i discovered that i was aromantic when i was like 18 or 19 when i had my first datemate. and then after i was with somebody else. but i had crushes on people i still have but i've figured out lately that most of them were bc i thought i have to have someone i like and have interest in or maybe i rather want to be them than with them bc when i actually think about being in relationship i don't really see it i don't know what to do or it makes me uncomfortable. when you don;t see and feel with that you can be aro it can be that person
