my attraction varied wildly?? at first i thought i was straight as a 'default', then a lesbian once i discovered there were orientations other than het bc at the time i identified as a girl + just?? thought girls were pretty?? and then thought i was bi/pan for a while, bc i found ppl of any/every gender cute, tho i didn't feel any actual romantic/sexual attraction. once i found the terms ace/aro, i started identifying as those!! tho occasionally i get crushes on boys, i don't really get them in the way other ppl describe