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I broke my headphone. I dropped it on the floor and now it fucking broke I might be able to fix it idk 🥲
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oh man, get this. i got airpods for christmas. my dad warned me to be careful, like not to put them in while walking over a grate or anything. so on december 30th, i'm standing on the sidewalk waiting for the light to change, it's starting to rain, so i put my hood up, which causes one airpod to fly out onto the street and get run over. i don't think that was me being careless, that was just bad luck! anyway, my dad very generously got me a new pair and i've kept them safe .
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so i'm "talking to" this guy (i hate that term but idk what else to say lol) and it came up that i'm aro and he was super cool about it (he's familiar with it) and he seems super cool in general. so that's nice
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i know! he's bi, maybe that has something to do with it? actually relatively recently i had a similarly chill experience, it was a group of people, some guy asked everyone like "how important to you is sex in a relationship?" and of course that didn't make sense to me, i was like "i wouldn't be in a relationship" and this girl asked me "are you ace?" and i replied "aro" and she said "cool" and that was it. she's also bi.
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i have a date on friday, my first one since with my high school bf (the other times i've hooked up, we just met up at my or their place) so yeah i'm nervous. he seems cool though. and yes i've made it clear i want to keep it casual or however the allos phrase it. anyway...that's my life update
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Happy Valentine’s Day, fellow aros!!! Remember to treat yourself today! Also, just out of curiosity, are there any cool differences of the celebration of Valentine’s Day that you know of? (I live in the states)
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i'm half-estonian, and in estonia the 14th is sõbrapäev: friends' day. (it was inspired there by the finnish equivalent. apparently, some finnish students wear red if they're in a relationship and green if they're single, lol too perfect.) platonic, familial, and romantic love are all celebrated, but the point of the holiday is that friendship is just as important, rather than it being an afterthought or something only single people celebrate. so yeah, estonians rock.
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my best friend got me pink tulips since she won't be home tomorrow (valentine's day) 💗
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i love my best friend (roommate) but she has friends over and she's been talking for ages about the guy she's seeing and idk how they haven't left lol, also the stuff they're all saying is pretty incomprehensible. i do think she purposely spares me this stuff for the most part
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relatable! once when we were with a couple other friends (who don't know i'm aro) talking about the guy one of them's dating i said quietly to my best friend "it's like you're speaking a different language". just so boring and confusing lol but i'm sure not everything i talk about is interesting to everyone either.
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is it weird that for like 10 years i thought pigeon was spelled pidgeon
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so i'm in a facebook group for women in my city to like, make friends/do stuff together, and someone posts that she's "seeking some successful ladies who are in happy, healthy relationships and looking to expand their social circle" and i'm like, ?? why do they have to be in relationships? like yeah you're free to pick the criteria for your own friendships; i just...don't understand.
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i started re-watching good omens today and my parents saw me watching it and their first thought was "why is adam and eve black?"
like how do i answer that f*cking question
i tried to tell them that it doesn't f*cking matter what coor skin they have but my parents went on about how the bible depicts them as white
like gurl they only show up for one scene i dont get ur deal
it's just adam and eve bro
whats even funnier is immediately after that they saw aziraphale and crowley and were like "see? they're white." and i think my brain basically reacted like "💀"
what the fuck dawg lemme enjoy my gay celestial being show in peace like i have the first 8 times
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*mildly nsfw* guys i'm cursed. ok so last month i was supposed to have these guys over for a threesome and got ghosted (we got as far as agreeing on a day--last thing i said was a time, no response). then a platonic date to a concert ghosted me (i had an amazing time anyway, i usually go alone). and finally this guy and i had actually agreed to meet at this bar tonight (hookup implied) and he stood me up. i hope it's true that things come in threes and not more.
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i'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you didn't mean to sound critical of me when it's clearly the other people who behaved rudely. i believe i take rejection better than the vast majority of people--for instance, if i asked someone to do something with me and they said no, i would accept it without a second thought--but to say yes, even to be the one to ask me, to show enthusiasm, to make the commitment, and then disappear without a trace, is simply rude. four people in a row (one was a woman btw). the point isn't that the planned activities didn't happen, but that they were planned. again, if you don't want to do something, don't suggest/agree to it. if you do and then change your mind, text me. i'm not in deep distress lol but i am disappointed by the seemingly universal lack of basic manners and i don't think that makes me unreasonable. my friends agree. and i certainly don't blame myself. now i've said everything about it that i'd like to, and more.
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*mildly nsfw* guys i'm cursed. ok so last month i was supposed to have these guys over for a threesome and got ghosted (we got as far as agreeing on a day--last thing i said was a time, no response). then a platonic date to a concert ghosted me (i had an amazing time anyway, i usually go alone). and finally this guy and i had actually agreed to meet at this bar tonight (hookup implied) and he stood me up. i hope it's true that things come in threes and not more.
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*mildly nsfw* guys i'm cursed. ok so last month i was supposed to have these guys over for a threesome and got ghosted (we got as far as agreeing on a day--last thing i said was a time, no response). then a platonic date to a concert ghosted me (i had an amazing time anyway, i usually go alone). and finally this guy and i had actually agreed to meet at this bar tonight (hookup implied) and he stood me up. i hope it's true that things come in threes and not more.
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dont you hate it when you ordered 2 books from your library (they're in a series) and the 2nd book comes earlier than the first?
the first hasn't arrived yet but the 2nd has
1st one is still in transit like wtf
it's both or nothing tpl, both or nothing
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when my friends are talking about dating and i have nothing to say for 20 minutes
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bro i have a huge squish, you know the ones that lowkey make you question your aromanticism, and it's on a youtuber lol this takes me back
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bro i have a huge squish, you know the ones that lowkey make you question your aromanticism, and it's on a youtuber lol this takes me back
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Question for those of you who Kiss People (whether or not you like kissing lol)-
As an aromantic/aro-spec person, is it? Nice??
Idk I’ve just been kinda wanting to try and kiss someone recently, but if I think about it for too long I get super grossed out lmao. I’d like some perspectives from y’all, if you’ve kissed someone and how it made you feel as aro(spec) people. All of my friends are very much Into kissing people and also Not super aromantic sooo their perspectives aren’t super helpful.
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Today a person from this hang out club I go to was like "I have a boyfriend" (it was related to what we were doin btw) and then for a sec i can hardly believe that
she adds "we've been dating for a year now" and im like "You guys date people?"
It's scary how strange ppl are
She's my age, and she's dated someone
I am also her age and guess what I want? Friends! Many friends. Besties in fact.
I am literally only in gr9
ppl in gr9 date each other-
I am finding that very hard to grasp atm
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yeah they did when i was in grade 9 too, crazy, right? i had an iconic Big Aro Moment then (long before i knew) when my friend and i both found our classmate attractive and she ended up dating him, and she and another friend of mine each texted me worried i'd be upset or something and i was like ?? why would i care. lol good times
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the mood for tonight: wanting a fwb. like i want to go on little weekend vacations.
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@MulticulturalFarmer just noticed this. i'm not sure there's a best way, and as for the other question, whatever works for the people involved. i've only had one fwb, from tinder, classic. we had sex on the first "date" or whatever you want to call it--we didn't know then whether we'd continue to see each other (and i've had hookups where we didn't) but obviously in this case we did. when we're comfortable with each other and want it, i figure why wait, but everyone's different. mutual attraction with an existing friend could also lead to adding a sexual component to the relationship, but i can see where that might be more high-stakes. i mean, the same ways you meet people to date--pretty much anywhere--just be clear about what you're looking for.
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aroallos are fucking excellent, the absolute backbone of the community it feels like sometimes
i'm a wee bit tipsy but i mean it with all my bones
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wow, I've been here a year
doesn't feel like it, who took the time away?
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Today is the one year anniversary of figuring out I am Aromantic. Huzzah! ???
I didn't think that I would be spending me first year as realizing I'm aro and being proud of it would be spent at home or mostly confined to my college dorm room ... but uh, 2020 was built different to say the least.
I am happy to be more in touch with myself and to know that I am not broken. I don't have trust issues for no reason. I don't have intimacy issues for no reason. I am not unfeeling for no reason. I am just Aromantic. I don't do the romance thing. There is no reason for it. Its just the way I am.
While I figured out the Aro thing, the thing I'm questioning is whether I am lithromantic/akoi(ne)romantic or if it was internalized amatonormativity (f*ck me, right?) at odds with my aversion to romance. And being home during a pandemic has not helped me figure that out. So, I'll figure that out once I can go outside and interact with people with out fear of catching a deadly virus or spreading it to my family. For now, I just vibe with my friends online and keeping finding more aro content online.
Cheers! ???
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I am aromantic, I don't really like children, I have almost no mother instincts and am just my best self on my own. I think that means I'm more than ready to be a vodka aunt, just with science and books. Actually, I'll take the alcohol too.
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It has taken me a very long time, but I think I've finally accepted myself as aro. I no longer look at my label with doubt and sadness, but with genuine pride. I have to thank this community for being so diverse and welcoming! I've always been supportive of acearo rights, yet discovering that I was apart of you all along was admittingly frightening. But being aro won't stop me from being happy, in fact I think I am now happier with myself this way. Overall, thank you.
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so identity question. does anyone else ever hear love songs and fantasize about singing them to their future spouse and getting kind of teared up? also if this definitely does not sound like an arospec thing let me know, i definitely will not take it as invalidating.
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