arotrash

I drink socially and quite enjoy it. I like club and bar environments when I go out with friends. I have a lot of inhibitions though and a lot of anxiety that make having fun difficult for me so lowering those with alcohol is a big help.

Yes, absolutely! Gush away!

Have a squish on anyone? Think someone is the coolest and you want to get to know them better? Anyone you know make you want to tackle them and scream "LET ME BE YOUR FRIIIEEEND!!!"? Like to imagine being QPPs with a certain someone? Talk/gush about them here! I, personally, need a separate place other than my usual to talk about my squish right now bc we're both on tumblr and if we ever get to the point of exchanging urls I don't want him to find me gushing about how much I want to be his friend >_> He is just so cool though??? Like, our personalities click so well and he's sweet and sarcastic at the same time and we have really similar, like, life goals. We have similar ethnic backgrounds, share a lot of interests, share a lot of the same political opinions, we even look kind of alike but we're different enough to still find each other interesting. It's like!!!!! We're so compatible as friends why are we not hanging out already how do I ask you to be my friend outside of work I want to Netflix and ACTUALLY chill with you and maybe cuddle if you're into that oh my god

i am addicted to this song tbh

Yum! Avocado sandwich

Romantic love and romantic relationships are socially constructed and as such what defines a romantic relationship is going to be dependent on the culture and even more finely defined by the individual. I've seen at least one study that shows 'passionate love' having a different effects on the brain, releasing different levels of hormones than familial love, but that study assumed sexual attraction to be a definitive part of romantic love and obviously didn't take asexuality into account much less aromantic allosexuals. Most other studies I've read have lead me to believe that love is love and the primary difference between different types of love is what we choose to do with it. On a forum I was on a few years ago I created a thread about aromanticism and asked non-aro people to define romantic love. Most definitions people gave me were completely useless 'you know when you know' kind of definitions, but I had a fairly enlightening conversation with one person. I described to him how I experience platonic love, in particular the feelings I had for my best friend, and he told me that was basically how he experienced romantic love. The only real difference between our experiences was he chose to take those feelings and build a monogamous romantic/sexual relationship where I chose to build a platonic friendship.

YMBAI you went into every romantic relationship looking for a way out

I am 27, I'll be 28 this summer.

Slytherin, Amity, Hades Cabin. I really don't know much about Divergent at all but it looks like something I'd like. I should look into it more.

I always very strongly headcanoned Harry Potter as aromantic even though I didn't know the word at the time. I was so upset when he tried to date Cho and when his relationship with Ginny started because I personally related to him a lot and that was just not something we would do, lol. Aro!Dean Winchester is another one. It is canon, anyone can fight me. And I have like a TON of aro headcanons for Teen Wolf. Peter Hale, Derek Hale, Stiles Stilinski, Lydia Martin and Jackson Whittemore are all aro af. Jackson and Lydia were an aro power couple that loved each other non-romantically but got caught up in playing the high school popularity game. Peter Hale is partly so nasty because he grew up feeling like if he couldn't love people appropriately he must be morally deficient and embraced it. Derek didn't get a chance to come to understand his romantic orientation before trauma visited and now he's convinced he's only aromantic because of it (he's not, he would have figure it out eventually, but trauma has definitely contributed to his extreme romance and sex repulsion) and Stiles Stilinski is dealing with a lot of guilt over the things he's not feeling and thinks he should feel. He convinced himself he was in love with Lydia Martin for years because he thought that's what he was supposed to do. In reality he played it up because he knew she was a million miles out of his league and then when it seemed like she might be able to return some kind of romantic feelings he realized that's not what he wanted from her at all, he just wanted to be her friend and be close to her (good thing for him she's aro too and they've developed a great friendship and they love each other very much non-romantically).

I was in 2 relationships before I realized being aromantic was a thing. The first of which I've written at length about on my blog, here. tldr: I got into it because I thought everyone inevitably got married at some point and my friend was already 'in love' with me so he was the most convenient option and I hated the idea of casually dating to find a husband. My second relationship I got into pretty much because I was trying to prove to myself that I was really bisexual. My thought process was "it doesn't matter what you feel, Loren, if you can't successfully have a relationship with a woman you're not really bisexual you're just a confused straight girl". (surprise I'm not straight or a girl or capable of having a romantic relationship with one!) Amatonormativity in the lgbt spaces I was in had me wrecked. It wasn't until 2 years into my very unhappy second relationship that I realized I was aromantic and that being in a romantic relationship was a big part of what was making me so unhappy.

Before I realized that aromanticism was a thing I assumed romantic and sexual attraction were always tied together so if I was bisexual I was biromantic by default. Then I became familiar with asexuality, romantic orientations (not aro tho, somehow), and split attraction and I ran the gamut from thinking I was bisexual homoromantic to bisexual heteromantic, to heterosexual homoromantic and it was so confusing because I knew my romantic and sexual orientations were different but I couldn't figure out what exactly was wrong with all the ways that I was trying to describe myself. Nothing fit comfortably until I learned about aromanticism.