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About SurrealEntity

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  • Birthday 02/11/1996

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  • Orientation
    Queer, Aego (partly), Apothiromantic
  • Gender
    Genderqueer, Neutral/Femme flux
  • Pronouns
    Willow/Willows, He/him/his, It/its
  • Location
    My Imagination
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    Your Local Sassy Cryptid

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  1. SurrealEntity

    Can't relate

    Hey! It's perfectly fine to not be romance-repulsed and aro! I personally am a sex-positive ace-spec person. You might want to look into aegoromantic or cupioromantic though, it sounds a bit like what you described :).
  2. Yea so I never got the memo that a crush was supposed to be romantic.. And I genuinely felt like I did experience crushes before realizing that I am actually aromantic. So it's really hard for me not to associate the word crush with whatever the fuck it is that I am experiencing 😂. It kinda sucks. I hate that it implies romance. But basically how I define a crush is -Thinking they are aesthetically attractive. and/or -Thinking they are really cool. And a squish is -Thinking they are really cool and relatable. It's pretty vague. I get 'crushes' a lot, but squishes not so oft
  3. Heya, to me it sounds like you are hetero-oriented, but you don't have to be hetero-romantic! You could be hetero-alterous, or hetero-queerplatonic. Basically there are other attraction types besides romantic, sexual, and platonic. And you can have relationships or strong bonds with people without it having to be romantic! (or sexual lol obviously). This might be what you're experiencing.
  4. Well, you can't really help who you get attracted to. It might be some unconscious prejudice that causes it though, but that doesn't really change the fact you have no sexual or romantic desire for them. And I definitely don't think you're fetishizing them. It could also be that those particular 3 trans guys just felt more like friends to you.
  5. I have questioned both my romantic and sexual orientation separately for years. Wow this is going to be very long. I've always had a really strong aesthetic attraction, but it isn't tied to any other orientation. There's just this loose, vivid aesthetic attraction that makes me appreciate visual beauty, but it doesn't form into anything else. It doesn't make me want to pursue people, it doesn't make me want to get close to them at all. I just like visuals, I'm a visual person. So I remember finding people pretty in my teens, and I remember that it was usually aimed at women and feminine peop
  6. I think they can. As you said, it's possible for a trans person to not be dysphoric, so it must be possible the other way around, unless I'm also missing something and that logic is flawed somehow.
  7. Wait.. Platonic doesn't mean friendship?? Then what is the attraction type for wanting to be friends with someone?
  8. Okay so, liking penises does not equal to liking men (trans women and AMAB non-binary people exist y'all) and it's entirely possible to have sex with someone you're not sexually attracted to and enjoy it. So, nothing about the points you wrote actually indicates that you feel sexual attraction towards men, which would be a requirement for being bisexual. Therefore you aren't bisexual. It does seem like you might have a sexual philia for peni?
  9. I can't give any insight on the romantic aspect, but I relate to having 'skewed' perception of a platonic relation. It might be because I'm demi-platonic and need a lot of time to grow towards someone, but I need a deeper emotional connection to truly call someone a friend. This requirement to most people would probably seem ludicrous and already threading past platonic territory. So... I guess at the point where I would consider someone a friend, is where other people would already consider them romantic, queerplatonic, or alterous interests. I don't know lmao. But there is no line for me pas
  10. For me the nuance is a bit different, I would be perfectly fine having an intimate relationship with only one person, but I want there to be the freedom to include one or more persons, or start new intimate relationships. I just don't want the relationship to be limited to monogamy, if that makes sense? But like, I also don't necessarily need to have multiple partners to feel fulfilled, so I wouldn't consider myself to be poly. Yet it isn't ambiamory either, because I would in no circumstance be okay with a strictly monogamous relationship. It's confusing. FWY the relationship I'm talking a
  11. CW: Possible triggering topics in here, but they're only briefly mentioned. I was once in a similar situation, some person I met online was begging/forcing me to date them and emotionally manipulating me with threats of harming themself if I didn't. I didn't know them very well so I didn't feel comfortable dating them and had no emotional connection to them. Especially because of the way they treated me, I knew I would never develop an emotional connection to them. It was a very scary experience, but I ultimately blocked them. What they decide to do to themselves is not my fault, I am not o
  12. I use romance-repulsed. I am also romance-averse, but the general concept of romance repulses me even when it doesn't involve myself at all, so romance-repulsed works better.
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