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arotrash

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  • Name
    Loren
  • Orientation
    aromantic
  • Gender
    trans man
  • Pronouns
    he/him

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  1. I drink socially and quite enjoy it. I like club and bar environments when I go out with friends. I have a lot of inhibitions though and a lot of anxiety that make having fun difficult for me so lowering those with alcohol is a big help.
  2. As someone who is not friends with any of their exes, I've learned that people will come and go in your life and they don't always go due to bad feelings. Sometimes, even if there's no animosity between 2 people after they break up, there's also not anything left to hold them together. Also, a lot of times people need to take a significant amount of time away from each other in order to adjust to no longer being in a relationship. Habits die hard and being around someone they have established relationship patterns/roles with when they are no longer in that type of relationship can be very confusing and it's easy to slip back into those behaviors even if they're no longer appropriate for the type of relationship they have but once they spend enough time away from each other they find they either have no reason or desire to include that other person in their life again. Sometimes you just have nothing left to say to someone and nothing left to experience with them; their time in your life has reached it's natural end.
  3. Yes, absolutely! Gush away!
  4. Have a squish on anyone? Think someone is the coolest and you want to get to know them better? Anyone you know make you want to tackle them and scream "LET ME BE YOUR FRIIIEEEND!!!"? Like to imagine being QPPs with a certain someone? Talk/gush about them here! I, personally, need a separate place other than my usual to talk about my squish right now bc we're both on tumblr and if we ever get to the point of exchanging urls I don't want him to find me gushing about how much I want to be his friend >_> He is just so cool though??? Like, our personalities click so well and he's sweet and sarcastic at the same time and we have really similar, like, life goals. We have similar ethnic backgrounds, share a lot of interests, share a lot of the same political opinions, we even look kind of alike but we're different enough to still find each other interesting. It's like!!!!! We're so compatible as friends why are we not hanging out already how do I ask you to be my friend outside of work I want to Netflix and ACTUALLY chill with you and maybe cuddle if you're into that oh my god
  5. My close friends know that I'm aromantic but I'm not interested in coming out to my family. They're not familiar with the idea of romantic orientations and it would simply be too much trouble to come out to them and try to educate them. The people I tend to make friends with are people who are already either familiar with romantic attraction or very much open to learning, so I haven't had any issues coming out to friends so far. Coming out as aro isn't a huge deal to me, it doesn't take me a lot of emotional energy to just periodically tell people I am not currently looking to date or that I don't like dating instead of trying to explain aromanticism as a concept.
  6. "Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified."- Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life
  7. In my experience alloromantic people can't maintain friendship in a fwb context long term. With regular sex they're either going to start having romantic feelings or emotionally detach from the relationship to prevent that and end up dissolving the friendship.
  8. Same, tbh. That's the only way I could feel even remotely okay with marrying.
  9. I do it when I can afford it, which is not right now. Although I work at a movie theater so I get to see movies for free. I used to like taking myself out to community events and I probably will again when I become more familiar with the city I'm now living in.
  10. Romantic love and romantic relationships are socially constructed and as such what defines a romantic relationship is going to be dependent on the culture and even more finely defined by the individual. I've seen at least one study that shows 'passionate love' having a different effects on the brain, releasing different levels of hormones than familial love, but that study assumed sexual attraction to be a definitive part of romantic love and obviously didn't take asexuality into account much less aromantic allosexuals. Most other studies I've read have lead me to believe that love is love and the primary difference between different types of love is what we choose to do with it. On a forum I was on a few years ago I created a thread about aromanticism and asked non-aro people to define romantic love. Most definitions people gave me were completely useless 'you know when you know' kind of definitions, but I had a fairly enlightening conversation with one person. I described to him how I experience platonic love, in particular the feelings I had for my best friend, and he told me that was basically how he experienced romantic love. The only real difference between our experiences was he chose to take those feelings and build a monogamous romantic/sexual relationship where I chose to build a platonic friendship.
  11. YMBAI you went into every romantic relationship looking for a way out
  12. I am currently celibate though not entirely by choice. Ideally I would be able to have sexual relationships but I don't mind doing without for long periods of time. Because I don't like one night stands and finding someone it's possible to have a sustainable friends with benefits relationship with is extremely difficult.
  13. I am 27, I'll be 28 this summer.
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