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  1. Naegleria fowleri
    Drawing inspiration from the pride group at my school, having low-key events/activities that may have nothing to with orientation, such as DnD, art, music, snack potluck, etc, could be a good way to draw in a range of people. Such as those who are unsure about their orientation, may be aro but don't want to admit it yet, or are romantic but want to be an ally/learn more about aromanticism. Are you thinking of making the group exclusive to aces and aros, or open to all? The pride group at my school is very inclusive (we have plenty of straight and cis members and pretty much only exclude phobic jerks) and it works well for us. Lets people join without outing themselves, and all.
  2. Naegleria fowleri

    Currently thinking about romantic people in the same manner that certain old people think of kids these days. Like: Them crazy romo-folk and their crushes. What's the matter with you people? ?

    1. Cee Fox

      Cee Fox

      Constantly.

  3. Naegleria fowleri

    Was explaining aromanticism to someone today (a stranger who overheard me talking about it with someone else) and when I explained that I don't get crushes or date or anything like that he legit asks me, "So... what are your goals then?" Lol. We had a good chat.

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    2. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      no way!  i would have been speechless.

    3. Naegleria fowleri

      Naegleria fowleri

      Right so for some reason or another I've designated myself "aro spokesperson" and so any time I get an opportunity to reasonably work aromanticism into a conversation I usually do (I suppose it helps that my family is cool with it and I've had some great responses in the past). But anyway, I find these conversations really fulfilling because when this person said, "But, everyone gets crushes," I replied with, "Well, how can you be so sure?" And I saw him slowly start to question his worldview. We kept going, he asked how did I know I wouldn't have a crush later in life? And I said, well maybe I will. But that doesn't mean I'm going to let that change the way I identify now. And I likened it to, well, how do we know a person who identifies as straight won't have a same sex attraction later in life. How can anyone really identify as anything, if we think that way? And he said he liked that way of looking at it.

      Maybe this is a university thing, but I've found a lot of people I've talked to appreciate being exposed to something new. They look at you with a sort of awe for having discovered this about yourself, in this world, and then standing up for it.

    4. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      yeah i'm in uni and i've had a few people ask (usually because of the flag sticker on my laptop) and they've been cool about it.  i was explaining split attraction to my friend and he said his ex-girlfriend was "bisexual but only wanted relationships with guys" or something and i said she was probably heteroromantic bisexual, which is the most common combination.  so yeah, i don't purposely bring it up, but i don't usually avoid it.

  4. Naegleria fowleri

    Woooo we've hit 1,000 members!!!

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      not anymore lol

  5. Naegleria fowleri
    Wow... I really like this. How long does something like that take to write?
  6. Naegleria fowleri
    I find this to be a very intriguing question too, and I didn't fill out the poll because what I really want to say is... both? Like, I don't think there was a time where I was ever romantic. But perhaps some of us are born more susceptible to becoming one thing or another, and our environment can sway in a certain direction. I've often wondered, if I'd grown up with two parents who loved each other romantically and all that stereotypical stuff, would I have ended up romantic? Maybe. Although I believe in another topic we were talking about orientations of family members, and some people did have highly romantic parents. So I dunno. I'd love it if some scientists could crack down on some research though.
  7. Naegleria fowleri

    So I got this bold idea to email my favourite author, Jodi Picoult, to ask her if she would be willing to write an aromantic character in one of her future books. I got a maybe! Essentially she said if an aromantic character fits organically into the plot of one of her books she would consider it, but she wouldn't want to shoehorn one in just to make a statement. Which is totally fair. Anyway if this ever does happen it would be huge for us because not only is Jodi a master of her craft, she's also famous. Just wanted to share!

  8. Naegleria fowleri

    Raised some awareness today! Here's the conversation I had at the kids summer camp where I work. The kids are aged 7-9 and one kid had a sticker of a boy's face on her phone.

     

    Kid 1: Why do you have a sticker of him on your phone with all those hearts around it? Do you have a crush on him?

     

    Kid 2: No. I like him but I don't have a crush on him. I just put the hearts as decoration.

     

    Me: Hey, did you guys know some people never get crushes in their whole lives?

     

    Kids: What?!!!

  9. Naegleria fowleri
    I could never picture myself sharing a bed with someone for the rest of my life ?
  10. Naegleria fowleri
    I checked short stories and other because I tend to write half-novels that I get bored of and usually don't come back to, haha. (Is that prose? I think of prose as poetry without the rigid structure.) Also songs sometimes. For anyone who wants a platform for choose your own adventure stories (which I got into because I'm a nerd for the Lifeline games) Twine is a good one: http://twinery.org/
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    Never understood why people used words like "cute" and "hot" when what they really meant was "good looking". Anyway, sometimes my Mom would find a certain actor on TV good looking and say, "Isn't he so hot?" or something to that effect. And 14ish-year-old me replied, "I don't know. I just think of boys as 'ugly' and 'not ugly'."
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    Went to my first pride today! I volunteered with the pride group from my university and there was candy and food trucks so I guess it was pretty good time ?. Someone complimented my aro pride shirt

  13. Naegleria fowleri
    Lol so I guess my attempt at attaching images to this site was a bust (they looked like pictures before I hit submit), but anyway they're all just pictures of Louise saying stuff on the episode "Bob Actually". The quotes struck a chord with me, and I'm glad that even though she kisses him at the end (it turned out Rudy like liked someone else who stood him up, and she felt bad for him), the kiss is not all that romantic, and she proceeds to slap him and tells him never to tell anyone what just happened. Classic Louise.
  14. Naegleria fowleri
    I know she's only nine but please consider Louise Belcher from Bob's Burgers as aro-spec. "Rudy like likes me, sick!" "Why would Rudy do something like this? What kind of idiot like likes someone?" Tina: Wait, Rudy likes you? Louise: Yeah, unfortunately. Tina: Oh. Don't you like Rudy? Louise: No, not like that! We have a good thing going the way it is. We're buddies. (Sigh) There's gotta be a way I can stop this. "Look, no, I get it. We live in a commercial culture. Love is in the movies, it's in all the songs, but we don't have to be pawns in the game."
  15. Naegleria fowleri

    My aro pride shirt came today! I got it from this website if anyone wants to browse the garb:

     

    https://www.lookhuman.com/

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    2. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      i have one too, also quite big.  it has a heart filled with the flag stripes.  wearing it to my first pride on sunday!  i also got a maple leaf-shaped flag sticker for my laptop (i'm canadian).   

    3. Naegleria fowleri

      Naegleria fowleri

      Yay, another Canadian! I'm from BC, wondering why it's so darn hot this far north ?. Have fun at your pride!

    4. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      thanks.  i hate the heat too, high twenties is too high.  i'm in toronto.

  16. Naegleria fowleri
    I know there's already been aromanticism/romanticism tests posted before, but I liked this one because it didn't suggest I was just one thing. Rather, it assigns probabilities to different orientations based on your answers. I also found it split up romantic and sexual attraction pretty well. Feel free to share your results. My top two suggestions were aromantic asexual (42%), and demisexual (33%), which is pretty spot on with what I've thought to date. It also said I was 0% likely a romantic sexual, lol. https://www.allthetests.com/quiz32/quiz/1434229189/Are-you-aromantic
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    I thought there was an age poll on this site somewhere but I really, really cannot find it. I think most people were late teens/early twenties.
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    I voted first person because that's the case the majority of the time, but sometimes I'm watching people I don't know from the third person and I'm not there. There's usually more than just sight and sound but less than five senses. Like colour vision, sound, and tactile senses like touch and temperature. I've been aware of my dreaming occasionally but I've never tried to control it.
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    I went to the beach yesterday and played with my mom's boyfriend's friends' kids. Watched a three-year-old gleefully discover water balloons for the first time
  20. Naegleria fowleri
    Only one copy of your body can exist at any time (ie. you must travel "through" past/future versions of yourself in order to reach your destination). Therefore the time machine is limited to the years during which the user has been/is/will be alive. You will never meet a living dinosaur. I wish I was straight (please corrupt this wish )
  21. Naegleria fowleri
    Another question for the romantic people: What does it feel like when someone is interested in you, but you aren't interested back? I've wondered if the feeling is similar to what aros experience in these situations (keeping in mind that there is wide variety among aros alone). However from what I've observed, it seems like the uninterested party can go along for the ride, just to see if anything is there (ex. They can kiss the person to see if sparks will fly). Is this a difficult thing to do? How big of a barrier is the absence of attraction at the first point of contact?
  22. Naegleria fowleri
    Most people in my life are pretty open-minded, so I've come out a lot. First I came out to my Mom, and her response was basically, "Alright, is there anything else you wanted to tell me?" Then I figured the boy I friend-zoned at prom (before I knew I was aro) deserved some sort of explanation. He was pretty understanding, although the labeling seemed to irk him. We're still good friends though. When I handed out pamphlets and chocolate during aro-spec awareness week at my school, I got responses all over the board from, "Wow, I had no idea that was a thing, that's so cool!" to, "That sounds like a psychopath!" (I had to explain to one lady that we are not soulless creatures, that we still love family and friends but just don't fall in love; after that she was more accepting.) And then there was the time I came out to a friend as aroace and she was like, "Hey me too!!!!" Anyway, this thread might help anybody looking for a way to accurately and succinctly come out to others.
  23. Naegleria fowleri
    I scored 6, with a little generosity. 3 = kinda 17 and 18 = yes (based on my platonic infatuation for a particular musician) 20, 40 and 174 = yes Alloromantics: Do you feel there is an age at which someone is "too young" to have a crush? I've heard people talk about having their first crush at age 10 or so, or realizing their sexuality before hitting high school (age 13), and my instinct was always, "What? You're too young!" However, I've also heard the term "kid crush" used when referring to the crush-like behaviours of younger children. Do you consider kid crushes to be legitimate crushes, or do they sort of "not count" because the child is too young to really know what they're feeling? Thanks for your response!
  24. Naegleria fowleri
    -In my head I want to do quasi-romantic things (sensual things?) like sit extra close with a person who's not family or lay my head on their shoulder but in real life it's like, no, no, too close. Hence why I asked my friend to slow dance with me at prom and then instantly regretted it. I don't know when a situation is going to romance-repulse me until it does -I think romance done right is kind of aborbs (especially when it's my Mom and her boyfriend leaving each other little notes) -I own a concert T-shirt that says Hopeless Romantic on it, and I wear it
  25. Naegleria fowleri
    It's not really on my bucket list. It more depends on the mood I'm in that day. So I brought up a topic a while ago called: "How has your upbringing influenced your attitude towards romance?" For me, growing up with a single mother meant I became very close to a single person, but I also tended to devalue romantic relationships. The things I would desire from a romantic relationship (ie. snuggling, sharing the important and menial events of my life, cheering each other on, emotional support) I get from my mom. However, if I were to meet someone I could bond closely with, either romantically or platonically, I could see myself sharing a life with that person. From what I've seen, a relationship doesn't survive off of romance alone. "Falling in love" is a chemical trick of the brain, it doesn't last. People stay married either out of obligation, or emotional closeness. When I used to envision myself married, I skipped the wedding, skipped the honeymoon, skipped the gooey-eyed looks, and went straight to the silent, mutual appreciation of each other's existence. You might have to ask yourself what it is you really want in a relationship, which can be complicated because relationships are so multi-faceted. But once you figure that out, you'll have a better idea of how to make life better for yourself. The power is with you.
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