Joey

So, something that I've been struggling with for a while. I'm poly, aro, and have a (ace) QPP. I really don't want to have a romantic relationship, but I'm not ace, and very much want to have a FWB. What is your advice for approaching that with people? I'd only really want to have sex with someone that I already know somewhat, but I definitely find complete strangers attractive. I don't think that going up to people and saying "hey, want to hang out for a bit and see if we'd make good friends, and then perhaps proceed to being FWB? here's my number" would go over well, lmao. On the other hand, by the time I'm friends with someone, it feels really awkward and terrifying to tell them that you're sexually attracted to them? Basically, please send help, I have no idea what I'm doing. For some social context, I'm 19 and going to college in a fairly queer-friendly city and campus. I hope this makes sense, thanks!

Absolutely, chosen family is the best! Having a safe space and chosen connections are important. Thanks for the reply!

Hey all, I'm Joey! I'm bisexual, genderqueer, trans, and aro, and use they/them or he/him pronouns. I've been identifying as aro for about 2 years now. I'm currently trying to branch out in life and make new connections, friends, and relationships, and see what does and doesn't work for me. I'm really looking to talk to people and see what other aro-spec people's experiences (in any aspect of life) have been! I'd especially love to connect with other alloaro people, just because navigating physical intimacy with people while being aro is entirely new footing for me. I'm 19, currently in college and working part-time retail, and creating art is one of my very favorite things. Looking forward to making some new friends! :)