aro_elise

i might be going to a seminar on platonic affection and love languages!  i just saw it on fb.  in the description they didn't mention aromanticism but they did mention amatonormativity; it sounds cool.

i think i have a squish on a guy in my class.  i noticed him last year but we didn't really talk until now.

in conversation, my coworker said she didn't want to assume i wanted to marry a man, so i said "i don't want to marry anyone, but i like guys."  how's that for a vague but accurate summary of my orientation?  on the spot, too.

it's aromantic awareness week! 

just aesthetic attraction things: i saw a gorgeous woman at a party and said to my mom "she's so pretty!"  though i've told her i'm definitely not, she may think i'm bisexual.  it's far from the first time i've observed a lovely lady.  ?  but wow, she sure was.

just thinking about if i didn't know i was aro, how unhappy i'd be.  this community saved me.

me: damn he's cute

my self-doubt: must be a crush

me: lmao as if 

my friend (possibly ace-spec) asked about different types of attraction and i explained them and QPRs.  ?

my friend came out as asexual (i knew she was questioning) and our friend grilled her about it and i tried to have her back without speaking for her.  i just know it's not as easy to explain and stuff in the beginning.  

my lecture focused on queer theory today, and during discussion, i threw in a casual reference to romantic orientation by saying "cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic".  i also included a line about my aromanticism in the brief reflection we had to hand in.  just sneaking stuff in there. 

not going to pride this year ?  i'm working, and i have no one to go with.  are you guys going?

there's a cute guy in my class but i'm not about to just talk to him, you know? 

This is personal but I had sex for the first time (with my ex-bf and current friend, who knows I’m aro), and later when we were going to sleep he put his hand on my waist and kissed my shoulder and I thought ‘yeah, this isn’t working for me’.  I had a feeling this is where split attraction would get tricky.  I hope it gets easier. 

*mildly nsfw* guys i'm cursed.  ok so last month i was supposed to have these guys over for a threesome and got ghosted (we got as far as agreeing on a day--last thing i said was a time, no response).  then a platonic date to a concert ghosted me (i had an amazing time anyway, i usually go alone).  and finally this guy and i had actually agreed to meet at this bar tonight (hookup implied) and he stood me up.  i hope it's true that things come in threes and not more.

after my coworker talked about being gay, i felt comfortable talking about being aro and she seemed to accept it, yay.  i haven't mentioned it to any other coworkers, but to a few, when it's come up, i've said i'm not getting married (or having kids), and i believe i've used one of those evasive phrases like "i'm not a relationship person" ?

as i reclined on the sofa in a black maxi dress with f scott fitzgerald's 'the last tycoon' in one hand and a martini in the other while my best friend cooked dinner, i was the picture of sophistication...if you ignore the fact that two hours prior i was still asleep.  (we decided to stay in for new year's and had a lovely night.)

bro i have a huge squish, you know the ones that lowkey make you question your aromanticism, and it's on a youtuber lol this takes me back

casually came out to a coworker today when she was talking about being ace

i find myself thinking i'd like to meet a guy...exactly what sort of relationship i want, i don't know, but i've been single for almost 3 years and, well, if nothing else it would stir up some drama in my life. ?‍♀️

i had a dream my best friend and i were married platonically.  it was cute but i don't actually want to. 

i have a date on friday, my first one since with my high school bf (the other times i've hooked up, we just met up at my or their place) so yeah i'm nervous.  he seems cool though.  and yes i've made it clear i want to keep it casual or however the allos phrase it.  anyway...that's my life update

i have a squish on this guy i hooked up with and i have the classic 'what if it's actually a crush tho?' doubt.  Disaster Aro vibes

i have such an aro crush (squish + sexual attraction--it's gonna catch on), it's this guy at my cottage, like the town, i liked him last summer and now that i'm seeing him again it's back.  the thing is, shooting your shot up here is so high stakes, everyone would get wind of it if i even looked at him a certain way.  but i want to...next summer.  i'm playing the long game.  can my aro allos relate or do i need to woman up?

i just took a survey for a-spec people and a question was 'do you have a community, either online or in person, that you feel loves, respects, and understands you?' and i immediately thought of you guys and answered 'yes' so thanks ?

i just went out with some new friends (some from bumble bff) and someone asked everyone like how important sex was to us in a relationship and i said, well i don't date, and after a couple follow-up questions, one girl asked "are you ace?" and i said "aro" and she understood.  i was like, cool.  i really liked her, i think we're going to hang out again.