When searching for an answer one can't just look for the answer one wants to hear. I admit I read what you all said and wanted to reject it as it was not the story I was looking for...but you are right. I don't know for sure if she is aromantic but regardless I need to let her make her decision and focus on healing. Our song may not be over but I can't force, manipulate or coerce her to joining in unless she wants to. So yah...Im most definitely a romantic and find even the idea of aromantiscm as alien. I wasn't even aware that people could be that way until I tried to understand where she is coming from. A good reminder that polarized thinking is usually erroneous.