Star Girl

Banned because I couldn't think of a reason to ban you

A while ago, I ran across this article (the first section) about a women who received 65 marriage proposals and turned all of them down and some of the details in the article lead me to think she was aromantic, particularly the fact that she is quoted saying that she has never been in love. I'm curious what you all think...

Interesting articles, although if the second one holds true, that brings into question the conclusions of the first study, beyond the other large issues with the experiment. Did this whole sexuality/finger length thing come about because of some theory linking fetal testosterone to sexuality then? That would make it more logical... Ah, I've found the Wikipedia article that has to do with this and it looks like there are other studies more specific to sexuality; there is a whole section on things that a lower or higher ratio (index:ring) between finger lengths has been found or suggested to correspond to in various studies... The fact that both lower and higher mathematical abilities supposedly corresponds to a lower ratio does not help convince me that there is very much to go on for most of these factors.

I'm only repulsed when I think of myself in a romantic situation. Otherwise, I find romance very annoying and sometimes uncomfortable in movies (although I wouldn't consider myself repulsed), sometimes annoying in books, and I find my friends sometimes cute, sometimes ridiculous when they are being romantic-y.

I've gotten a "I can see the appeal of that [being aromantic]" which I suppose is better than something like "that must be awful for you" but is still not far off from "you're so luck not to have to deal with relationships." This could also be interpreted as implying that it is a choice, although I know it wasn't meant that way, however we were both having communication issues, I was having trouble explaining why it was problematic and she was having trouble expressing what she meant in a way that did not have problematic implications.

I am very skeptical that this is actually true... for one, because I have heard of the "If your ring finger is longer than your index finger, then you are A; if your index is longer than your ring, then B" in another context before that wasn't to do with orientation. I would like to see a reference to the study, know their sample size, method, and how statistically significant their result was. As for my finger lengths, I can change how I hold my hand (still holding it flat) and change which one looks longer... so method is important.

I will now mess up the number of comments in this thread from a lovely 2222 to 2223.

I'm out to most of my college friends (I say most only because there are probably a few who I haven't explicitly told, but it's really not been a big deal). I'm also out to my sister and cousins, and sort of out to my mom. Coming out to my mom was not a planned out thing (and I totally failed at explaining split attraction model and stuff) and I'm really not sure what she thinks at the moment... (I don't think she really understands (or maybe even realizes that I'm aromantic...) or even if she thinks its just a phase or realizes it's not changing.... another conversation is necessary, perhaps.) (@starstuff, I may need to borrow your PowerPoint ) (And as far as explaining not being interested in anyone, I don't understand why people who are straight or gay shouldn't get it... they already don't experience attraction to some genders, so to me it doesn't seem like it would be too much of a stretch to expand that to all genders... of course, people don't make sense.)

There was a boy in my elementary school who asked me to meet him on the playground and then told me he "liked" me. I had no clue what to do when he asked... I guessed what it was about, panicked slightly over it to by best friend, but went anyway since I he wasn't one of the boy's I actively disliked. Then his friends made fun of us and that was the end of that (fortunately... I have no clue what I would have done if it had continued).

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I've lived in Switzerland (at various points in time from when I was 7) where they do this too (three kisses btw) and so for me it is quite normal and how you greet people that you know, and I've never felt like it was romantic or uncomfortable (beyond my usual social discomfort), but then I grew up with it.

Banned because your post is too long.

I would appreciate having a section to the side where you can see the most newly created threads, not just the ones where someone has most recently commented/liked (I'm reasonably sure they show up when someone has liked a comment because I sometimes look and there is no new comment... is this really necessary?), because the recent topics are often filled with threads from the arcade ("Be the newest comment") so I sometimes miss when someone has created something new elsewhere.

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Maybe you didn't click save?... If you upload it but then close the window (sub window? whatever you call it... where it lets you upload the picture) instead of clicking save, then it won't actually save. I seem to remember having done this before...