draconianism

Hey! Hopefully you’ve had some help with this considering it’s been a while since you posted this but I wanted to add my experiences, plus I just made an account. I’m aegoromantic, I’ve always known I was aro but just found my micro label. I don’t ever want romance or a relationship for myself, but I’m like a “hopeless romantic” type. I enjoy reading or seeing romance in media specifically (and 99% of it is LGBT) and I get gratification from that. Like how people get the fluttery warm feelings when they have someone? I am able to feel some semblance of that from viewing it from an outsiders perspective, knowing I’m not involved. I don’t like PDA or having any romantic feelings/actions pointed at me. If I ever have any romantic fantasies, they’re exclusively with fictional characters or celebrities, strictly unattainable. I was in a relationship for 5 years and now that I’m out of it, I can see how unhappy I was. It never met my idealized version of what romance should be, of what I fantasized about because what I wanted was just a fantasy and actually being in a romantic relationship felt wrong and unsatisfying. I’d consume media and get my “romantic needs” met through that. That always left me feeling happy and fulfilled, while having a real and actual partner left me feeling lackluster and honestly quite annoyed that I had to share my life/space/etc with someone else. That’s pretty much my take and experience with romance, I hope this helps a little bit or just gives you an insight into the micro label. I’m sure there’s tons of other perspectives on it, but at least here’s mine. Good luck!