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I haven't thought about that. It makes sense but for some reason I just considered Aros being aplatonic.

@BloodLustiI think it's good. Warning for extreme body horror at some points though if you're sensitive to that. It's about a woman who works as a hench for super villains. There's lots of lgbt rep and no romantic relationships.

I was reading the book Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots and was touched by the main characters grief about losing her friend. And another character not dismissing her feeling about it.

What was it about having free time that made you realize you hate having a gender? Was it something you read or saw? Or just general introspection? Maybe if you dig down into the cause you'll know more what to do about it.

I think society in general put so much focus on romance but really you can have deep committed relationships which are friendships. So if you're having trouble trusting people start by building some trusting friendships.

I very rarely dream about anything sexual. I don't think I've ever dream about kissing. Only a few times have I dreamt about sex and only one time was it actually arousing. The funny thing is that sex dream came after a choir practice where we were singing burning love by Elvis. The whole song is basically about being super horny and the choir leader told us to sing as if we really felt it. So I suppose I successed. It makes me wonder if I would have more sex dreams if I put more attention to sex in my waking time.

You could be aromantic AND have attachment issues ^^

That sucks I'm sorry

You can only do it when using your own blood as ink. I'm impervious to poison

Why would you get hate for aroace headcannon at an aro forum? Seems an unreasonable thing to assume to me.

Hehe I get what you mean. She's definitely very romance favorable aro. I've only read loveless by her and I thought it was ok. I do give it lot of plus for including all the aro culture and experience so because of that I'm rating it high. It would be great to have more aro protagonists in different kinds of stories .

I think sometimes we reach for a label in order to defend ourselves. Like it's ok to not have a relationship if we're aromantic. So if you don't really feel comfortable coming out ATM you could also just embrace that you don't owe anyone a justification. You can just live your life how you want to, not having to use any label for it.

@nonmerciwhat did you like more about season one?

@Peggya At least you have a lot of company of people being sad after watching heartstopper. There's a whole subreddit about it https://www.reddit.com/r/heartstoppersyndrome/

I watched season two of heartstopper on my parents Netflix when I was pet sitting. I enjoyed it a lot. I didn't see any specific post about it so I made one in case anyone wants to share their thoughts. What did you think of the season? Any favorite scenes?

Agreed @Lovebirda Also, all people are different people. Saying that all allos is a certain way is pretty silly overall.

Agreed. Although it can also be men but in that case it's more in the "robot learns to become human" vibe where someone very logical gets in touch with their emotions by falling in love.

I didn't feel much interest to watch this movie since I learned the main plot was a mediocre romance where the characters like each other because "the plot said so". But now I kinda wish I had seen it just so I could comment on your post. I might watch it at some point because it does seem to have some good part and I'm sure the animations are cool

@Firebirdmaybe those guys were only "friends" with you because they actually wanted to date you. If so friendship wouldn't work. But I have male friends that doesn't want to date me and it works fine.

I agree. If the guy has already romozoned you he likely has no actual interest in being friends. Any interaction is just gonna be a seen as a stepping stone to a romantic relationship. I would say bring up as soon as possible that you're not interested in dating. You don't even need a segway. Just say "I get this feeling maybe you're interested in me and if that's the case I want you to know I don't date." If he says then he wasn't interested romantically then don't make a big deal out if it. Just say something like how you assumed because he was so friendly and ask if is he that focused on anyone he makes friends with. Also if he should claim he does want to be friends ask yourself do you want to be his friend? You don't have to.

I see what you mean. I do wonder also if I lack the ability and that's why I don't experience it. But I also think from just a objective standpoint of having things in common I don't see that either. Now that I think of it I've find way more similar people in real life than I ever have in fiction. Do you ever meet people irl that you feel have similar personality to you?

That sucks! I'm sorry you have to experience this. I agree it's so annoying that dating is considered a must in terms of maturity by so many people. If you're into podcasts I would advice trying Solo - the single persons guide to a remarkable life. The guy who hosts it really struggled for a long time with the expectations of dating. He's allo so it's not about aromanticism (although there's at least one episode with an aro guest) but still it's very relatable for aros. For example he talks about how adulthood really should be considered someone who can parent themselves. It shouldn't be connected to marriage or having children like it often is.

If so who, and why? The reason I'm asking is because I kinda feel like I've never actually seen a fictional character with similar personality like me. It made me wonder if it's because so few characters are aromantic and therefore other aros might have similar problems. But if not I'm also interested about hearing who you relate to.

Haha sounds like a very aro thing for your mom to say. I'm thinking it's like nomerci says, people choose whether to act on their feelings. I think there also the act of dating and people maybe conflating that with the actual romantic feeling. Because when you date you usually bring in practical aspects to like does this person seem like they would make a good partner. If they do seem to make a good partner that can increase the persons romantic attraction to them too, and make it seem like they choose their attraction to them.