better understand it all so that he also feels comfortable & happy but I can’t seem to find anything on the topic of an allo & aro being friends after a relationship. If anyone could give some advice that’d be great & I’d be very grateful! Thank you!!
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