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    aroace lesbian
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    nonbinary butch trans female
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    she/her, they/them, ze/zer
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  1. I ship fictional characters alot, although it's mainly a holdover from my teenage days back when I thought I was still allo. I don't do this with any new fandoms I get into, although I do it with old fandoms I've been a part of for a while.
  2. DJ and Eva from Total Drama series are both aro to me
  3. Ideally I just want a studio apartment for me myself and I! But rent is shit expensive these days so realistically I'd be forced to share an apartment with other people. As long as I sleep in my own bed (or even a sleeping bag) I'm fine.
  4. Amen to that. My parents can barely handle me and my brother even though they both have stable full-time 6-figure jobs lol. What the hell is society thinking, pressuring people to have kids?
  5. Is it possible to be aroace and lesbian at the same time? I'm not interested in sex or romance in any way, but I still feel attracted to women pretty strongly in a platonic (sometimes queerplatonic) and aesthetic way. What does this make me?
  6. Autistic (confirmed) and a shitton of personality disorders (SzPD, AvPD, and PPD suspected). I think being autistic makes it easy for me to stay home during a pandemic. I was already kinda germaphobic and touch-averse and repulsed by large gatherings even before the pandemic. Never really saw the appeal of bars or concerts or sports games, and I always preferred to eat restaurant food take-out instead of sit-down. So it's easy as fuck for me to stay at home every day. I suspect that my autism has an influence on my aromanticism and vice versa. I have a hard time relating to other people due to my autism, so as a result romantic relationships just feel like really complicated/exclusive friendships to me. Being autistic aroace also makes me loyal to a fault when it comes to my friends, and I tend to be devastated whenever I lose friends.
  7. A bit late to the thread, but I'm a Chinese-American college student. My parents strongly frowned upon highschool relationships which weirdly enough didn't bother me at all. My parents are massively homophobic and transphobic but weirdly enough they don't care about the fact that I've never dated before and I'm not interested in relationships. However, they don't know anything about aromanticism so they just think I'm too busy to date people (I'm a physics major, that's probably why). However, my parents do want me to get married after college but I think marriage is a fucking scam. There's nothing appealing about being forced to live in the same house with the person you both argue and sleep with every day. Honestly though, with the coronavirus pandemic I'm paranoid that the world hates my guts because I'm both Chinese and American. As a POC autistic trans woman I'm also confident that the Trump administration hates my guts too. Weirdly enough, I feel like being aroace makes it relatively easy for me to live through the pandemic. I never really feel any desire for physical contact with other humans, and I'm extremely non-social (I would argue that I have schizoid/paranoid/avoidant personality disorders but that's a discussion for another time) so it's always an easy decision to sit on my ass inside my house every day. I dunno, I feel extremely alienated in general. I don't identify with either American (too individualistic and consumerist) or Chinese (too authoritarian and traditionalist) cultures because both cultures are nightmarishly transphobic and ableist (at least to me).
  8. I should've known I was aro back when I was in high school. Sure, I had crushes on girls but oftentimes it felt like I was forcing myself to play by a heteronormative script. I don't think any of my crushes felt completely like authentic crushes. I went through all of high school never dating anyone and never going to prom, and for some reason I actually felt pretty happy/relieved about it when all was said and done. I would often joke to my friends that I would be single for the rest of my life and it felt pretty validating for some reason. Halfway through my freshman year of college I stopped having any kinds of crushes whatsoever. To me romantic relationships just feel like far more troublesome and exclusive friendships. Now I'm happily aro (well, as happy as a depressed paranoid autistic trans woman of color can be in today's world) and I'm never looking back.
  9. If I absolutely have to, I'll marry a close friend of mine for tax/housing/healthcare/insurance benefits and financial stability (in case one of us loses our job). I would prefer not to though. I just wish it was more socially acceptable for people to live with their friends in a non-romantic way. I don't wanna have kids either lol, not sure I could deal with them.
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