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  1. little late, but congrats!!! also has been a while now, how are things going if you don't mind me asking?😊
  2. as long as it's not causing harm to non-consenting humans/non-human animals I don't think we should mind.🤷‍♂️
  3. also, please feel free to share why you think so. personally I think that there are certain environmental factors that could trigger it while in the womb, because this is also shown with gay folks as they tend to be the younger siblings, and or had mothers who were ill while pregnant with them. remember that just because something is developed doesn't justify trying to "convert" it. i felt the need to clarify this because i can't help but feel that most people would be scared to think that if their aromanticism is environmentally caused then they would suddenly be invalid, which is not true.
  4. To be honest, I think the "standard" person would feel romantic love as a sort of "obsession" + "wanting an intimate partnership" + "happy nervousness". Don't think too hard about the definitions because it differs by culture and is very confusing. But I use this as a sort of guideline. Platonic is often more chill and less intense and there is less pressure on long-term relations. I hope this helps. :)
  5. Thank you, please have some Internet Garlic Bread??.
  6. I guess if I absolutely had to, it would be Quoisexual? I don't use the SAM because it doesn't feel important(to me). My culture doesn't really talk about sexual activities so it would be essentially useless for me to identify with a sexual orientation. Plus, I feel my Aromanticism affects me way more than my confusion on sexual attraction. I also don't ID with Quoisexual/Ace-spec because I actually joined AVEN but most of its topics seem to encompass romantic attraction so I just felt like I didn't belong there. Not invalidating those who use SAM, it's just not for me.
  7. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to offend anyone but why would anyone identify with a Platonic Orientation? I understand talking about Platonic Attraction(it's fun, interesting and helps people figure out squishes) but I don't understand the use of using Platonic Orientation labels. For example if you were a girl and you were "Heteroplatonic" would you use it to tell girls that you're not interested in having them as close friends because they're girls? Again sorry if this offended anyone just curious.
  8. I feel that I value my family more because before I knew I was Aromantic I thought of them as a "filler" until I meet my romantic partner and didn't put much effort into patching up misunderstandings or giving them second chances. I also feel that it will be "freeing" to my adult self because I won't have to worry about joint accounts, love quarrels, possibly giving up a lot of time away from my passion projects to spend more time with the romantic partner.
  9. I'd prefer around 2 roommates(3 adults one apartment/different rooms) so we can split the rent and hopefully become close friends because I am guilty of often not reaching out to people regularly to sustain a friendship in real life. Setting a date, dressing up and spending money just to meet them is very bothersome to me so I'd prefer if I could be close friends with my roommates.
  10. Personally, I don't put much thought into Sexual Attraction because it doesn't really affect me nor do I think it will be useful to me in the future. Also it's much more kid friendly to explain to my future nieces and nephews!!! I wanna be the cool Aunt.?
  11. Whew!! I'm late. I'm the youngest of 3 with and age gap of 6 years from me with my eldest brother(two brothers, I'm the only sister).
  12. Well it first started as me ID as Straight cause I want to hold boys' hands(turns out it was just Sensual/Touch). Then, I identified as Bi cause I confused me admiring girls' and boys' beauty and mannerisms as Romantic attraction. Then back to Straight because little ole' me thought "Well I don't imagine myself holding hands with girls so I must be Straight". Then 2 years later here I am, finally ID as Aromantic. So in short, Heteroromantic, Biromantic, back to Heteroromantic, then finally Aromantic.
  13. If I wasn't scammed on the book "Loveless" by Alice Oseman, then I'd be reading the book by Aro Week. If I was scammed, then I would move on to PLAN B. Which is me spending most of the week in my room drawing Aro art while overdosing on caffeine(I'm not even supposed to have any).
  14. I agree completely. Though I think the concept of soulmates arose from Religious beliefs so it would be difficult to reason with them on it. You can be so alike with one person that it sort of becomes "too much". Where there is very little room to grow because there are no differing opinions or interests. But yeah, I think thinking that you only have "the one" can be and is very harmful to people. Where they worry "Oh my, was I wrong? Did I break up with "the one"? Then there is a higher likelihood for them to fall back into unhealthy relationships due to fear of losing "the one". I think it also has the possibility of pushing people to be serial daters. "Oh I clicked with them but I don't feel they are special enough to be my "one". Thank you for coming to my TED Talk, have some Internet Garlic Bread?.
  15. Hello! You can call me Aya. I'm 16 years old and I know that's a bit young to be identifying as Aromantic but my reasoning with this is that most crushes and romantic feelings start developing and showing themselves at around ages 9 to 12(pre-teen), and I've never had such feelings .I'm still open to the possibility that I'm a "late bloomer" but I'm not hopeful that'll ever happen and I've started to accept that. I can't wait to share discussions with the community and eat tons of GARLIC BREAD. Seriously though such a coincidence that I'm Aromantic and love garlic bread. Or is it that most people no matter Aro or Allo enjoy garlic bread???? ?
  16. I'm a newly discovered Aromantic and I had similar feelings to yours when I realized, they have stopped but I think they will return periodically. You have to remember this feeling not only affects Aros but Allos as well, even the ones with a loving partner and children. There is much more fulfillment in life than merely in romance and raising children. You can build your profession, focus on your passions and interests, build strong friendships, patch up familial relationships, adopt or foster animals in need, do much needed charity work and so much more. The world is simultaneously such an f'ed up place and a marvel to experience and enjoy. I believe that feeling of dread and loneliness will come back once in a while, but through acceptance and working on other areas in your life, it won't feel as intense. Hope this helped in some way. Good luck.
  17. Based on the definitions I've seen given by a lot of Aros, squishes are an intense desire to be platonically close/closer to a particular individual. But does it have to be intense to be called a squish? What if I just find the person cool and interesting and would just like to have a cup of tea with them and hopefully become friends. Does this count as a squish? Thank you in advance by the way!!! :)
  18. I'm romance favourable and repulsed. HAH, weird right? I'm repulsed by intense forms of romance and puppy love. Though I am romance favourable when it comes to romance that doesn't really look like romance. Just treating each other like friends and goof off together. None of that lovey dovey stuff.
  19. I'm curious about the frequencies of different sexualities from us aromantic folk. Feel free to discuss your answers.
  20. I'm comparing the results from this poll to the one on the AVEN which is 51%No, 27%Yes and 21%Don't Know. Also feel free to discuss your answers.
  21. I've never actually cuddled with another human yet(that I remember). But I've done so with cats and they are lovely. Of course not the same but since my love language is physical contact, I think it would be fine. Though I think I would prefer seated side hugging and hand holding than cuddling with another person. And I do very much agree with you on the topic of guys cuddling. Humans are social animals and some of us prefer touch as a way to connect. That includes guys. Coming from a culture that pretty much denies me from getting a lot of physical contact, I can somewhat relate. As where I live, hugging, if not with nuclear family can be seen as scandalous. :(
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