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  1. I mean I definately get this but only sometimes lol, you might find it beneficial to check out QPRs (queer-platonic relatiionships). I would explain them but I'm right about to go to sleep lmao, if you want I could try and explain a bit in the morning
  2. As ArseNick said, body language is super super important!! I read a while ago that men take up more space, if there were an invisible line on the ground women tend to walk on the line and men walk with a foot on either side if that makes sense? When you’re walking around, try to match the steps of guys walking in front of you. It feels stupid at first but it really helped me feel better. Sports bras in general are really good, just follow basic rules of binding with that and be safe (don’t wear two sports bras for more than 8 hours, take one or both off if it hurts at all, try not to do any exercise, don’t sleep with two sports bras on, etc.) For showers, I shower with the light off and music on (loudly). Be careful with this please, especially if you’re clumsy or prone to tripping or something Be safe, and take care!!! I found a lot of silly little tips that actually help me feel better myself on Pinterest, so maybe check there?
  3. I mean feelings and identity are fluid, so its totally normal to change like that. Idk what alloflux is or why it would be different from aroflux, they seem like the same thing? But aroflux is more descriptive because alloflux could be alloromantic or allosexual. There're a few identities like recipromantic and fictormantic, I can't give definitions rn because I'm in class but maybe look those up? But like the labels you identify with might change 800 times because orientation is fluid and all labels try to do is fit indescribable feelings into common boxes (nothing agaisnt labels, I love 'em, these are just observations) Also to me at least your soft romo relationship just sounds like a healthy one with maybe some polyamorous feellings mixed in? I wish you luck!!!
  4. I’m not on AVEN, but that might be a good place? It’s for aspecs but from what I’ve seen, there’s a lot of allo acespecs who would’ve probably thought about romantic attraction more in-depth than allo-allos? But other than that idk, sorry
  5. There are some “queerplatonic relationship forms” or something that can be found, I tired linking one but it said the attachment was too big. Maybe look into one of those?
  6. I tend to be a big fan of shorter more feminine people, who are curvy/chubby and could absolutely beat me up if they wanted to but they don’t they just want to because they just wanna be taken care of lmao
  7. I love looking like a 12 year old boy, but otherwise I’m a big fan of soft grunge, light academia, sk8er boi stuff, and like naturecore I think
  8. I like Iris by the Goo Goo Dolls, it reminds me of my best friend and I a lot even though it’s romantic coded and we are Platonic lmao
  9. I can almost always tell when someone has a crush on me, before they tell me most of the time. Something about their vibe changes and it’s only been wrong like twice- once I thought someone liked me when they didn’t, and once the opposite happened
  10. I love cuddling with (most of) my friends!! There’s one group I have where we love piling up on top of each other and it’s a super great time (especially for me who’s often on the bottom, one of my comfort stims is pressure and that’s the best kind lmao). I don’t like sleeping with them though (like spooning and stuff, not sex) There’s also my best friend who I absolutely love love cuddling with so much, and I love sleeping with her so much. Her bed is super comfy, first of all, and she just. Fits perfectly in my arms? It’s great and wonderful and I love her so much. (/p)
  11. For some reason I’m becoming increasingly anxious about my ex finding out I’m aromantic, I don’t think they’ll be very kind about it... fortunately I don’t see them ever, but my best friends do and I don’t want them to be in any sort of danger. Not that I *logically* think anything bad would actually happen, but my body do be reacting as though it’s already taking place lmao

  12. I do definately want kids, so I'll leave a lot to them (and my grand-kids or in-laws, depending on how old I am when I die). Hopefully my younger brother, too, and maybe some of my half-siblings if we get closer over our lifetimes. My younger cousins and extended family will get things, and I'll probably end up leaving things to my close friends and charities. I don't know what will go to each person, because I don't know what I'll have when I die and I currently have no money lol. If I have a committed relationship(s) then those will be prioritized along with my kids, but I don't see that happening
  13. Idk if you want label suggestions in response to this, but to me your experience sounds a bit like a combination of frayromantic and recipromantic maybe? Frayromantic (ignotaromantic)- someone who feels romantic attraction only to people they’re not deeply connected with, and they loose that attraction as they get closer. Often seen as “the opposite of demiromantic” Recipromantic- someone who only feels romantic attraction to someone who is romantically attracted to them first
  14. You both might want to look into QPRs (or queerplatonic realtionships), and looking into alterous or queerplatonic attraction might be helpful for him. I think y’all might also want to talk about whether or not you prioritize your crushes/dates over him, y’know? Let him know that he’s not “standing in the way” of anything, and I understand that he doesn’t like talking about this but I strongly encourage it, especially with how important this relationship seems to be to both of you
  15. Probably Shadow Walkers by Brent Hartinger, it's objectively not a great book but it's an easy read and it's always there for me when I need it. Also, I unknowingly stole half of my personality from one of the charachters (Emory) when I was in 5th grade lmao
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