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  • Birthday 12/21/2002

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  1. there was a whole discussion about this one question on tumblr before, it didn't end so well...
  2. while i do check off as queer in a number of boxes, i don't like using it to label myself for mostly personal reasons. being aromantic certainly differs from the norm, it's kind of amazing just how much importance romantic love has in society.
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    Corrupt a Wish

    covid-19 disappears.... at the cost of the planet exploding. but hey! that means no more pandemics! i wish the moon was pink.
  4. false, it's 9pm currently. TPBM has eaten sushi before.
  5. i always saw it as aroace but with a preference (when it comes to QPRs), however i'm not aroace so it's not really my conversation.
  6. Lucky - Lucky Twice i really like 2000s pop, felt like this song could make it to the list (plus it's about loving yourself 🙇‍♀️)
  7. i've certainly had to go through this exact same scenario before, even now i continue to get asked this question 🙇‍♀️ i'm glad that you're starting to feel more comfortable, when it comes to sexuality, attraction and the like it always come with a lot of doubt from oneself, though with time it goes away 🙋‍♀️ (at least in some cases)
  8. while i haven't come out to my family or anyone irl yet, i just know my mom would tell me i'm being ridiculous 🧎‍♀️ glad to see your relatives reacted positively to your identity though.
  9. as for flowers, i think daffodils would be a nice symbol, representing new beginnings (i've also heard that they represent awareness and inner reflection), along with the fact that they tend to be yellow in color, though i think yellow roses are a beautiful symbol too 🙇‍♀️ i suppose ice cream counts as an icon of sorts? i've seen in it in some welcoming messages (i'm assuming it's kind of like the aro equivalent of cake) and i remember someone on tumblr mentioning gryphons as an aro symbol too.
  10. i'm assuming you already found your answer for this question but i'm gonna answer in case a guest has the same doubt. (and because i feel sad when seeing the 0 replies 🙇‍♀️) applying the aegosexual checklist to a romantic context would be my way to go to figuring out my romantic orientation, or generally any sexuality but simply changing the sexual context. even the definitions can be similar, it all depends on whether it's sexual or romantic attraction.
  11. i personally don't think it's my place or anyone's really to tell you if your emotions are real or not, only you can decide if what you felt for that boy was you genuinely crushing on him or "choosing" to crush on him. eitherway, you mentioned you were 12 at the time, age in which it's pretty common to want to experience love and crushes so maybe those feelings could have been a reflection? but i repeat, it's not up to me to judge your emotions as true or false, after all, no one knows your heart as well as you do.
  12. i'm still fairly new to the community, so take this as you will. you do sound like you could be aromantic, though i think it's important to clarify that aromanticism is not a dead end of sorts; you can still engage in romantic activities and relationships. i can personally relate to this in a way, and i understand that discovering you're arospec might seem like a huge let down in this sort of situations. however, you can do all of those things and be aromantic too, just maybe not the "aching" sensation that comes with love. (keyword: maybe) also, i don't think you're being selfish or using people if you explain to them first that your relationship is only gonna be temporary, it's common for people to experiment within their love life. and not wanting to kiss i feel is something you should talk about with future partners when setting boundaries.
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