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LifezVictory

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  1. It’s been forever and a day since I’ve visited these forums, but I’m coming back strong. I was just coming out of the shower and getting dressed when my mind began to wonder, as it does. And I remembered a video I found while browsing TV Tropes. It’s a song from Sesame Street called Five Purple Conkers. It’s about the titular creatures hanging out together in various places, while being killed off one by one. Yeah, you read that right. Who knew a segment of Sesame Street could be so brutal? Except, it’s not quite as straight forward as that. Normally songs of this nature would keep going until one remained, like some G-rated Hunger Games. But this song stops when there are two Conkers left. They get married, have a baby, and all is well. Now, look. I’m not so naive to believe that this was intentional, but the more I think about it the more I realize that this is the perfect example of how many allos view relationships. In the song, the three less fortunate Conkers are taken out fairly quickly, with very little fanfare. If you were just listening to the song and didn’t watch the animation, you wouldn’t even know that’s what was happening The singer is very quick to gloss over the carnage. He just says that one swam away,one flew away and one got stuck. Very innocent compared to what actually happened. However, the narrator is very eager to tell about how the two remaining Conkers were ‘living in harmony,’ and how they and their yellow honker baby ‘loved one another for they were a family.’ And this is the very definition of amatonormativity. Your friends are getting more distant and drifting away from you? Well that doesn’t matter as long as you have a romantic partner and/or children in your life.
  2. When I first saw how the ending of Frisk's and Papyrus's date went and they ended up being friends, I was so happy. This was before I learned I was aroace and it struck every me as weird why I loved it so much. But now, ✨I know.✨
  3. I'd get sad when characters got together because I knew they wouldn't spend as much time with their friends and family. Also, I always hated the phrases "just friends" and "more than friends" since the first time I ever heard them.
  4. There have been times when characters in stuff I read or watch get together and people are like "I knew it! There was so much subtext and chemistry!" But to me it felt like it happened out of nowhere, and I thought it was just people's tendency to romantically ship everyone before it became canon.
  5. I thought about watching this movie, but now I don’t think I will. Also, I hate how they changed Lake’s pronouns to she/her in the movie, or so I’ve heard.
  6. I really like how a lot of apps are adding pronoun fields now. Apple added one in their contacts app in IOS 17, and I noticed Discord has one too, although I don’t know how long ago that was and I’m too lazy to look it up. I think this is a step in the right direction, and hopefully this’ll help to normalize asking about pronouns and the gender spectrum as a whole.

    1. dewy

      dewy

      Yeah I've been seeing more people add pronouns to their about including cis people and I like how it helps normalize it. Me and a lot of other trans people have issues where we feel like we stick out like a sore thumb when sharing pronouns so it's good to see sharing them is becoming more common.

  7. I really don’t like matchmaking shows. They feel sort of like Amatonormativity, The Show.  Big squick for me.

    Mom left the TV on when she went outside, and one of them came on. I heard it while I was walking to the living room to get a drink. I finished pouring my drink, and I heard a man on the TV say something like: “The ones who make it will get a surprise visit in their homes!”

    I noped out. I grabbed my phone and drink (because priorities) and booked it back to my room. 

     

  8. Update: Okay so I thought about it, and I realized that I don't think I'm actually a paragirl. I'm now pretty sure that I'm fully female, but just gender non-conforming. This feels like a much better fit to be honest.
  9. Update: I think I mit be genderflux, as well. Because right now, I don't think I'd want to be called they/them. I'll have to think about this more.
  10. Hi. I was wondering if there might be anything that can be done to make this site easier to navigate with a screenreader? It works okay already, but it can be a bit confusing to navigate at times. Mostly because a lot of the links don't seem to have labels. Tbh I have no idea how to fix that, but I still think it is a good thing to keep in mind.
  11. I recently posted a status about my pronoun changes, and decided to look up a label that might fit, and I've decided that the best one for me would be a paragirl. It's sort of like a demigirl, but instead of identifying as about half female it's like 90 percent. I think it explains how I mostly want to use she/her pronouns but also like they/them, plus the fact that I've always been kind of a tomboy. I don't know if I'm going to tell anyone IRL. Definitely not my grandparents but my mom might understand. But since I don't feel dysphoria when still describing myself as a girl and using she/her mostly, I don't really think I need to and might only say something when or if it comes up.
  12. Hey. So like, it’s been a while since I’ve been on this sight, and the first thing i did when I came back is changed some things on my profile, and now I’m going to explain the reason for said changes because I feel like I need to get them off my chest.

    The first time I ever questioned my gender was when I was an innocent four-year-old. It was just a little passing thought: would I want to be a boy instead of a girl if I could? The thought made me uncomfortable even though I enjoyed doing things that boys liked to do, such as getting dirty and playing with cars, more than things that were traditionally girly. Pink was never my favorite, and Barbie bored me. But I still liked being a girl.

    It wouldn’t be until a few years later when I had access to the internet that I learned what transgender meant. And even though I’d been raised in a mostly conservative Christian invironment, my only thought was: eh, that makes sense. I mean I’ll admit, I found it a little weird at first, not identifying with the gender you were born as, but it made sense to me. Because why wouldn’t that be a thing? After all I did have that thought when I was four but decided I liked being a girl, so why wouldn’t some people have reacted differently? People are different, after all.

    Then later, I learned that there were other gender identities other than male or female, and again, it just made sense. I did wonder what that ‘other’ option was for on some forms I’d encountered that asked about someone’s gender, and now when i encounter forms with only male or female as an option, it feels constricting.

    Now with my discovery of gender out of the way, we get to my current situation. See, I’d always been happy being a girl, albeit not the most feminine of girls. A tomboy. But one night a year or so ago when I was trying to go to sleep, I thought about what it would feel like if someone referred to me with pronouns other than she/her. Would it make me mad? Would it disgust me? So I tried doing it to myself. First I tried he/him: his name is Zoe. That didn’t make me feel disgusted per se, but it weirded me out and I decided fairly quickly I’d rather not have someone call me that. Then I tried they/them: their name is Zoe. And when I did that, a strange feeling went over me.

    It was like riding The Great Tree Swing at Dollywood, one of my favorite rides there. It felt thrilling. But that also came with emotions that I’d rather not unpack given that it was the middle of the night.

    I didn’t think about it again until today, when I came across the Pronoun Dressing Room, and for craps and giggles, i decided to try to refer to myself as they/them since I’d only done it in my head before this point, and it felt the same, if not better than when I had. But I still felt like a girl, and still liked she/her pronouns too. So I felt and still sort of feel like I shouldn’t use they/them because I’m not non-binary, at least, not mostly.

    So I asked my real non-binary friend about it. They used to go by she/they themself, but now only use they/them. They told me that i was probably on the non-binary spectrum, and at the moment, I’m thinking that i might be a Demigirl. But for now, I’m just going to try using she/they online and see how it goes.

  13. Do you know what would fix these problems? If people communicated, and they were upfront about their intentions. You know, instead of expecting people will just read their minds and understand. It’s the thing that really annoys me about allos.
  14. Hello. Could someone do me a huge favor, and let the devs of the site Acebook.net know that their captcha is inaccessible with screenreaders? I would let them know myself, but you need to fill out a captcha to submit feedback! This is very frustrating!

    1. Ikarus

      Ikarus

      I sent a msg to support for you! 
      I will tell u if they respond to me.

      They might have questions for you that I can’t answer so ill just act as the middleman in that case. 
       

       

  15. 25325FF1-4E99-4698-A358-518D366081F0.png.9cecc6d79160bdc3786c2850dd399767.pngI wasn't sure where I should post this, so I thought it'd be best to just make it a status update.

    1. Arsenic

      Arsenic

      Wooowww... It is true that an image says more than 1000 words... This is a very good example of how amatonormativity works. You could try to post this in the forum "aromanticism", there will be more visible than here, and I think that more people should see this.

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    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

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    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

  18.  

    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

  19.  

    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

  20.  

    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

  21.  

    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

  22.  

    Hi everyone, this is Zoe here to wish you a merry Christmas, happy holidays and happy new year!

    I have recently learned from my friends over on Discord that the A-Cafe beta will be moved from January 1 to March 1. I’m a bit disappointed by this, but i understand why they did it. this is quite a large project and quite revolutionary to the aspec community as a whole in my opinion, and they need to be sure everything is done right.

    1. nisse

      nisse

      i'm a few days late, but happy holidays Zoe! 

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