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aro_elise

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  1. i have a squish on this guy i hooked up with and i have the classic 'what if it's actually a crush tho?' doubt.  Disaster Aro vibes

  2. there's this aro guy on youtube who talks about his experiences being aro but not ace (he's straight) and has talked about straight privilege in the aro community and used his privilege to advocate for others and talks about aro experiences and i have the biggest sexual crush on him omfg ?

  3. there's this aro guy on youtube who talks about his experiences being aro but not ace (he's straight) and has talked about straight privilege in the aro community and used his privilege to advocate for others and talks about aro experiences and i have the biggest sexual crush on him omfg ?

  4. i have such an aro crush (squish + sexual attraction--it's gonna catch on), it's this guy at my cottage, like the town, i liked him last summer and now that i'm seeing him again it's back.  the thing is, shooting your shot up here is so high stakes, everyone would get wind of it if i even looked at him a certain way.  but i want to...next summer.  i'm playing the long game.  can my aro allos relate or do i need to woman up?

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      aha i'll think about it, maybe i can rope my friend into joining in, you know, moral support.

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  5. i have such an aro crush (squish + sexual attraction--it's gonna catch on), it's this guy at my cottage, like the town, i liked him last summer and now that i'm seeing him again it's back.  the thing is, shooting your shot up here is so high stakes, everyone would get wind of it if i even looked at him a certain way.  but i want to...next summer.  i'm playing the long game.  can my aro allos relate or do i need to woman up?

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      i've been coming up with all these ideas, like taking a private tennis lesson with him, but i'm like, do i really want to start off by sweating, demonstrating my inferior skills, and paying him?  no.  i figure i'll just make conversation, eventually tell him i think he's cute, and then if it doesn't work out, just not be seen in this town for a couple years. ?  for now i can practice with guys at home, where i can just disappear into the millions of people--the exact opposite situation to this one.  props to you for going for it.

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  6. Anyone know of any good aro songs? 

  7. i'm 22 now!  i guess i've known i'm aro for about 5 years...it feels like ages.  

  8. This is personal but I had sex for the first time (with my ex-bf and current friend, who knows I’m aro), and later when we were going to sleep he put his hand on my waist and kissed my shoulder and I thought ‘yeah, this isn’t working for me’.  I had a feeling this is where split attraction would get tricky.  I hope it gets easier. 

  9. Whenever I have a conversation about aromanticism with one of the friends I am out to, she always says that many people from our generation (millennials) do not have a partner and that I am thus not that different from everyone else. Apart from the fact that it is not true, I get that she just wants to make sure that I do not feel like I am weird but it feels so incredibly invalidating everytime she says it. It feels like she just completely disregards the struggles I have had (and still) have when it comes to accepting my aroness. 

  10. Whenever I have a conversation about aromanticism with one of the friends I am out to, she always says that many people from our generation (millennials) do not have a partner and that I am thus not that different from everyone else. Apart from the fact that it is not true, I get that she just wants to make sure that I do not feel like I am weird but it feels so incredibly invalidating everytime she says it. It feels like she just completely disregards the struggles I have had (and still) have when it comes to accepting my aroness. 

  11. Today I was called disgusting for not experiencing any romantic attraction to those I'd have sex with by a friend :')

  12. I've started just to shrug and say queersexual for my sexual attraction. Technically speaking I'm heterosexual but my aesthetic attraction is seriously homo-leaning that causes a certain amount of chaos, so much so that at one point I thought I was gay. Unless anyone knows a better descriptor! I'm definitely aromantic though, no doubts about that!

  13. I'm feeling a lot more confident in my aromanticism. I'm still not totally sure, but I think I'm ready to break up with my girlfriend... wish me luck! :aroicecream:

  14. I recently met someone and we get along rather well, apart from the fact that she is so frickin romance oriented. She is always looking for a relationship and is somehow always in love. 

     

    About a week ago we were playing 'would you rather' with a couple of friends (including her) and I got the question 'would you rather never have sex again or would you rather never find true love?'. Well for my aromantic bisexual (and virgin but hey I really want to have sex) ass that was an easy answer, but she then gave me a 30 min lecture about why true love was the best thing in the entire world and that it was incredibly sad that I would pick something as horrible as sex over the amazing concept of true romantic love. I am still annoyed by it

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      yeah, it happens and it's annoying.  like, you're not telling her that romantic love shouldn't be a part of her life; why does she need to tell you it should be part of yours?  also, the question wasn't "what one thing in the world matters to you: sex or romance?"  just because you're interested in one and not the other doesn't mean you don't have love or any other wonderful things in your life.  if that's what your friend--or anyone--thinks, i find that "incredibly sad".

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  15. me: damn he's cute

    my self-doubt: must be a crush

    me: lmao as if 

  16. not going to pride this year ?  i'm working, and i have no one to go with.  are you guys going?

  17. OMG I FORGOT. FEBRUARY 15th WAS SINGLES AWARENESS DAY. Happy Belated Singles Awareness Day everyone!

  18. So I basically described feeling aromantic to my mom but didn't tell her I'm aromantic. I was like I wouldn't mind dating but I don't feel a need to I'm okay without dating and she was like yeah that makes sense but knowing her if I said I'm aromantic she would just tell me I have to wait for the right person and that I'm still young so it was an odd situation

  19. I’ve noticed that the color green seems really appealing to me now lol. I wonder if it’s a subconscious thing because I’ve finally accepted my aro-ness. 

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      it's tied into a few things for me.

      -i'm aro

      -my birthstone is emerald (may)

      -i'm in slytherin

      -i'm vegan

       

      and i do just like it as a colour.

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  20. Was explaining aromanticism to someone today (a stranger who overheard me talking about it with someone else) and when I explained that I don't get crushes or date or anything like that he legit asks me, "So... what are your goals then?" Lol. We had a good chat.

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      yeah i'm in uni and i've had a few people ask (usually because of the flag sticker on my laptop) and they've been cool about it.  i was explaining split attraction to my friend and he said his ex-girlfriend was "bisexual but only wanted relationships with guys" or something and i said she was probably heteroromantic bisexual, which is the most common combination.  so yeah, i don't purposely bring it up, but i don't usually avoid it.

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  21. Was explaining aromanticism to someone today (a stranger who overheard me talking about it with someone else) and when I explained that I don't get crushes or date or anything like that he legit asks me, "So... what are your goals then?" Lol. We had a good chat.

  22. Woooo we've hit 1,000 members!!!

  23. off topic but after i relapsed with self harm i asked my roommate to take my blades (and the one from the blender, in case).  it was uncomfortable but i'm kind of proud of myself.  you have to make deliberate decisions to heal.

  24. There’s a person I wanna be friends with but idk how to do that 

  25. just btw, i'll gladly answer pretty much any question you have for me, whether apropos of something i wrote or of nothing.  i may not be thrilled with everything allos ask me, but i know you guys are always motivated by genuine interest and open-mindedness and i love talking to you.

    1. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      thanks, both of you.  (ahh i haven't been on in a while!)  i've enjoyed it, too.  i do follow a few aro blogs on tumblr.

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