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Anyone else getting "[[Template forums/front/forums/topicRowSnippet is throwing an error. This theme may be out of date. Run the support tool in the AdminCP to restore the default theme.]]" whenever they try to open a forum? i'm so confused on what it means and why it's happening, I tried searching it up but computer stuff really isn't my strong suit and that only left me more confused lol.
(Also welcome back to me, I've had to be offline for the past two weeks or so but I got my laptop back today!! Yay!!!)
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Arocalypse is mentioned in this video. It's set it to start just before, but I recommend the whole thing.
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Arocalypse is mentioned in this video. It's set it to start just before, but I recommend the whole thing.
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Apocalypse is back! It was prob fixed like a month ago, but cool!
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What is the Hide switch for? At the bottom of posts I make--next to the Submit Status button--is a switch that says Hide. Why make a post then not let anyone see it?
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It's not very useful there, but you can also hide posts after you create them by using the drop down options menu as a psuedo-delete option. We don't let people delete posts for moderation reasons but we do let people hide their own posts so that other regular users can't see it anymore if that's something they want to do.
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why are my posts being hidden?
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Other than two specific posts which you should have gotten feedback from staff for, it looks like you hid your own posts. If you're sure you didn't do it yourself then you should check your password and account security. We allow users to hide their own posts if they wish to remove them from the site.
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I did not major in Computer Science to spend four hours on the phone with a tutor for badly written Java projects.
And yet, here I am.
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I like putting smiley emoticons on stuff but dislike when it gets auto-converted to smiley emoji, bc then the tone feels wrong, and apparently the forums do that....so if you see an emoji from me, know the intended tone was the emoticon instead.
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Linux is being a pain in the ass. Woo.
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I am not trolling Arocalypse and reading fanfiction at work..
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Got asked when I was going to get married for the first time in several years today.
So liberating to say probably never.
And to think "just watch me" when person who asked screwed her face up and shook her head at me.
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Got asked when I was going to get married for the first time in several years today.
So liberating to say probably never.
And to think "just watch me" when person who asked screwed her face up and shook her head at me.
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Got asked when I was going to get married for the first time in several years today.
So liberating to say probably never.
And to think "just watch me" when person who asked screwed her face up and shook her head at me.
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So, is there really no difference between just having gay thoughts as a straight person and having desires? I just posted it as a comment on a debate forum thingy and someone said they saw no difference. I didn't bother replying but I disagree - I definitely think they're separate things, but there is probably a varying degree of overlap for other people. I sometimes wonder how my life would have been different as a lesbian - would I have enjoyed being in relationships with women better? I don't have those innate romantic/sexual desires for other women, though, nor would I be open to 'trying something out' with someone willing to do that with me. I very rarely have romantic/sexual thoughts about men, but I do have those desires once in a blue moon, even if the "signals get scrambled" so I end up not knowing what I want at all any more.
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So, is there really no difference between just having gay thoughts as a straight person and having desires? I just posted it as a comment on a debate forum thingy and someone said they saw no difference. I didn't bother replying but I disagree - I definitely think they're separate things, but there is probably a varying degree of overlap for other people. I sometimes wonder how my life would have been different as a lesbian - would I have enjoyed being in relationships with women better? I don't have those innate romantic/sexual desires for other women, though, nor would I be open to 'trying something out' with someone willing to do that with me. I very rarely have romantic/sexual thoughts about men, but I do have those desires once in a blue moon, even if the "signals get scrambled" so I end up not knowing what I want at all any more.
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So, is there really no difference between just having gay thoughts as a straight person and having desires? I just posted it as a comment on a debate forum thingy and someone said they saw no difference. I didn't bother replying but I disagree - I definitely think they're separate things, but there is probably a varying degree of overlap for other people. I sometimes wonder how my life would have been different as a lesbian - would I have enjoyed being in relationships with women better? I don't have those innate romantic/sexual desires for other women, though, nor would I be open to 'trying something out' with someone willing to do that with me. I very rarely have romantic/sexual thoughts about men, but I do have those desires once in a blue moon, even if the "signals get scrambled" so I end up not knowing what I want at all any more.
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I'm ace, so take the following with a grain of salt.
My take is that desire is what defines your orientation. As a sex-indifferent asexual, I do infrequently have sex. I live with an allo/allo who i'm very close with. If she wasn't allo/allo I'd probably consider her for a QPP, but she isn't and I know she needs more than I can give her, whatever she claims. Anyway, the point is - even though I do it, I don't desire it and don't particularly enjoy it. It isn't who I am.
QuoteI sometimes wonder how my life would have been different as a lesbian
I've had similar experiences (gay, since I'm male) as a younger person, before finding and settling into ace, and also wondering what my life would have been like if I was a female especially as relates to sex. I think this is probably actually pretty normal even if no one wants to talk about it. It's almost like wondering "well, what if I'd bought the red one instead of the blue one?" and then realising you're completely happy with the blue one. I think it's a healthy way of validating your own beliefs about yourself.
In summary, what you *want*/*desire* is your orientation; what you think about is what you think about; what you do is what you do and doesn't affect your orientation.
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Honestly the only content for aro consumption is the same old "your identity is valid" regurgitated in a thousand different wordings, and validation is important and all but having been part of the aro community for a little over three years now i've found that not much has really changed; we have a bunch more haters and people trying to police our existence but we're not even on the mainstream's radar. Even our own awareness week saw a marked lack of content which is honestly depressing
Some genuine representation and some people fighting for us when it really counts instead of just pretending to care about aros only when we're around would be nice, while the same old dusty positivity just leaves me empty
Lmao this is what pride month has done to me
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So I finally got a psychologist appointment tomorrow but I still high key feel like I am just exaggerating stuff but... Is living your life vicariously through fictional characters with really low concern on your own life unless in immediate danger and seeing human relations pointless unless you are talking about something you like/having trouble with talking anything but your interests and sometimes getting really obsessed with them count as normal/healthy? I... don't feel like I have any goals in life, really, for a long time by now haha. I can drown that sense of pointlessness by diving even further into a series or theory or whatever but it never disappears and I just... worry that I am making a fuss. I tried to explain that to my mother, who is p much really asocial herself as well as likely has some problems of her own, and she says that I could see one if I wanted to but really skeptical of it and??? I don't even fully trust my memory or my feelings tbh and the close friend who said that I most likely should see someone for stuff did say that I often act really self-depricating and have a pretty low self esteem, which rangs rather true. I just... I just don't know, haha. I at least don't think it is unipolar depression at any rate because I can be happy/feel a whole range of emotions if I focus on anything but myself, but there is maybe... something off? Idk.
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If you've already got an appointment then go. Worst case, you talk for an hour, go home and never do anything about it again. They make for a good sounding board since they have a reasonable understanding of what 'average' actually entails.
Seeing a psychologist isn't such a bad thing though. There's a lot of stigma around mental health in general - but really, seeing one every so often even if you don't feel like there's an issue isn't such a bad idea. People get regular physicals - why not a regular check in with a psychologist?
In my experience, it's a good thing. The couple I've seen have been really good for me. I'd encourage everyone to see one semi-regularly (like, yearly or even every other year) if they are able even if they don't think there's anything wrong.
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Silly people.
