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Sukii

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  1. I agree with the others. Testing the waters first is important. In my case, coming out was definitely worht it. I put it off for at least three years, thinking that it wouldn't make a difference (I used to think: if a were gay I would have to come out, but since I won't be bringing a girlfriend home there's no need to confuse them with unfamiliar terms). However, when I finally came out (basically because my parents asked me directly about my sexual orientation since it was becoming pretty obvious that I wasn't straight), I realised that it did. If you're not the kind of person who likes to talk about LGBT stuff maybe it woudn't make such a difference to you. But I love discussing such topics and ever since I came out I feel much more comfortable talking about it both with my familily and my friends. I can also make "aro" jokes and comments whenever I feel like it, without having to worry. The best thing, however, is not feeling anymore this expectation of a future partner and family looming over me. Like, now they know I have no interest in finding a partner and that they shouldn't count on me having kids. And this is sooo liberating! My advise is, if there is at least a part of you that wants to come out to your family and you think they will react in a positive and accepting way, do it. Because I think there is going to be a difference, even if it's only a small one. As for how to do it, I guess you'll have to figure it out yourself, every family is different. But here's an idea: Perhaps you could explain how you feel without using the word aromantic (for example: I've realised that I don't get crushes, I don't fall in love... And romance isn't something I want for myself). And then, when they get confused and worried (because amatonormativity will probably make them think that not having a partner equals unhappiness), you tell them that it's a thing, that there are other people like you, and that there's even a word for it: aromantic. And maybe then you could proceed with a more in depth exaplanation of the identity (that's what I did). Hope this helps!
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