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On 10/14/2023 at 12:53 PM, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

It could be actually. It's hard to explain, because for a rural and conservative area, pretty much lot's of people (mainly the boomers and some gen X-ers) expect everyone to fill in the status quo: be straight, cis, and have a partner, and/or kids. But there's also this underlined "We kind of don't give a shit," to the area (that I live in at least) where, yeah, if you're openly queer there may be some people who will have a few thoughts, and the same for if a the community knows your business and so knows your single and that you haven't made any moves to change that - but take action on it? No.

So, conversations regarding romance and sex aren't ever really explored upon unless they're unoriginally only straight and cis focused. And even then, because there be quite a lot of religious people, some of them may not even want to dive into those topics at all even if they fit into a box of their liking.

Yeah that line of we don't care what you are doing but are silently judging you is super hard to navigate, I feel like. Cause you never really know what people are saying behind your back. So that's tough to handle for sure.

On 5/30/2023 at 8:28 PM, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

Having grown up in a standard poor American, somewhat-religious-but-not-really, household I often felt pressure into finding a partner mainly by society and those around me in public/school, than I do/did at home. I mean, because my family doesn't know much about aromanticism, other than the few times I've talked about it, there is that unspoken expectation that I may end up with a partner, but generally not much is ever brought up about who I supposedly may like or want to see/date.

Growing up there wasn't much talk about romance or sex, unless me and someone else started a conversation about it, or if I was just starting to learn about those things in the first place.

Do you think it has something to do with being in a rural, conservative area? Or not really? There may not be a correlation at all to be fair.

Hi there. I wonder if there's a connection between being aromantic and intellectualism. I've defined being an intellectual as someone who likes learning about literature, learning more about science, mathematics, philosophy, etc. not just for a job but also in their free time. I do feel like the stereotypes lend itself towards aromanticism and a lack of interest in romance due to their cerebral nature, but this could just be a stereotype.

2 hours ago, HelloThere said:

There’s definitely a more violent book but it’s so freaking good! :D

Violent? So are you saying that that counts as more in the adult fiction genre then for earlier books? Not that the microlabel is really that important but I am interested now as to why you said that.

4 hours ago, HelloThere said:

Oh my gosh if I could go into the world of Wings of Fire I’d do so with no regrets.

This books look cool even though it seems like it's in the YA/teenage fiction genre for sure.

3 hours ago, CareLuv said:

Ok, that’s what I suspected. I’m in Portland, OR, so I figure it might be easier for me here. People are a lot more open. Kind of wish my best friend wasn’t married as she would be open to it otherwise. Oh well - I’m content single. Maybe I’ll meet someone looking for the same practicality some time. Thanks for the reply!

No worries. It's tough out there for sure, especially when you're no longer a kid or teen. More responsibilities, and for me personally I have a lot of obstacles (in terms of intersectional identities) to make long term friends that want to stick around, much less get an "intimate" (even if it were just in the emotional sense) QPR as well so it's good to know that I'm not the only dealing with loneliness (in some sense of the word).

25 minutes ago, CareLuv said:

Hey all. Hope you’re hanging in there! I’m posting to ask about people’s experiences with QPPs. I’m not currently seeking one - just thinking about the future. Having another committed person to pool resources with and be able to rely on for help/support seems very practical and safe. I wouldn’t really care what I or the other person did in terms of safe sex (with others or each other) as long as we felt we could  stay committed to the QPP as we define it. How hard has it been for people to find relationships like this? I don’t know many people who would be down for that type of amorphous arrangement. I feel like this would be really rare.

I haven't had much luck, then again, I kinda suck at socializing so that could be one aspect of things for me. Yeah I think most people are allo and not aro and the two go together for them so that has been challenging.

9 hours ago, Sabrina F said:

I’d love to be a robot, though unfortunately I’m not

Time for the necessary plug of the song by Kraftwerk- We Are the Robots https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_8Pma1vHmw

On 6/23/2023 at 12:15 AM, Holmbo said:

Neither

Where did you get it? I suppose I could also do a simple google search too :)

4 hours ago, HelloThere said:

I mean I might be aro-spec but most orientations seem to have a partial understanding of things. The aesthetic of a relationship sounds nice but I’d never seek that out or have any interest in someone if they showed interest. I mean I’ve never felt romantic attraction but I think that o might be aro-spec or something, only time will tell.

I see what you mean, used to seek those out only because the type of commitment I want isn't typically considered a "friendship zone" type of deal. When I give folks my speciifications, they are like yeah, you gotta be in a relationship to have that type of frequent contact, checking in frequently, etc. 

5 hours ago, AstrophelDragon said:

However much I have a tendency to really want people to understand everything perfectly and as a result over-explain everything, I've learned that it's hard enough for people to just understand aro. Putting some other random label out there isn't going to help.

I used to be like that but then I realized I also want to keep my stress level down, and evaluated if people were actually listening to what I'm saying or if it's a "in one ear and out the other type of deal." Definitely different for everyone, no doubt.

4 hours ago, Holmbo said:

Have anyone else read this book? I'm reading it now and I find it very useful and inspiring. It's about different ways to create community. The author clearly knows a lot about queer culture and references aro concepts such as qpr.

Were you able to get it a library or did you get it on amazon?

3 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said:

I do that. Currently I don't really know what my romantic orientation is, but it is definitely somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, and it feels close enough to just aromantic that when I'm talking the people outside the aro community I tend to just call myself "aromantic" and say I don't experience romantic attraction, because it seems functionally true

Yeah I feel like it can be a way to simplify the discussion and make things more efficient for people who don't want to talk at detail about everything every single time.

5 hours ago, AstrophelDragon said:

If you connect with robots, then by all means make that a part of your identity. As long as you make it clear to anyone that asks that a lot of aro people do not identify with robots, I see nothing wrong with it

Insert mandatory joke about an aro person who identifies as a robot engineer, which is okay, different than an aro person identifying as a robot. Of course there are ways to logically connect these even further, for sure. 

On 6/21/2023 at 8:48 AM, DogObsessedLianne said:

What are people's availability for Sunday 9th around 7pm BST?

Any ideas for a topic before I pick one from random?

So this is July 9th? 

Yeah some people use terms like being on the aro-spec in general, and when asked about it in more detail, say they are grey-aro. So it's definitely possible for sure.

On 5/31/2023 at 10:14 PM, SwiftySpeedy said:

Like Wario doesn't give a crap about anything at all besides money. Bro eats garlic I mean full on garlic as a snack like What?, and to top it off he doesn't even have a love interest.

I guess that and farting as a power-up. Also he's not willing to hide his bodily functions, which is interesting for a video game character.

4 hours ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

It’s not a QPR unless you and the other person involved have explicitly agreed to call it a QPR. The only thing that makes it a QPR is labeling it as such. 

Is that "Are we in a QPR consent form" thing still on tumblr? There used to be one that broke it down and had nice pictures and everything.

For sure, but only in terms of the labels, since I am an intersex person, it almost feels like I have to be "pansexual" by default.

On 5/30/2023 at 6:21 PM, Erika8 said:

I rarely play now, not much time. although I used to like it a lot. I recently started playing some games where you can earn cryptocurrency. It's a really interesting way to make some profit while playing. Basically, these games offer unique mechanics where you can earn tokens or other cryptocurrency by completing certain tasks or achievements in the game. Some games even allow you to sell or trade earned items on a platform within the game. I recently started playing on the https://sp7.io/ platform. There are several games there where you can earn tokens, which can then be exchanged for cryptocurrency. They have interesting game mechanics and a large community of players.

I think the only thing that I know that allows that, is not a video game or computer game, but the Brave computer browser.

11 hours ago, Eclipse said:

Raven Symone.

For real? Like did she come out as that or was her character somehow non binary??

7 minutes ago, Dane said:

to me it seems like r/actuallyaromantic is a subreddit for those who aren't pleased with the current state of r/aromantic because of the reasons op stated above

hating arospecs? I didn't know if it was done in jest or not though.

19 minutes ago, Dane said:

You know, if you have a problem with the current state of r/aromantic, you could have sent us feedback through modmail... mod applications are open by the way, I think that might interest you.

I am totally out of the loop, what's the difference between r/aromantic and r/actuallyaromantic? 

On 4/5/2023 at 5:31 PM, Ravensplat said:

No current release date but leaks suggest June

Maybe it'll be on Amazon video? I know netflix is better but I dont watch TV much and would just like to have access to the movie lol.

5 hours ago, A User said:

It's coming out TOMORROW and I CAN'T WAIT!

Thoughts?!

When is it coming out on DVD or Blu-ray? Or netflix lol. I just don't know if I can make it to a movie theater lol.

On 3/17/2023 at 9:40 AM, LoganTheAxolotl said:

I myself am Logan, He/It/Ze  pronouns, and I am omni aligned oriented aromantic/demiplatonic and omni acespike.

Oriented aromantic meaning: Someone who doesn't feel romantic attraction, but may feel platonic/alterous attraction towards other people and may want to form romantic-seeming relationships with them(living together, cuddling, kissing, etc).

Demiplatonic meaning: Someone who doesn't feel platonic attraction to people without getting to know them first.

Acespike meaning: Someone who rarely feels sexual attraction, and when they do its it short spikes of attraction.

Omni/Omniplatonic/Omniromantic/Omnisexual meaning: Similar to Pan, someone who feels attraction to all genders but has a preference unlike Pan.

 

 

My preference regarding Omni: I like women the most, men the least, and people who are neither, both, in between, or whatever I like in the middle.

What does demiplatonic mean? Or at least where online can I find out more information about what that identity means?