I just figured out there were terms for Ace and Aro and i'm in my late 40s. I think I always knew I was different in those ways but didn't even realize there were terms for it. I even watch Bojack Horseman and when Todd comes out as Ace it didn't register for me until a year later. I rewatched that episode again (and that season of the show - S3) and it's crazy how that just didn't click for me then...