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  1. well, today is valentine's day, and my feelings have changed. in previous years i felt a bit lonely on valentine's day, not because i wasn't in a romantic relationship, but because i wanted to get sweets and go places with someone i was close to like others did. but this year i'm thinking that it doesn't matter that i'm not doing those things today. after all, i have all year for that to happen
  2. i have the following stim toys and jewlery: - snake twist necklace - spinner ring - infinity cube - cube with computer keys on it - tangle - die with a little die in it - mochis - click tracks fidget - pop it - interlocking metal rings - fidget spinners - silicone brush - ring with little balls on it - mesh tube with a marble in it (broken) what do you guys have?
  3. would you guys please refer to me with it/its pronouns in the comments? i use them but people don't refer to me with them often
  4. would you guys please refer to me with it/its pronouns in the comments? i use them but people don't refer to me with them often

  5. fern

    Aro Scouts!

    can i join the aro scouts? i'm greyromantic and am 17 years old
  6. i think it does fall under the aromantic spectrum. there's a term called cupioromantic, which, according to AUREA, describes a person who does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires a romantic relationship. that reminds me a bit of what you're describing
  7. i walked by some kid in the hallway at school that had a demiromantic flag patch on their jacket

  8. - L (death note) = greyromantic - papyrus (undertale) = aromantic and asexual - ryou bakura (yugioh) = demiromantic
  9. i've noticed that within the lgbtq+ community, not much attention is given to aromantic people. even less attention is given outside of it. in my homeroom there's a printout that says the A in LGBTQIA stands for "asexual" and "ally". allies aren't part of the community. aromantic people are. lots of people forget about aromanticism when they think about the community and it annoys me and i wish that that would change
  10. in the past, valentine's day has made me feel like i'm missing out by not being in a romantic relationship. if i recall correctly, hearing about people getting chocolate heart boxes and going on dates in celebration of the day made me feel a bit lonely. i don't believe i felt lonely because i wasn't in a romantic relationship, rather, i think it had to do with the fact that i wanted to get sweets and go places with someone i was close to like other people were doing, but knew that it was a romantic holiday and that my not being in a romantic relationship was causing me to miss out on such things. this upcoming valentine's day will be my first one identifying as greyromantic, and i'm curious to see if that knowledge about myself changes my feelings towards the holiday at all
  11. if i remember correctly, someone who works on the game said in a reddit post that the main character is greyromantic and nonbinary. i'm not sure how accurate that info is though
  12. i worry about that sometimes too. i'm a lesbian, and my best friend is bigender. one of their genders is demiboy, so, as i am a lesbian, by definition i would not feel romantic attraction towards them, as lesbian is non-men loving non-men, and a demiboy is someone who identifies partially as a guy. not only that, but it would be immoral for me to be romantically attracted to him, as he turned 16 in november and i will be 18 in april. despite these things being the case, i still worry sometimes that they will think i have romantic feelings for them because i compliment them a lot
  13. when i think of or see people or things that make me happy, or listen to music i enjoy, i often flap my hands, shake my fists in front of my chest, or rock back and forth. when i'm upset or overwhelmed i often do those things too, as i find that they help. i also meow sometimes, for no real reason except that i like to do so. but when i do these things i feel guilty. i feel embarrassed for flapping my hands when i think of my best friend. i feel silly for rocking back and forth when i'm arguing with my parents and i feel upset. i feel like i'm not supposed to do these things, that they're wrong of me, and i feel ashamed. i don't always feel this way. sometimes i'm okay with it. sometimes i don't criticize myself for stimming because frankly, it's not like it's a big deal. i'm not hurting anyone, and stimming is something that i enjoy. but other times i feel ashamed of myself, even though i know logically that it's a perfectly okay thing to do
  14. i don't understand why romantic love is seen as more important than platonic love. people are often expected to devote more of their time and energy to romantic relationships than platonic ones, and although friendship is important, society seems to deem romance as more so. sometimes romantic relationships work out poorly because a person in it will believe the other person spends too much time with their friends. when people are in romantic relationships, their friendships are often expected to take a backseat to that. i don't think that romance and romantic love is more important than friendship and platonic love, but lots of people do think that and i can't wrap my head around why that is
  15. i don't know how people typically make them. i just thought that the letters i saw together could make good neopronouns ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry, i know that's not very helpful
  16. fern

    aphobia

    tw: r*pe some examples i could think of are: 1. corrective r*pe done to asexual people 2. aromantic people who are allosexual being called sluts or people who only care about sex 3. asexual or aromantic people being told the only reason they're asexual or aromantic is because no one wants to be in a relationship with them
  17. some people in a debate server i'm in tried to tell me that aphobia (discrimination against asexual or aromantic people) isn't real. i know they're wrong, but i was having trouble coming up with many examples of aphobia to prove it to them. if you guys could give me some examples of discrimination faced by people who are asexual or aromantic or who are on the asexual or aromantic spectrum, i'd appreciate it
  18. i made some neopronouns a few months ago. they are le/ler/lier/liers/lerself le is pronounced the same way as he, ler is pronounced like learn but without the n, and lier is pronounced leeair. i think the other two are self-explanatory but if not lmk here's the pronouns page
  19. i made some neopronouns a few months ago. they are le/ler/lier/liers/lerself

    le is pronounced the same way as he, ler is pronounced like learn but without the n, and lier is pronounced leeair. i think the other two are self-explanatory but if not lmk

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    2. fern

      fern

      @Burgundy Ashe "le" rhymes with "see", "ler" rhymes with "her", "lier" and "liers" rhyme with "fear" and "fears" and "lerself" rhymes with "herself" 

    3. Just a Bear

      Just a Bear

      I like it!

       

    4. fern
  20. i’m not a huge fan of the original ambiamorous flag, so i decided to make my own version. the colors are quite similar, but there aren’t as many as there are on the original
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