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Hello! I am in kind of a confusing situation right now. So basically, my best friend is leaving the country for a year and I just can´t cope with it. And, yeah of course I will miss my friend because they are gone. I know that is legit. But lately, I was wondering wether or not these feelings are a little more than friendship? I thought I was aro, but with every step I got emotionally closer to my friend, I was more caught up in jealousy. And when my friend slept at my house, next to me, I just feel so good about it. And so lonely when they don´t. I constantly want them to text me or text them, every night I send a good night message because otherwise I can´t sleep. So another friend of mine suggested, that I might be demiaro and it would makes sense. However, right now it does not really change anything. If so, I would end up having those feelings alone. And now, since my friend is about to leave I just can´t stop crying. At nights, at work, whenever they are sending me nice texts. I asked (yet again) another friend how it feels for her when her heart gets broken after a breakup or something. And every single thing she described is what I am going through right now. The pain, the loneliness. This feeling like I need to learn how to live again. I am sorry for the mess in this post, I am not even sure wether I really have a question. But maybe someone shares some of my experiences. Or does anyone have anything to say about broken hearts? Greetings from Europe!

Hello Erederyn, thanks for your response. You are definitely right about this, usually I would do that anyways. We are so open about anything and she kinda knows how important she is to me. But I also know that she has troubles with strong relationships. Its complicated and probably I am overreacting, I will just have to sit through this week and talk to her when I see her again. I try to branch out a bit more when it comes to friendships. I have other friends that are important to me. I just haven't been that focused on one person that much in years now. I guess it was caused by the rough time I have been through that only she really knew/knows about. Thats what I meant by saying giving her space, I don't want us to get out of touch but I need to loose this immense tie to her, if that makes sense. For our both´s sake, after all. And I am very sorry to hear, that you had some bad experiences with a squish. I can relate, this is not the first time I struggle with it.

Hello everyone, I am being a bit emotional right now because of a Squish (or is it a crush? idk). So, let me explain: There is this one person in my life right now that is like super important to me. Usually we meet up like 3 or 4 times a week and text all day every day, but this week I won't meet up with her and since she went to her boyfriend I don't hear a lot from her (which is fine, I know she is occupied after all). And I know I am being stupid, because I am happy she has her boyfriend. But I am jealous. A bit too jealous for my taste. I feel vulnerable, I feel like we overshared our lives lately. And maybe I am kinda scared she will back out of this intense friendship, which I think would leave me shattered. I try to give her space because I feel like both of us would need that right now, but at the same time its just so difficult to do so. Anyone out there with similar experiences? How do you stop thinking about stuff like this? And would you consider jealousy to be a thing exclusively for crushes/romantic relationships? I don't feel like I would want a romantic relationship with my friend (like cuddling, dates, that kind of stuff). But I still try to figure out "how" aro I really am and this is giving me headaches for weeks now.

Hello Black Sesame, I am late in the game but I just came upon your post and since I face exactly the same issues with my family, I thought it wouldn't hurt to answer anyway. So basically, for the last 2 months and especially around Christmas, my dad was all over the fact that I might have a boyfriend this time next year. That I wouldn't spend Christmas at their house anymore. Stuff like that. Every time I would just walk away (one time I went to the basement, trying not to scream in desperation to be quite honest), because in fact I still don't know exactly where I stand with my romantic orientation - I am pretty sure I am aro, but it takes time to fully accept it in an environment that expects everyone to marry, buy a house and have 2 children. I am just not ready to have this conversation with my parents but I keep telling them that I am fine and happy on my own. Which they don't believe, in fact I think my dad assumes I am a lesbian. So I guess I can't really help you besides giving you a heads up, that I know exactly how you feel. It isn't easy, but we will get through it, I suppose. And some day, if you feel like it, you can sit down and explain to your dad how you feel and what your goals in life are. And if none of those are about getting married: It is your life and not your parents! Ich komme übrigens aus Österreich, woher kommst du? Ich hab mir schon bei "Beuteschema" gedacht, da ist jemand deutschsprachiger unterwegs, was du später ja sogar bestätigt hast :) Wenn du dich austauschen willst schreib mir gern eine Nachricht, ich würde mich freuen. Es kann manchmal einsam sein, wenn man niemanden kennt, dem es genauso geht..