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  1. @HotRamen sorry for the late reply, but here it is! https://www.webtoons.com/en/challenge/hooverville/list?title_no=572627 Like I said, neither characters have been offically revealed yet, but I will as soon as I get the chance to. (also, I try my best to tag possible triggers/content warnings since heavy topics are going to occur sooner or later)
  2. Aside from the various art projects I told myself I was gonna do, I think I wanna work on being kinder to myself. Last year really took a toll on me and my already horrible self esteem. I was still in deep denial of my aro identity and suffered because of it. I had also just gotten out of an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship that year, and the gaslighting that person did made me think horribly about myself. My goals are: 1. Be more open/accepting of my aro identity, 2. Continue to learn more about the aroace community, and 3. Improve my overall self image.
  3. Thank you so much for all of this, I especially found the blog really helpful!
  4. Would it be ok if I advertise my webomic in this thread? I have one acearo and one aceallo(?) character (although neither have been revealed to be so just yet, I am still only on episode 2) Otherwise, I will let you know if I find other comics with aro/ace characters
  5. So I am sure there is already an in depth guide somewhere on the internet, but I think its better to get multiple opinions from people who Identify as aro, ace, or aroace (+any variation that comes with). To be more specific, I plan on writing/developing some aroace characters (for my webcomic) and as an alloaro, I want to make sure I don't accidently misrepresent my aspec peers. Although the story won't revolve entirely around their relationships, I still want to make it an important part of their identity due to the lack of aroace representation. The first character is a sid
  6. Im alloaro and I also thought about getting into a somewhat sexual QPR. Im still not fully out as aro but I've been working on it. Hopefully I would try to use some of Holmbo's advice for myself. I wanna try out qprs in general just to see how they work. I wish the best of luck to you, Bas!
  7. Saw some acephobia on my tumblr dash today and felt disgusted. I'm not even ace, but this community has made me love ace people more than ever. Unfollowed immediately. 

  8. 1. There are a lot of aros who still want to be in relationships/like relationships in theory, so the lack of attraction but desire to be with somebody still makes you aro! (also, squishes (platonic crushes) are pretty common for aros to have and often get confused for crushes) 2. Although those things can be considered romantic-coded in context, there also present in a lot of non-romantic relationships! I say as long as your friends are ok with that level of affection, theres nothing wrong with expressing your platonic love that way 3. I go back and forth on this, but I would
  9. Im also alloaro, and sometimes I wish I was ace so I could feel less gross about only having sexual attraction. BUT with that said, there is nothing wrong with still feeling sexual attraction without romantic attraction! I just wish the stuff you get out of a romantic relationship wasn't exclusive to them. I would love to live with a close friend and maybe even have a casual sexual relationship with one if possible. And since somebody already mentioned it, the SAM has helped me wrap my head around the whole concept as well.
  10. Yknow its really hard to find people who have your exact experiences. This is probably the closest thing. I experience a lot of sexual attraction or even "aesthetic" attraction, yet I would often mistake that for "love." Someone else in this thread also mentioned "love at first sight", which would describe my sexual attraction more ig. I especially relate to the feeling of claustrophobia or the sense of being trapped in a relationship, which is even weirder if it was a relationship I pursued in the first place. I liked the idea of romantic relationships in the beginning, but I would
  11. I still ship every once in a while, but I think you describe my relationship to it perfectly. I've been thinking about this for a while when I discovered I was aro back in July. I find myself more invested in the character dynamic and relationship development than the relationship itself. I do like to look at "romance coded" things, but in a vacuum, and shipping happens to be my vacuum of choice. I mainly ship my own characters now since I have more control over their dynamic, but I'll occasionally see two characters and go "haha they're boyfriends" just because. And I do occasionall
  12. I do ask about others friendship statuses sometimes, but I do so out of instinct rather than on purpose. I didn't even notice that I did it until this thread! Wonder if thats an exclusively aro thing? Anyway, I thought up on some prompts that could help: "So you've been staying with X? How's that been?" "I saw you've been hanging around with Y a lot recently, any particular reason?" "So do you and X have anything in common? What kinds of things do you guys do?" "Oh my goodness, my friend Y just did this crazy thing. Does X ever do stuff like that?" Saying these th
  13. Update: After a few months we broke up, but are remaining as friends! I guess I'm ok with that since I was starting to lose interest in the relationship and he probably was too. I don't know, I tried being "romantic", but it just didn't work out. i do feel sad, but I can't tell if its because of the breakup or if I just...secretly wish I was "normal". I still suffer majorly from internalized arophobia despite being a supporter of other ace/aro people for years. I guess its different when you have to deal with it yourself. Anyway, I appreciate the support you all gave me nonethel
  14. Its been a while, but I'm back. Probably going to pop in more every once in a while. I really just need to accept myself already.

    1. NotHeartless


      Yeah, well...took me several years to accept I'm aro (and ace). You can't rush things but yes, it is important you accept yourself. I think that's the biggest lesson I've needed to learn since discovering my identity (still need to learn sometimes). I wish you the best and hope the forums & community can help and support you on your journey :aropride:

    2. GhostyPeppers


      Awh thank you so much, I appreciate the support! :aropride:

    3. NotHeartless
  15. So...after promising myself i would never enter a romantic relationship again (made after I accepted my aromantic identity), I went ahead and got into yet another relationship. See, what happened was that I started playfully flirting with a friend of a friend (who i wanted to get to know better anyway). I think I mainly did it because I found them somewhat attractive, plus they seemed very sweet! Yet as we slowly started to spend more time together, the flirting became less casual and they even started dropping hints back. After a bit of a back and forth, we finally opened up to each othe
  16. Im glad im not the only aro who had a "obsessed with romance at a very early age" phase. Tbh I feel like the media really makes it out to be like romance is the only reason to live sometimes, ANYWAY- I hope you find your place here! We're a very welcoming community! Ive definitely felt welcomed when i first joined and i hope you do too.
  17. I constantly switch back and forth between "I don't need romance to be happy, I have great friends for that!!" and "I am so alone and sad,, I wanna share a bed with someone and make out and aaaaa-", so I totally get it. Its also hard when you try talking to an allo person and they treat your aromanticism like it is a choice and not simply something you have zero control over. I never felt happy forcing myself into relationships, nor do I always feel happy not having them at all because my brain was conditioned to believe that romance was the ultimate source of happiness. But they'll always be
  18. Sometimes my alloromantic friends will say something that probably sounds supportive to them, but only makes me feel like they're being dismissive towards my experiences.

  19. I don't think I have bipolar specifically, but I have noticed that I have frequent periods of very productive high energy weeks/days and then I'll suddenly have a week where I don't wanna do anything or talk to anybody because I feel so dead inside, like all of the energy I had the week before is suddenly completely gone. That could be just normal depression or something but I don't know. And, to briefly bring up aromanticism, I have noticed that I tend to "yern" for romance/sexual intimacy during these unmotivated moments than I do any other week where platonic friendships are more than
  20. Hello! Welcome (back)! Glad to have you here!
  21. Hey, welcome! Hope you enjoy your stay here
  22. Huh, Ive heard of QPRs, but I never considered non-platonic friendships to be a thing. I just assumed friendships were platonic by default? This is an interesting insight, thanks for sharing
  23. GOD I feel that so much! Anyway, welcome to the community! I haven't been here for long, but as far as I can tell you'll fit in just fine. Being on this form has helped me accept myself better, so I highly recommend reading through as many forms posts as possible. Good luck on your journey my dude!
  24. Ah don't worry! I completely get that. I've stayed away from horror for a while due to my anxiety, but my love for it has grown over the years. I also appreciate the aesthetic side of horror/gothic things as well. Either way, you seem pretty cool!
  25. Hey mate, glad you were able to eventually come to terms with your aromanticism! Im still in the process, yet this little community has been helping me out with that a lot. You'll fit in perfectly.
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