aro_elise

i had a dream my best friend and i were married platonically.  it was cute but i don't actually want to. 

lmao i took an aro survey and the options for sexual orientation were lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, and other.  so that's the first and probably last time i've checked 'other' for my sexual orientation and a listed option for my romantic orientation.

today i met up with 4 people from a group for child-free women in my city and i mentioned i'm aro (i wanted to talk about amatonormativity and relationship anarchy at that point in the conversation) and it went well.  one of them had just days ago learned about aromanticism and listened to podcasts because she was curious about it, and she asked me a few things.  so that was nice.

just saw a tumblr post which called being allo aro/allo ace "none pizza with left attraction".  amazing

just allo aro things: i was taking a survey about female sexuality and media, and i got to the last page which was personal agree/disagree statements, and several were n/a because of my aromanticism so i couldn't finish it.  

so i'm "talking to" this guy (i hate that term but idk what else to say lol) and it came up that i'm aro and he was super cool about it (he's familiar with it) and he seems super cool in general.  so that's nice

so i consistently get hangovers now when i have several drinks.  i didn't used to.  and they suck so i'm going to try limiting myself to one drink in an evening (which will also save money).  realistically i'll probably have 2 sometimes but yeah that's my boring update

i have a date on friday, my first one since with my high school bf (the other times i've hooked up, we just met up at my or their place) so yeah i'm nervous.  he seems cool though.  and yes i've made it clear i want to keep it casual or however the allos phrase it.  anyway...that's my life update

i know it’s 2023 and i’m aro, but i’d marry 1980s dana carvey (kidding but like…barely)

my best friend got me pink tulips since she won't be home tomorrow (valentine's day) 💗

my best friend cried because the guy she's been hooking up with for just a few months isn't sure he wants to date her (she wasn't either until recently!) and i expressed sympathy but...you know what i was thinking :/

as i reclined on the sofa in a black maxi dress with f scott fitzgerald's 'the last tycoon' in one hand and a martini in the other while my best friend cooked dinner, i was the picture of sophistication...if you ignore the fact that two hours prior i was still asleep.  (we decided to stay in for new year's and had a lovely night.)

review of the national ballet of canada's the nutcracker: 5 stars

i love my best friend (roommate) but she has friends over and she's been talking for ages about the guy she's seeing and idk how they haven't left lol, also the stuff they're all saying is pretty incomprehensible.  i do think she purposely spares me this stuff for the most part

my hold on 'loveless' has come in!  just finishing 'frankenstein' and looking forward to starting

just watched love with the proper stranger (1963) and a character differentiated "sexual attraction," "romance," and "love" (in an explanation of how only the last is a good reason to marry someone).  i was impressed.  (although despite the movie being about a single woman planning to get an abortion, they don't say that word, nor even "pregnant".  so yeah, the old days.)

thinking about the time someone tried to compliment my appearance by saying "whoever's girlfriend you are is lucky".  wild

so i'm in a facebook group for women in my city to like, make friends/do stuff together, and someone posts that she's "seeking some successful ladies who are in happy, healthy relationships and looking to expand their social circle" and i'm like, ??  why do they have to be in relationships?  like yeah you're free to pick the criteria for your own friendships; i just...don't understand.

my best friend and i sometimes hang out with these other 2 girls and in the group chat one girl said that the guy she's been seeing is now her bf and the other girl said she should "spread that (success in getting a partner) to the rest of us" and i'm thinking, speak for yourself lol

my best friend is seeing this guy who lives kind of far away so they agreed to "keep it casual" but she's sure she's going to "catch feelings" and whenever she talks about it i have no idea what to say (she knows)

lmao someone emailed me and addressed me as luna, then sent a follow-up email apologizing for the wrong name but ironically addressed that one to elsie.  well, she's getting closer.

*mildly nsfw* guys i'm cursed.  ok so last month i was supposed to have these guys over for a threesome and got ghosted (we got as far as agreeing on a day--last thing i said was a time, no response).  then a platonic date to a concert ghosted me (i had an amazing time anyway, i usually go alone).  and finally this guy and i had actually agreed to meet at this bar tonight (hookup implied) and he stood me up.  i hope it's true that things come in threes and not more.

when my friends are talking about dating and i have nothing to say for 20 minutes

i just went out with some new friends (some from bumble bff) and someone asked everyone like how important sex was to us in a relationship and i said, well i don't date, and after a couple follow-up questions, one girl asked "are you ace?" and i said "aro" and she understood.  i was like, cool.  i really liked her, i think we're going to hang out again.

bro i have a huge squish, you know the ones that lowkey make you question your aromanticism, and it's on a youtuber lol this takes me back