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pogadki

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    masha
  • Orientation
    aro bi
  • Gender
    female
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    she/they
  • Location
    moscow
  • Occupation
    law student

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  1. it's a long post and i might express some thoughts that can be triggering, i'm sorry for that. so, i came out as aro to my friends two years ago. i realised my aromanticism when my ex best friend confessed her feelings to me and it caused so much anxiety. sorry if i sound hard-hearted but i simply couldn't understand what she wants from me, our relationship was de facto queerplatonic so we were tactile with each other and generally society often mistakenly saw us as a couple. ughhh its not even the point of my post so just keep in mind how shitty this situation felt. now two years have passed. it seemed to me that i would never get into such a situation again, all my close people know that i am aro, what can possibly go wrong. and yesterday another best friend of mine confessed. he is fully aware that i'm aro and he hopes that we can build "pseudo romantic relationship with kisses and stuff". with him i discussed earlier that i realise that some day i will have to force myself into a conventional relationship. i mean, sorry if it sounds triggering, but i live in russia and if i want my family to have my back - than i need at least to try to fit in. i told him how nice would be to find another aro person with whom i could build a "conventionally good looking" family and feel comfortable at the same time. now he's telling me that he wants to be my first "pseudo-romantic-relationship with-kisses-and-stuff" experience. but it just feels so wrong to me. dude has real damn feelings for me and i'm aro... i don't really know what to do. probably i need to reject his offer? (or should i really see this as an opportunity to test drive romantic bullshit?) ughhh i just really wanted to describe my situation to people who can possibly understand me. thanks for reading and sorry for mistakes in my text.
  2. i was wondering if there are any religious people here? if so, how does your faith compare with belonging to the aro apectrum? in general, it would be interesting for me to read how even atheists / agnostics evaluate the influence of religion on the aro spectrum. maybe you just know religions that have a special and unique attitude towards romantic relationships? personally, my mother is a christian and of course she has a special opinion about romance and love in general. she is sure that in some sense your usefulness as a person depends on finding the love of your life. I am not upset by this, this is expected and I myself am able to understand what I need and in what form. but, of course, we had a lot of arguments about this. maybe you too had some kind of conflicts with religious parents? (btw english is not my native language so i can make mistakes, sorry ^^)
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