DeltaAro

Hello and welcome. This is so cute, you're very talented! 😄

"Void" is a strong, mysterious word with threatening connotations. I guess that's why it sounds cool. But it was kind of predictable that "void" invites people to attach lots of unintended meanings to voidpunk. "The void" is also an important Buddhist concept, sunyata.

While you can change your body, you can't change it on a whim, like a shapeshifter. So this is just something you have to accept. I would like for people to have no gender, but that's not going to happen either. I don't really see a question in your post. But maybe reevaluate if "gender" might not include other things for you like clothing, behavior, etc. ?

Erikson's stages of psychosocial development Look at early Adulthood ... Isn't a whole life stage dedicated to romantic love a bit too much? 😾 I find it funny that this model is supposed to be totally serious. But aros crash it.

P from Lies of P. Aroace. I love this character so much. The game has three different endings. In one of the endings, which I got ("Rise of P") and is considered (??) the best ending, he does something that could theoretically be interpreted as romantic. I like the "Free from the Puppet String" ending much more. For me, it's the canonical ending. LOL.

Can you have multiple separate relationships with the same person at the same time? Normally you can! I wonder 🤔: can you have a QPR 💚 with someone and also have a romantic relationship ❤️ with them? Or are QPRs supposed to be exclusive in this sense? Honest question! I guess... they are exclusive?

Yum Halva?

In Stellaris, 50 hours in, I learned that CTRL+SHIFT-Click bumps an order for a ship to the front of the queue without cancelling the rest. This was a game changer. In Diablo IV, 30 hours in, I learned that you could just hold the button to repeat base and core skills. 🙈🙈 I never watch those "10 Things You Need to Know Before You Play" videos. 😄 I'm waiting for Pioneers of Pagonia where early access comes out in December. The demo obviously looks a bit unpolished, but this is pre-alpha. So it's promising and already has the iconic bustling look.

I'm reading README.txt: A Memoir by Chelsea Manning, and I'm nearly finished. It's a very important book by a very brave person. Obviously, it centers about her motivations for becoming a whistleblower, how she did it, the truth about the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, and the extreme punishment she had to endure. But in equal measure it's also a biography and about her life as a queer person and her transition. I guess I understand a bit better how gender identity is so important for people, though it's still rather mysterious for me.

W. K. Haselden, published in The Mirror (1919).

Finished Lies of P !! Took me 45 hours to reach "Rise of P ending", did all side quests. It mostly maintains the quality with no fillers. The story is a (wild) reimagination of the novel, but it's still really great. So much recommended, but with a disclaimer: they overdid the difficulty late game, so it became a bit of a slog (IMHO). E.g. the Door Guardian boss is ultra annoying since it has huge reach, wonky hit boxes and causes shock, which breaks your stamina regeneration. Also, it has a one-minute run back. 😠 The final boss, Nameless Puppet, is also the hardest boss of the game. It's worse than Isshin, the Sword Saint from Sekiro. 2nd phase (7:30) = nightmare. OK, theoretically the boss is optional to finish the game, but then you get the bad ending. --------- Now playing: Lords of the Fallen

It's strange that a mere lackluster experience should trigger such deeper underlying issues.

Possible? Yes. Certainly, such relationships exist. Still, I believe the odds are stacked against you, and they just seem common because there are so much more allos around. No matter whom I asked IRL, and also in all dating guides that I read, it's usually "if after X you don't feel that spark, forget it". And X may be as early as "first date". Also, allos often grow very concerned when they did something romantic and the response was nice but lukewarm. They seriously give each other the advice, "dump him / her". Just browse Reddit's /r/dating_advice. They so much obsess about the "feelings", "vibe", "chemistry" and "connection". I'm very skeptical of Reddit, but it can't be all LARPING. PS (to make it all about ME): QPRs feel way too much like romantic relationships to me. Now, my friends are invited to stay overnight, but I can't imagine having someone around 24/7 all the time. This sounds worse than living in barracks. I'm always surprised about this notion that most aros desire a QPR.

I would never have sex with friends because of this, which is a nightmare scenario. Allos just take it way too seriously (not serious in the "responsible behavior" way, which is sometimes rather lacking, but in the "emotional baggage" way). Anyway, I know how it feels when sexual attraction just dissipates into nothingness, and it doesn't have something to do with the other person. Still, I wonder how she could take it so extremely personally. If she's "experienced" she must have encountered such situations. I could only understand this behavior from someone very immature and insecure. Very sad ☹️, I wish you the best, but it's very unlikely she'll change her mind.

But ... why? Honest question! The white stripe in the aro flag originally even stood for platonic love. And with 1K posts here, you probably know that the mainstream understanding of "platonic" (= sexual and romantic desires would normally be present and expected but are actually suppressed or sublimated) is not the aro/ace understanding ? PS: I always feel another word for platonic attraction would be great. The aro usage is very different from mainstream usage, and also different from what Plato had in mind. Can't we use another ancient, revered holy language besides Greek and Latin? In Sanskrit, friendship means mitratā... Mitratic attraction... mitrate attraction. Oh dear, that sounds dangerous! If you don't feel loneliness yourself, that what matters. Not that other people tell you that you must feel lonely. PS: I don't know if it's a good idea to use / explain "aplatonic" to non-a* people: If you tell them, it means you don't desire friends, they probably regard you as traumatized or jaded. If you tell them it means you don't feel platonic attraction, they won't understand it at all. If you tell them it means you don't experience squishes, they first won't understand it, and then after having explained "squish", probably find it strange there's even a word for this.

Thanks!! Aros have two left hands? Can't be! No, it was a mistake... how embarrassing.😅 I quick-fixed it, thanks for pointing it out! I guess because the sculpture lacks contrast, it slipped through.

Funny, my parents never did that. But other relatives like my sister. Possible explanations: It's wishful thinking because they want you to be in a relationship 💒. It's a sort of teasing. They find it funny to hear your denials 🤗. It's a compliment. Some alloromantics like to feel desirable by having many people who crush 💌 on them.

You can post your artworks here, if you want. My last artwork didn't get any attention, though I put so much time into it. But as you say, it's ok if oneself likes it. 😃 Very handy skill!

Of course, we would make garlic bread 🧄 with cannabutter!

That's a lot of different issues, wildly varying in severity. Some of it is just your personality, and without any concern. Like that you tend to procrastinate. Some of it sounds like OCD, autism or Asperger's. But at least those tend to remain relatively stable over time. Some of it is concerning, like: Sorry, but this might be a prelude to psychosis. Which can get worse in a short time and then lead to dangerous behaviors like self-harm.

I only had ONE relationship, which was short and extremely toxic. Don't take this personally. While I support the freedom and choices of people who feel romantic attraction, I still personally believe that romantic attraction is more shallow than platonic attraction. Anyway, your value as a person is not determined by being romantically (or sexually) attractive. Also, there's love beyond "romantic love". There's no aro-meter that can measure your aromanticism. Does aromanticism "click" with you or not?

One of the first nice mainstream articles about aromanticism was titled "Aromantics just want to be your friend". LOL, that we went from there to "aros can still feel love" ... It would still be exclusive, because some aros DO NOT, but at least it doesn't use that word love. Which nowadays means romantic love 98 % of the time.

Yes, it's to please allos. Not sure if that's the most important factor, though. Some aros imagine the aro community being their perfect "platonic dating pool". Loveless aros disturb this romanticized 😄 view. The distinction between "loveless" and "empathyless" is not much explored, and the two get easily confused.

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