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Everything posted by DaviM703

  1. I like a lot of different shows, but a lot of my favorites are detective and cop shows. I really like the detective shows Monk and Columbo, and also The Wire. I find the mysteries interesting as well as watching how the two sides try to win against each other.
  2. I don't have so much a preferred type of music as liking individual songs, but I think a lot of what I like is modern pop, though that might be mainly because it's what I've heard the most of on the radio.
  3. I love being with friends or family mainly because I feel more supported and less alone with them. I enjoy doing fun activities with them as well as just talking to them.
  4. I really like Hershey's nuggets and also Lindor chocolate truffles. Those just have nice flavor combinations and their size makes them easy to eat for a snack.
  5. I don't have that many friends, but I have a few who are very supportive of the way I am. I think their support for me the way I am is what I appreciate most, especially in this world where so many people don't understand me and a significant number would consider me broken for not having romantic feelings.
  6. I think my favorite animal is my pet dog. In general I really like dogs and cats because they are the type of animal I can actually interact with which makes them better company for me than most other animals.
  7. It's hard to pick one favorite food because there are so many things I like. I like seafood and lots of seafood dishes, also lots of Asian food, especially noodle dishes. I don't really have a specific reason, I just like the taste and texture of those things.
  8. My favorite colors are blue and green. Blue is a nice relaxing color associated with the sky and ocean, and green is a beautiful color associated with nature and the pride color most associated with being aromantic.
  9. It's basically just a way of liking someone and feeling like you want to be closer to them, but without the desire to do anything romantic. It's usually based mostly on their personality, though you can be predisposed to get squishes mainly toward one gender. In my case it usually involves a desire to hug them as well but I don't think that's the case for everyone.
  10. There is a Facebook group called Aromantic Talk. It mainly works by someone posting something and others can comment on it. I don't think it's really a chat but maybe a chat could be created in it.
  11. That's definitely possible. I'm pretty sure I'm not totally asexual, but I'm really not interested in kissing, at least not on the mouth, for any reason. And don't feel like you have to tolerate anything that makes you uncomfortable. There are definitely people who feel the same way as you. There are whole cultures where kissing is uncommon and even that view it negatively (Source: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/some-culturally-based-differences-sexual-activity), which I think shows that kissing doesn't have to be a part of sex.
  12. It definitely sounds like you're aromantic to me. Being aromantic just means you don't have romantic feelings for real people; fantasies are something separate.
  13. I would like to be part of that. I've found that it's hard to find other aros anywhere near me and it is definitely hard to make friends in a society that values romance so much more than friendship.
  14. Another problem with many of the studies is that they only counted the people who stayed married as married, though some looked at if people had ever been married but that still doesn't account for society and the fact that what is best for one person may not be the same as for another so that if most people did what would make them happier but those who did one thing were rewarded for it and those who did the other were treated like there was something wrong with their lifestyle, that could produce different outcomes for the two groups not caused directly by relationship/marital status.
  15. The largest focus of that speech was on the studies that claim to prove being in a romantic relationship or getting married makes you happier. I pointed out that they were conducted in society rather than a controlled lab setting and compared it to doing a study of the relationship between height and happiness done in an apartment building where all the doorways have a low clearance of around 5'7" and finding that shorter people are happier without considering that maybe bumping their heads frequently is what's making taller people less happy rather than not being shorter. I also talked about how most other ways the argument that you should get married is made depend on logical fallacies and about the prevalence of amatonormativity.
  16. I can help with that. Actually, just a couple hours ago in my public speaking class I made a persuasive speech about why amatonormativity as a claim about how everyone should live is invalid. My teacher and multiple classmates told me I did really well so I think I'm going to try to start making more speeches about that in more public settings.
  17. You can identify however you feel at this time. If you feel that an identity fits you in the present, you can identify with it even if you're not sure if it will always fit you. And you can still be on the spectrum if you have some level of romantic attraction, or not. Only you can define what you are because only you know exactly what you feel.
  18. I filled out the form a few days ago but haven't gotten the questionnaires.
  19. One good one is Me, Myself, and I by G-Eazy and Bebe Rexha.
  20. Welcome Nicole! Here's some ice cream. I'm David. I'm not sure if you meant the state or the city, but I'm in New York State as well. You've come to the right place for answers about the aromantic spectrum, so I hope you enjoy the site.
  21. I tried to write a Wikipedia page, but they merged it back with romantic orientation because it didn't have enough content for them.
  22. I would recommend telling them what you are because I think it will be easier for them to accept something they have a name for and can read about online. It still took some people a while to accept that as who I really was, I think mainly because I had tried to find a romantic partner before I knew my own identity because of the messages society had sent me saying I was "supposed to" do that. Still, many people who were trying to support me went from seeing my not wanting to date as an extreme decision I had made because of rejection to understanding that romantic relationships weren't for me once they had a name for how I felt. And unless your parents can invent a device that accurately identifies everything a person is feeling somehow, they don't have the proper authority to accurately tell you how you feel, so maybe it would be a good idea to point that out to them. These are just my suggestions. Some people believe so strongly in the idea that romantic love and the desire for a romantic relationship is universal among all humans (amatonormativity) that it's really hard to convince them that anything contradictory to that is true.
  23. You can totally still be aromantic and like those things. Aromanticism is only defined by what you yourself feel for other people, not what kinds of books and movies you like or what you do or don't understand about other people. I personally don't mind if romance is involved in media that has an actual story I'm interested in, though I don't especially like extended kissing scenes but I'll watch through them to get to more stuff I'm interested in. I actually really like the show "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend," partly because it's a funny story about the worst of the types of drama I basically get to just bypass without experiencing them myself, kind of like the time when I was on a bus that got to bypass a big traffic jam by using a bus lane, and I enjoyed seeing people just sitting still in their cars as the bus went by them.
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