Rowanus

Before I figured out my romantic identity, I found out my gender identity. I didn't really think about the consequences of this with romance despite hearing a lot of trans people talking about them struggling to find people who would be willing to love them but I just didn't think about it. This is probably due to my disinterest in romantic relationships but it could also be because we're living in a better world nowadays. At the time of figuring out my gender identity I think I thought I was homoromantic or something so I though, being queer will increase my chances of finding someone who understands being trans more than if I was straight because of the LBGTQ+ community, trans people are grouped together with queer people. Now I realise from lots of personal experience and lots of other people's experiences that people in the LBGTQ+ community can still be shockingly ignorant to others in the same community. I kinda strayed from the point I was trying to make there but to summarise, didn't even think about the romantic problem of being trans in the first place. I definitely haven't experienced the same problems as other trans people, not out to anybody at all about that because being genderfluid is confusing for some people and I don't want to scare them off with my ever-changing bloody pronouns.

I love not feeling the need to dedicate myself to somebody, instead i can dedicate myself to my own happiness. I love being free, not being behind the bars of romantic relationships. I don't know why I often visualise it as a prison, but thinking about having a relationship makes me think of having to drop everything for them and leaving my career, my family, my friends, my dreams because of one person. It happens sometimes in real life, even if it's a happy relationship. I love that friendships feel so much closer, being aro and when you find someone who is just absolutely amazing at understanding that, you get even closer and you feel so comfortable and safe to be around them and that feeling is just so great. I love that our community is there for each other. It means being aromantic has a deeper meaning, you can connect with people instantly. All the aromantic people I have met so far have been so supportive. Especially this forum group, everyone here I've met so far, I will forever be in your debt for making me feel so so welcomed and understood, it's like I've finally found people who actually get everything and have answers and it's made living such a happier thing knowing that there are people here and that there is so much support. I love deciding my own future.

rpg games, zelda, genshin impact atm. flawless landscapes and music. i adore it all

Thanks for the advice I'll yeah I'll try my best thanks :)

My friends know im aromantic but recently there's been a dilemma. I'm currently pretending to be oblivious to the crushes these two girls have on me so I don't have to deal with it but now my other friends are trying to tell me about these crushes and I've told them I don't want to know but they keep making me guess who it is. One of my friends keeps on asking whether I'm sure I've never had a crush before and then when she gave up asking she started guilt tripping me about it saying they're gonna be heartbroken. Can I have some advice? I feel really stuck and annoyed at my friends.