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I made friendship bracelets in the aro and ace colors respectively! I might do a combined one eventually, but I would probably have to get more colors for it (my favorite is the orange and blue flag, it's soo pretty. My friends have dubbed it the "tidepod flag" ) Kinda same here. My friends talk about crushes... rarely? I'd say like once a month, max. It immediately gets really awkward for everyone when they bring it up, though. Lots of "you're so lucky to be aro!" ? I can't be the only one who hates when alloros say that.

50 percent aroace 17 percent aroallo 17 percent alloace 8 percent alloallo 8 percent demi Weird how my results are all tied lol

Eldest here. My younger sister hasn't properly "come out" but I would be really surprised if she wasn't aspec like me, we share a lot of the same mentality about things. Aside from I think one gay cousin I barely talk to, my family is full of cishets.

I think the appeal of QPRs is the exclusivity of it. The whole idea of having your "special someone" to hang out and chill with. That, and I would imagine most people in QPRs wouldn't get into romantic relationships, removing the ever-present fear of losing your BFF because they pay more attention to their romantic partner. That's my theory, anyway. Personally, if I had a close friend who was aro or not interested in relationships, I wouldn't care if it was a QPR or not.

No one is around a lot of the time, there aren't any new posts, and if there are they're just people having fun with games. I honestly wish there was more discussion because it feels like there is barely any.

I totally feel this way. I guess the solution is what @Holmbo described—not ranking things? I dunno, just a theory.

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Of course it is! You're never too young/too old. If you end up feeling attraction someday, it's not a big deal. If you don't, it's also not a big deal.

Maybe, but I'm an INFP so . Sometimes I get INFJ, although I think I'm more of an INFP myself. As for nature... depends how confident I feel lol

Haha, same here ! I discovered by aromanticism (and asexuality) through them as well. Not their videos, but their book. My local library happened to have it (I live in a very pro-LGBT+ area lol).

Just curious, what are aplatonic aros and loveless aros?

I've only ever had one real rejection story, but I don't know if it counts because the friend never officially said that they liked me... however it was heavily implied. It was over text and incredibly awkward. There was also this time where some girl told me some random boy on my bus liked me... he had been trying to make what I interpreted as a few moves towards me but he eventually stopped. It was really weird. Sometimes I get jealous my friends don't get crushes on me but it's probably due to my own amatonormativity more than anything else. It would be really awkward anyways, so

Yep, not at all (Hello from AVEN )! As @nonmerci said, aros wanting QPRs is perfectly normal!

this one is such a mood.

1. Honestly I just want variety. Aro guys, girls, enbys, allos, aces, anything goes. Same variety with genres too—fantasy, sci-fi, contemporary, you name it. I would love a story where a character is just... aro. It's not a big deal, it's not a major plot point. We're far away from that but I would love to see it someday. 2. Loveless by Alice Oseman is one of my top aro book recommendations! The main character is aro ace, and there is a gay ace side character and a (minor, sadly) aro bi one too. For anyone looking for aro book recs, aroace author Claudie Arseneault made a handy database (https://www.obvibase.com/p/N7SD6v1F4mrVBWzV/?location={"type"%3A"table"%2C"databaseId"%3A"N7SD6v1F4mrVBWzV"%2C"queryPath"%3A{"recordPath"%3A[]%2C"columnPath"%3A["1"]}}) for this exact purpose! Besides that, there isn't much unfortunately. Proper representation would really help our visibility.

Agreed!

YMBAI if people dating when they're emotionally immature sounds weird to you (I guess it isn't exclusively an aro thing, but whatever)

I don't really know. I'm years away from being financially independent so I don't really have time to worry. Living alone sounds like nice, but so does chilling with one/a few close friends! I'm pretty stubborn when it comes to... well everything. I'm also a perfectionist who wants everything to be at least aesthetically pleasing lol. My dream is to rent a loft apartment, ideally one with a little area above the main floor. They're very spacious and get a lot of natural light, things I am both a fan of. Unfortunately they're quite expensive. I can't really imagine sharing a bed. I fidget a lot in my sleep and would be prone to elbowing/slapping my sleep partner across the face.

We made the frogs aro.

Oh yeah I guess I just interpreted it differently lol.

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Hmm... you could probably find it on Amazon, bookdepository, Barnes & Noble... pretty much any place where books are sold. It shouldn't be that hard to find. It is VERY in-depth and comprehensive, even going so far as to discuss romantic orientation as separate from sexual! I would highly recommend it!

This is an attempt to form a megathread, a union of the aroaces across this site. Come here to chat, to share your experiences, send memes, and plot your villainous schemes while the others are busy falling in love/having sex. With this, the alien invasion can truly begin, MWAHAHA! On a more serious note, a discussion about aromanticism in relation to asexuality made me realize we do not have a dedicated space to talk about our own experiences, so I'm making one! Feel free to talk about anything you want here. Aroallos and others are welcome as well!

Same here! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I think it's because what everyone is discussing here—romance is a far more universal part of life than sex. Sex is seen as NSFW, something to discuss behind closed doors. Romance is not, it's expressed openly and publicly. Therefore it's a much bigger aspect of everyday life. I'm not out to most people I know either, but I still heard the dreaded "you'll understand when you get older" when I ever expressed disdain for romance in any capacity. Part of the reason why I believed I was straight for such a long time as a kid was because of all these things people told me. When you're a kid, you haven't learned to question the beliefs of the adults around you. I discovered my aroace-ness when I was 12, almost 13. And it was all thanks to a book at my local library, The ABCs of LGBT+ by Ash Hardell. If I hadn't found that book or Ash hadn't included ace and aro-spec identities I would probably still be unsure about myself. Or maybe not, since a friend of mine mentioned asexuality once after I had discovered it. But even though I was still very young, I could've found my identity a lot sooner if I heard less of that. Mind you, I was a kid, but people should be encouraging children to explore their identity, not discouraging it. This infantilization is not exclusive to aces. Regardless of whether someone identifies as aro or not, society treats anyone who isn't looking for romance as having something wrong with them. Sex is an important part of our culture, yes, but romance even more so. And being aro has taught me that whenever you try to form a definition of humanity, you're going to leave somebody out.

That sounds really nice! One of the struggles of being aro is being left behind because your friends all get partners and completely ignore you. I would say my aro-ness definitely impacts my friendships. I value them a lot more than an allo would, and with that comes the existential dread I'll one day be replaced by a romantic partner. A book I was reading triggered this in me, since a character in a relationship explicitly said they valued a friend less than their partner.