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I really like that poem. Although I assume some of its beauty might be lost in the translation, I still appreciate the English version for all its worth. I find that although I don't like when the media romanticizes everything (no pun intended), I tend to appreciate poetry, whether it be about romantic love or not. Definitely not always, as there is plenty of either poorly written or sickeningly cheesy stuff (that tends to accumulate in places like pop songs on the radio), but a lot of classics or even well-written words of today I'll give due respect. For example, I have a book of Shakespearean sonnets that I enjoy perusing through on occasion. I bring this up because yes, many of his works are about romantic love for another person, but the writing is so eloquent and there is so much you can empathize with. For one thing, the poems aren't the easiest to glean meaning from. I love poems that are difficult to decipher. It's kind of like having ice cream (hell yes ), because, in order to avoid a brain freeze, you have to take small bites and pace yourself. You can't just binge through literature like this; in order to truly enjoy a poem, I find reading a little at a time allows me to process and fully appreciate each part. Second, I find I can empathize with romantic poetry. Although I never want a relationship nor am I hopelessly falling in love with some damsel in a tower, their core feelings of love and loss ring true beyond the shallow depths of romance. When an author writes well enough, I can relate, and the love they feel for a significant other reminds me of my love for my family or close friends. On a rare occasion, however, an author can write so well that I truly can sympathize with them, just as you were saying for this poem above. So, it's not every day that I say "Wow! I want to curl up and read romantic poetry!!", but when I do occasionally stumble across something good, I tend to enjoy it. TL;DR I'm a huge english nerd who enjoys romantic poetry only when it's well written and not entirely shallow.

Too true, it seems like the concept of "a girl that is only a friend" no longer exists to them.

@Ice Queen I think people just like the idea of "love at first sight" so much, especially as it's too often touted in the media as ~the BEST thing to ever happen to you!!!!!!!!!!!~ Ugh, it's so annoying.

This is my life. It honestly always ruins friendships when you have to friendzone someone. I hate it, I just want people to like be ok with being ~just~ friends! I know the "why me" feeling exactly

That makes a lot of sense! After mulling it over a bit more, there are definitely similarities between qprs and regular romantic relationships, which I did touch on earlier (rather vehemently haha) but didn't notice the connection. For me, I guess I'm just not that interested in relationships (not really sure if I'd want a qpr). I'm rather curious, though, as to where the concept of families fit regarding romantic and sexual attraction. Any insight you guys have or good threads you know of? I think I've been stuck in the opposite mindset of this due to just my past experiences and observations. Regardless of whether a qpr may or may not be my thing, it's definitely a comforting thing to hear!

Ooh now this thread is my jam! -I eat gluten free/ Paleo (basically whole foods, all vegetables and meat, no dairy), which I know isn't vegetarian or vegan, but I do it to eat whole foods and not the processed stuff. I try to eat organic, sustainable sourced good quality meats and I eat very little dairy, and although it's a little contradictory to eat meat but not dairy, I think the dairy industry is horrible so I refuse to give them business -I'm all about functional medicine, the current medical system with all antibiotics isn't working! -I use natural products (people think I'm a bit weird when they learn I use coconut oil for deodorant haha) -I'm studying to become a computer engineer but I'm the field of environmental engineering so I can help on things in the future like electric cars (Tesla is so cool!!) and solar panels -Don't mind bugs as long as they aren't mosquitos. They eat me alive -I love biking and running places when I can -Also cats are amazing (I have 2)

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Yeah, it seems like the crux of the whole LGBT... movement is to bring awareness to the spectrums of sexuality and gender. However, there is no emphasis on understanding the romantic spectrum. Not that they are against it, I just think we are such a small minority that it was not something that the community was aware of, regardless of whether it's relevant or not to the movement.

Exactly! I never want to live life feeling chained down and forced to put excessive time and effort into a romantic relationship. *shudders* I agree, I never want to miss cool experiences and opportunities. Additionally, I feel like people, (usually women) tend to put aside a career as they settle into a relationship, get married, and start a family. I couldn't imagine why someone would give up a path that they have traveled along and studied in for so long just to become a housewife (the reason is twuu wuvvv of course!!). I know this isn't as much the case today, but even at that, having to invest such a large portion of your time into the twitterpated disaster that people call marriage sounds like a ball and chain to not only your life aspirations but a hindrance to happiness. At least to me. I don't know if you can tell, but I'm a biiit against settling down in a romantic relationship. I'm perfectly happy with no romantic commitments and lots of ice cream!!

Yeah, honestly it's just a huge lose-lose situation. I guess it comes down to hoping that one day, my peers will finally mature. Hah, like that's going to happen

Ravenclaw! Also just like @hippiecat(ran into you again!) I would totally join the hunters of Artemis, but because of Artemis's lack of children, I'd probably be a child of Athena.

Ooh how about when friends tease you about liking someone, and you get flustered and irritated trying to explain that you don't like said person whatsoever. Of course, they take it as you being defensive and therefore you are suddenly ~soooo~ in love with this person. I just don't get how people jump to these conclusions

I totally agree on this. I think for me, when I was around 15 I started to notice how I just didn't see eye to eye with peers on romantic aspects and it kinda clicked that- not to say I could permanently label myself because you should totally never stay stagnant with one idea and limit yourself but- that maybe I should rethink. Today I could certainly be wrong with all this, I but I will say that for me stumbling upon aromanticism wasn't as much of a radical realization but more of a puzzle piece finally clicking into place because you understand where it goes. Cheesy metaphor and now I'm rambling but I think because it's something one may always kind of suspect until realizing it's actually a thing (at least in my case), it makes taking up this identity as a younger person not come off as superficial or a phase.

EXACTLY. I've had people explain to me how much being friendzoned sucks, but why is it so bad? I just don't get it. Friendship just shouldn't be considered less valuable than romance.