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codefather

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  1. I do so (and more specifically idemromantic) because I have never identified an emotional difference between a good friend and someone I feel like I could "live with". In addition, I am a pretty distant person and I don't typically seek out human interactions, furthermore I don't enjoy prolonged interactions with most people, it actually remains to be seen if I actually could be fine with "living with someone", not in the abstract. I have *read* of emotional differences, around limerence etc, but I don't feel it. This leaves me with a few main possibilities: - the first is I decide this is a personal inability to feel an existing difference, in which case I would go for aromantic - the second is to postulate that I do experience the difference, just don't recognize it. Given my general emotional distance, it's plausible - the third is to decide that it's probably made-up, an arbitrary distinction people make (I would rule out this one) - the fourth is to take the "it will probably come later, when you meet the right person" pill - and the final one, which I chose, is to reserve judgement, because I don't think it's knowable/accessible in my case. And also because I am done wondering about it or asking people for any additional clues. Hence quoiromantic.
  2. I am a PhD student in comparative genomics, with a background in cell and molecular biology, but my interests are much wider and include algorithmic information theory, most recently. I recently had another look at the aspec community, I had done so years ago but then it was mostly around being specifically ace, and I could relate to some aspects but didn't find it meaningful to identify as asexual per se. Aromantic though, for sure. Based on the terminology I guess I am a quoiromantic (more specifically idemromantic I think), I do experience squishes I think, although I typically wait for them to pass. I don't know if I am "clinically" neurodivergent, I don't have a diagnostic at all, but saying I am neurotypical is a stretch, and even if I were on the autistic spectrum, I don't know to what extent it is driving me to be aspec, so I will refrain from using the terms associated. This was all triggered when a good friend confessed feelings for me and I reacted in a less than ideal way, but also felt a bit broken, so I looked again for similar experiences, glad many others worked it out and put it into words. All in all, hello.
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