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    Aros in Science

    in Intersectionality

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    On 3/1/2024 at 6:24 PM, smac n cheese said:

    hi science aros! I'm aro and like 99% sure I'm ace, and I LOVE blowing stuff up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    If I told my ex about you, she would freak out.

    Feeling alone as a young aroace

    in Aromantic Discussion

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    On 4/9/2024 at 3:45 PM, AroAceGamer said:

    1. How did you find out you were aro/ace (spectrum)

    2. How did you come out to parents/family if you have

    Thanks

    -AroAceGamer

    My best friend (at the time, he turned out to be a jerk) came out as ace when we were both sixteen or so.  So I started looking into being ace.  I was only looking into it for the purposes of being a good ally, at the time I was pretty sure I was a lesbian.  However, when about a year passed, and I felt no sexual attraction to anyone, I realized I might be ace too.  I started saying I was questioning at seventeen, and I came out as ace at eighteen (after some sexual experimentation with my at-the-time girlfriend).  

    Figuring out that I'm lith/aro has been a lot harder.  I really only figured it out right before I went off to college.  I was basically sitting down in Spanish class one day, and thought, "everyone I've ever crushed on, I've only ever wanted to be friends with them".  This was a revelation to me.  I then realized I could fit in very nicely with either the lith or aro category.  I pretty much considered the matter settled after that.  I did meet someone online after my first semester of college, and fell in love with him, but I still didn't want a romantic relationship per say (I wanted a QPR) so I feel that doesn't invalidate my identity.  

    I am out to my Mom.  I am not sure if she believes me or not (I'm autistic, so sometimes it can be hard for me to parse these things).  I am also out to my stepdad.  I think his main worry is that I'm going to be lonely forever and never experience love.  That is a legit concern (I haven't told him that), because I spend a lot of time alone, even in college.  But I have a really, really good crop of online friends (including one who calls me "Mom").  So, I am not worried about that for now.  

    Hope that helped.

    ---Alto

    Brother Bear II (spoiler warning)

    in Aromantic Pride and Culture

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    I saw Brother Bear II with my Mom last night, and was rather pleasantly surprised.  I saw it once when I was little.  I remembered it as this really mushy movie where the MC finally finds a girlfriend, and everything ends in romantic bliss.  However, upon re-watching when older, it actually wasn't like that at all.  Kenai could really easily be headcanoned as grayromantic, if not fully aro.  There is a lot of emphasis on Kenai and Nita's relationship, but it's not romantic for most of the movie.   Most of the time, they're just good friends hanging out who have an unusually strong bond (queerplatonic?).  Even in the end, when Nita turns into a bear, it isn't implied that the two are in a romantic relationship.  It is just implied that the two have a permanent, lifelong bond.

    I was really touched by that because you never see that in the media, and that's the sort of relationship I want.

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