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Procrastinating

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  • Birthday 03/25/1998

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    Jax
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    AroAce
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    Washington
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  1. I really love it. I do enjoy daydreaming about love, but I do also like not having a relationship.
  2. 1- get an analysis of my situation and get a point of view. In my opinion you should focus on getting out of the country that would put you in prison before focusing on anything else, but I am no expert. 2- Is my attraction to younger people normal? Can this attraction disappear over time? You did not indicate your age. If you are like 18 right now it's not abnormal to be attracted to people who are like 16, that's around your age. If you are in your 20s or something though that isn't the most normal thing. As long as you don't act on it and date a teenager though...it's just important you don't act on that. If you are currently 18 or 19, yes your attraction to teenagers will disappear over time, because you will soon no longer be a teen yourself. 3- Is my desire to have younger friends related to my sexual orientation? can this desire disappear too? No, who you want to be friends with has nothing to do with your orientation. Honestly there's nothing wrong with having friends of a different age. Some people are just like that, clicking more with younger or older friends. As long as like, you aren't trying to befriend 13 year olds or something as an adult. 4- can I qualify as gay even if I do not intend to practice sodomy? Or is there a more appropriate term for me? Yes. 5- can I meet this ideal person? If so, can I find her on specific dating sites with personality tests? Or is there another safer way? You probably will eventually. Don't rush it, you have time. 6- Are my expectations and demands too high? Idk 7- Why do I have this thirst for affection ? It is quite normal for allo people to want to find love. Heck even some aroace people are affectionate, just to friends instead, lmao. 8- have some advice. My best advice to you is to just stay safe. Sorry you're in such a difficult situation.
  3. In middle school I thought I was bi. I told this guy who liked me, he walked away and said, "I think I should stay away from you then." So I said, "Just kidding." Then I tried to tell my best friend. She did the same thing. So again I said I was kidding. Ironically she has now realized she is bi, and I have realized I am not. I forgave her, she was a product of her environment and had misunderstandings about the LGBT+ community. I said things about things I didn't understand back then too. My best experience coming out was when I came out to my father. He was just so wholesome about it. Unfortunately that was the last time I ever saw him.
  4. Even if other people are saying they only had 1-3 crushes, what all are they considering a crush? Because I feel like even when allos don't have a strong crush at the time they are often still seeing people that they find cute or interesting. A crush is like when you reach the stage someone is on your mind all the time. I know before I realized I was aro I would try to have crushes and I'd try very hard. I would pick someone I find aesthetically attractive, say I liked them, then talk about them to my friends a lot because I felt that's what I was supposed to do if I liked someone. But it wasn't a real crush. The feeling of, "I'm supposed to do this" was much stronger than any actual interest in the person. Even forcing it though, I only had a "crush" every 3-5 years or so. My point is that, I just don't do that, I'm not always thinking about who I can be romantic with, I don't find people likable in that way, I am just not able to be open to that. However, when I talk to allos, they are all "I want to find love." Or "Ooh that person is kinda cute." Even when they don't have a crush I think it's often on their mind. So even if your friends only have had 1 - 3 crushes, is it on their mind a lot? If not they could be arospec too. Is it on your mind a lot? I think that is the real indicator here. Of course now the concept is because you're trying to figure out who you are, but what I'm asking is, are you constantly finding people that you could like? Going 5 years without a crush is a pretty long time, from what I'm reading I do suspect that you could be arospec, but only you can know.
  5. I had to look for them but I am now following a few. @lautet, @misplaced.aroace, and my personal favorite is @angstyace. I personally have a tiktok, I'm @thecloudyend. I make aro content sometimes. The more you interact with aro content the more it will pop up. I recommend searching and interacting with any content you find interesting. Or start with who people are recommending to you. Edit: I just realized this was posted 2 years ago...lol
  6. She's not being a friend. Being not straight isn't even the point here, the point is you communicated your boundaries and she continues to cross them. If I were you I would just get up and walk away every time she did that, without a word. And if she continues, I'd just stop talking to her. Life is way too short to spend time on people who does shit they know makes you uncomfortable. But that's just me.
  7. There's actually quite a wide variation of gender expressions and how people experience gender. It makes a lot of sense to me that there are so many terms for gender.
  8. When I was in 4th grade, some kid asked me what I liked in a guy. I didn't know what to say, I didn't even realize I was supposed to like guys yet. I definitely didn't like guys, so I didn't know what to say I liked. So I made something up, and said long arms. I got really made fun of for that one.... When I was a kid, someone asked me who my crush was. When I said I didn't have one, they said, "Everyone has a crush" so I picked one at random. I thought this is how all crushes work. You just pick them. It was only like last year that I realized, most people don't pick their crushes. I really thought...everyone was like that.
  9. Hello, I am currently questioning my gender. Idk what I am, but I do know I really like when people use they/them pronouns for me. If I realize I'm cis, would it be weird for me to go by exclusively they/them pronouns?
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