I wish I heard more about it also. I figured out I was somewhere on the aro spectrum after being in a relationship for several years, and the lack of aros in romantic relationship stories definitely hindered that realisation. There's just an abundance of stories about aros not wanting those relationships (which is valid), but it does give the impression that being aro means to not want a romantic relationship. It took figuring out that I was a sex favourable ace, then applying that same logic to aromantism, to slowly come to the conclusion that I might be aro.
I identify as aro because I don't typically experience romantic attraction or have crushes, with the possible exception of my current partner. Growing up I'd always wanted to be in a relationship, but had never liked anyone in that way. Even with my partner it took a while for those feelings to form. it wasn't until after we'd been friends for awhile and then accidentally gone on a date that I realised that I liked him (maybe I'm demi? I'll probably never know). I'm 30 now and I still haven't experienced anything that I'd consider a romantic crush to anyone else. Do people normally crush on others when they're already in a relationship? I don't know, but don't see any reason why not.
I wouldn't describe our relationship as overly romantic as we don't do valentines day, anniversaries, etc,. He's my best friend and most favourite person, I just like to be around him and want to spend my life with him. There's not much else to it really.
wow, even just writing out 'I'm in a relationship and I love him' has started me doubting my aro-ness again...
