crazydreamer

I did come out recently to my parents and they both somewhat accept me. Well enough as long as I don't bring it up, they are fine. I've become a. lot stronger over the years, mainly because of something traumatic, but now I don't take orders.

So I grew up very indian-ly. And when I was younger, I wanted to get a pixie cut (now I got one) and so I asked my mom and dad if I could. My dad was VERY against that but my mom didn't care too much. So my dad and I got into a giant fight. And so when my mom tried to intervene, my dad said, "Will she get married with that haircut?" And I was like, "What?" And he went, "You are going to marry someone with that haircut? No good indian boy will like that. This leads to bad marriages and other things, that's why the divorce rate is high in America." And I was like, "That's why you don't want me to get it?" Important lesson learned: Haircuts ruin marriages.

True! (I kinda forget then come back then forget then come back) TPBM likes frogs

Media representation can really annoy me when it comes to Neurodivergence. On the bright side, Doctor Who is pretty fantastic and Arthur Christmas is the coolest son of Santa. It would be nice if they put more neurodivergent characters in media and books because it feels good relating to someone like you without them being the weird sidekick or the neville of the group.

I hate that! It makes it so annoying when people treat other's like children, like we can't handle ourselves. Like Sia's movie. Ugh. Yes we need help sometimes but so do all humans. Neurodivergence is too stigmatised. On a brighter note, my favourite fidget toy is this one, I don't know what it's called but I really like it because it's silent and I can do it mindlessly. Here's the link for it: https://www.etsy.com/listing/266708061/fidget-toy-great-for-focus-autism-adhd?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=fidget+toys&ref=sr_gallery-1-14&organic_search_click=1&frs=1&bes=1&col=1

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That must have been awful to not know why people thought you were like that. This is why it's so important to educate people about all different sides of neurodiversity because so many people grow up thinking that something's wrong with them when it's not their fault. People used to think I didn't care about their ideas and didn't show any interest in them. I'm so glad you have a diagnosis now. I don't know why they don't talk about mental illness and neurodiversity in kids other than the occasional, "be nice to kids who are different" in school.

Fidget toys are some of the best things in life and you can't change my mind. I also really love zippers for no reason.

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I recently got diagnosed as an adult with ADHD-C (Combined ADHD) even though my therapist said I've had it since I was a kid. I kinda knew for a long time but with my parents who are pretty strict, I never got I diagnosis until now in college. So I was wondering about other peoples stories and stuff. Do we got some other ND people here? When did you kinda know? What do you do? Misrepresentation/Stereotypes that annoys you? Stuff that you love? Sensory toys? I don't know why I'm doing this but I hope to learn a lot. I was a good school kid which made it hard to get a diagnosis, being AFAB and stuff. But I figured it out and I'm so happy that I can understand myself better. So yeah, stay safe and have fun and I can't wait to see what everyone thinks.

I'm sorry you feel that you're hurting people but I want you to know that you aren't in the long term. It's okay to experiment with your sexuality and try different things. Maybe try a QPR, that way you can still be close to someone without having to like them romantically. Even though I don't exactly know how you feel, I understand. When I was younger allonormativity made me want to like someone. I would try to like my friends in a different light but I couldn't. Once someone told me they liked me and I told them I liked them back because I thought I did and that was what romantic attraction felt like. We never went out but he asked me several times before I graduated and I felt so confused because I wanted it but I felt repulsed at the same time at the thought of a relationship. It is nice having someone close to that you can talk to and I think you will find it. I hope you find someone you can do all the things you want to with and know that it isn't your fault for those marriages. Have a nice day and stay safe! Ps: here's some aro ice cream to make you feel better.

My name is Safina and I'm a aroace demigirl! I came here from AVEN and I'm really glad I figured everything out. My pronouns are She/they though I prefer they/them ones. I'm really glad I found communities for my sexuality! I tend to talk about the randomest stuff so sorry for that. And yeah, bai.