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Everything posted by Gabriel14

  1. I do definately want kids, so I'll leave a lot to them (and my grand-kids or in-laws, depending on how old I am when I die). Hopefully my younger brother, too, and maybe some of my half-siblings if we get closer over our lifetimes. My younger cousins and extended family will get things, and I'll probably end up leaving things to my close friends and charities. I don't know what will go to each person, because I don't know what I'll have when I die and I currently have no money lol. If I have a committed relationship(s) then those will be prioritized along with my kids, but I don't see that happening
  2. Idk if you want label suggestions in response to this, but to me your experience sounds a bit like a combination of frayromantic and recipromantic maybe? Frayromantic (ignotaromantic)- someone who feels romantic attraction only to people they’re not deeply connected with, and they loose that attraction as they get closer. Often seen as “the opposite of demiromantic” Recipromantic- someone who only feels romantic attraction to someone who is romantically attracted to them first
  3. You both might want to look into QPRs (or queerplatonic realtionships), and looking into alterous or queerplatonic attraction might be helpful for him. I think y’all might also want to talk about whether or not you prioritize your crushes/dates over him, y’know? Let him know that he’s not “standing in the way” of anything, and I understand that he doesn’t like talking about this but I strongly encourage it, especially with how important this relationship seems to be to both of you
  4. Probably Shadow Walkers by Brent Hartinger, it's objectively not a great book but it's an easy read and it's always there for me when I need it. Also, I unknowingly stole half of my personality from one of the charachters (Emory) when I was in 5th grade lmao
  5. So when I said this I accidentally lied lol, I put in the wrong IP and then just. Didn't try again for some reason? But I finally got on for a few minutes tonight (not that lont, I have hw) and omgs everyone's builds are so so cool I love it so much
  6. Yea, unfortunately it seems like they might have a crush on you. The only thing I can think of doing in this scenario is either communicate how you feel about him and hope xe gets it (which they should, eventually), distance yourself a bit (not all the way!! Just enough so that they hopefully get the message), or like idk lie about wanting a qpr with a few specific but vague people? Which I don't suggest that one at all lol sounds like it'd end up in a DEH situation. The way you're feeling is completely valid and I'd be feeling the same way in your position. I know it's scary, but I think you might benefit greatly from telling xem about how you're feeling. They might not like it much at first but since y'all are best friends, he should be able to prioritize the already existing relationship over a hypothetical one. And honestly I might be completely wrong, but regardless of how you choose to handle this I hope it works out best for both of you!!! /gen
  7. Oh this is so exciting!! I’ll add it to my server list later today when I get on my laptop, thank you for setting this up for us!!!!
  8. It’s looking pretty good so far!!! I like the “don’t take others’ stuff” rule, maybe extend that to general griefing? Like no destruction of others’ property/buildings and such?
  9. Ohh I love this idea, I play Java personally. I’m kinda bad at Minecraft ngl, but it’s so much fun to play with people, and a server would be really nice for those of us who can’t meet irl or do the Google Meets, y’know?
  10. Am I aromantic? Yes, almost definitely.

    Do I have a Pinterest board filled of mlm couples that make me Feel Some Kind Of Way? Yes absolutely I do 


    (I think it’s mainly gender envy and my bisexuality but idk lol)

    1. Lovebird


      I read so much fanfics of my fave fictional couples lol 

  11. Anyone else getting "[[Template forums/front/forums/topicRowSnippet is throwing an error. This theme may be out of date. Run the support tool in the AdminCP to restore the default theme.]]" whenever they try to open a forum? i'm so confused on what it means and why it's happening, I tried searching it up but computer stuff really isn't my strong suit and that only left me more confused lol.


    (Also welcome back to me, I've had to be offline for the past two weeks or so but I got my laptop back today!! Yay!!!)

    1. Acecream


      Yes, happens to me too

    2. Momo


      Sorry, this one's on me. I pushed some updates out to the site this morning but apparently one of them broke some things a little less obviously than the whole site being down. It should be fixed now.

    3. Gabriel14


      Ah ok, thank you!!!

  12. I identifyed as polyamorous before I found out I was aro, now I use both lol. I definately want more than one QPP in a relationship resembling a polycule, and I hope you and your partner can find other partners that work for you!!! (Also, love your pfp! I've been trying to get back into Sanders Sides recently but there's just so much for me to catch up on lol)
  13. Wait I love that plot line so much, I wish you all the best with it!!!
  14. I have some original ones but I saw in context of squishes and was hit with 7th grade memories that I totally forgot... I definitely had a squish on Steve and I definitely wanted to be Sodapop and if there were a modern au I’d want a poly QPR thing with those two and their canon girlfriends
  15. With me being trans, Cavetown's "This Is Home" had always hit different... but after figuring out my aromantism? Oh holy heck it hurts in the best way.

  16. I think it’s so funny, how I’m always the first of my friends to learn about myself and different communities. I was the first to know I wasn’t straight (6th grade), first to know I wasn’t cis (6th-7th grade), first to question my neurotype (7th-8th grade, I’m probably autistic), and the first to question my romantic orientation after settling in one for a few years (this year, 9th grade). I’m always offering resources to my friends because if they’re going though a similar questioning experience, I want theirs to go as easy and smooth as it can.

    1. Gabriel14


      I just taught one of my friends about SAM (split-attraction model), one of my enby friends now knows that their body dysmorphia was poorly disguised gender dysphoria, my lesbians would still be trying to pass as straight, and one of my friends would be masking constantly and would be unable to chill lol

  17. This isn’t my meme, and I don’t think it was made with arospec people in mind but it’s the most relatable thing I’ve seen all week
  18. I usually don't feel this way, but recently it's really been hitting hard. I've been feeling like I can't talk to any of my friends/soon-to-be friends because it feels like a lot of them have started having romantic feelings for me. It's kinda sucky because it directly related to the timeline of me figuring out my arospec identity, so then I feel like I can't talk about that specifically because what if they're only staying friends with me because they want to date me? But despite how uncomfortable I am with that thought, I value our friendship too much to possibly lose it over something like that... It's becoming a very vicious cycle honestly, I just need to figure out what to do about it lol
  19. Me: *becomes pretty confident in my aro identity*

    Everyone else: *suddenly has a crush on me*

  20. YMBAI, similarly to identifying as bi/pan because of "equal" attraction to people regardless of gender, you identified as polyamorous because you thought you experienced romantic attraction to all of your friends and that ended up just being strong platonic/queerplatonic attraction.
  21. Gabriel14

    The Future

    Personally, I'd probably want a few QPPs too. I'd also want some kids, one or two (with my QPP(s) or alone, I just want to be a dad eventually). Pets will also definitely be in my future lol I'm younger, and when I imagine my ideal life in the future it's just a bunch of my really close friends and I being a part of each other's lives lol
  22. Recently, one of my friends was talking about a crush they thought they had (turns out it wasn’t a crush and they just wanted to be friends with her). They said something like “idk man I just really like her” and I responded “bro same I love her so much” because I’ve known her for like six years, she’s one of my closest friends I do love her more than she could know. They met her this year, they said “yea but it’s different”. I had recently come out as arospec to them and ouch that felt super dismissive and hurt a lot more than I thought it would, like the way I feel for her was somehow less? Like yes it’s different but that doesn’t mean you like her more? Not that it’s a competition but it’s stuck with me a bit and I’m just Not A Fan.
  23. It’s no longer hot; it’s so freezing cold, you can feel your fingers and toes going numb. No amount of blankets or clothes seems to help. I wish I understood/knew everything
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