paporomantic

It's all true in my case too (except maybe aroaceness).

My distinction may sound strange. To me, a squish is an attraction whose causes are obvious to me immediately (i.e. I know why I should like the person). A crush is an attraction whose origin I can't explain to myself for at least 2 days, and can only find an answer until I inquire myself deeply. In short, a squish is a manageable attraction and a crush is an uncontrollable one. But of course other people need different definitions. Ironically, the definitions of genders are tied to the definition of a crush for me. A 'generalized male' is someone I feel I can never crush on (minus my relatives who were AFAB), while a 'generalized female' is someone who I'm afraid can trigger a crush in me if I'm not careful (plus my relatives who were AFAB).

IT SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING I'LL FANCY DOING WHEN I'M RETIRED AND RUN OUT OF OTHER WAYS TO CHEER MYSELF UP

DO YOU THINK IT'S EASY EVEN FOR SOMEONE SLOPPY WITH ZERO PRIOR EXPERIENCE WITH ANY KIND OF NEEDLEWORK [Q]

@Louis Hypo HAVE YOU READ THE SHORT STORY 'SLEEPY' BY ANTON CHEKHOV [Q] IT'S ABOUT SITTING A CRYING BABY, A BIT TOO CRUEL, THOUGH [IT CONTAINS VIOLENCE]. IF YOU HAVEN'T, HERE'S ITS TRANSLATION INTO ENGLISH.

IT'S THE RARE CASE WHEN A MATH PROBLEM IS AN INNUENDO

OK, I'LL DO RESEARCH THEN. STILL, A THING MADE BY A FELLOW AROCALYPTIST WOULD TRIGGER MORE POSITIVE EMOTIONS THAN ONE MADE ON MY OWN. SO WE'D RATHER MAKE ITEMS FOR EACH OTHER THAN FOR OURSELVES.

HOW MUCH TIME IS REQUIRED TO LEARN TO KNIT A BRACELET / ARM WARMER FROM ZERO [Q] ON A SIDE NOTE, I WISH I HAD A SWITCH BETWEEN CIS-MALE AND CIS-FEMALE BODIES SO THAT I COULD APPEAL TO BOTH GAYS AND LESBIANS

OH, YOU KNOW THAT YOU'RE A CAPS ADDICT WHEN YOU KEEP UP WITH TWO CAPSLOCKIAS AT ONCE WELCOME TO AROCALYPSE AND CONGRATS ON THE INCORPORATION OF AVEN AS A 501[C][3] NON-PROFIT

WAS THIS MEANT TO BE A LINKIN PARK QUOTE [Q]

INDEED THERE ARE SOME VIOLENT FOLKS THERE WHO DON'T PLAY BY THE RULES. SORRY, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE OFFICIAL FEE IS BUT ARE YOU MAYBE OK WITH THIS [Q] MAY I PASS NOW [Q]

AVEN HAS A SPECIAL THREAD WHERE MEMBERS CONFESS CRUSHES / SQUISHES ON EACH OTHER, AND IT'S SEPARATE FROM THE ONE WHERE THEY TALK ABOUT REAL-LIFE CRUSHES / SQUISHES. I MEANT A THREAD ANALOGOUS TO THE FORMER. I FIND SUCH A SEPARATION QUITE CONVENIENT. I'LL DEFINITELY READ THE OTHER LINKED THREADS, THANKS. IS THERE A CHANCE THAT SHE'S ARO WHO'S FOOLED BY AMATONORMATIVITY AND FORCING HERSELF INTO A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP TO BE VALIDATED BY HER ENVIRONMENT [Q]

OUCH ALAS NOT EVERYONE FOLLOWS SAINT-EXUPERY'S PRINCIPLE 'YOU BECOME RESPONSIBLE, FOREVER, FOR WHAT YOU HAVE TAMED' [ASSUMING THAT SHE REGARDS YOU AS A SUB] OR INTERPRETS IT RIGHT. AS FAR AS I UNDERSTAND, BEING A DOM REQUIRES NOT SIMPLY 'CARING' ABOUT THE SUB, BUT FIRST AND FOREMOST LISTENING TO THEIR EMOTIONAL NEEDS. ALAS THE ISSUE IS NOT LIMITED TO BDSM - THERE ARE A LOT OF OVERPROTECTIVE PARENTS WHO 'CARE' ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN THE WAY THEY OR THE SOCIETY THINK IT SHOULD BE DONE, WITHOUT ASKING THE CHILDREN WHAT THEY REGARD AS REAL CARE AND WHAT THEY DEEM UNNECESSARY ACTS OF 'LOVE'. SO OBVIOUSLY, YOU NEED TO STOP ANY CONTACT WITH HER, BUT IF SHE'D LIKE TO HAVE CHILDREN POTENTIALLY, IT WILL BE GOOD IF YOU CONFRONT HER AND EXPLAIN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DISPLAYS OF LOVE AND REAL LOVE, SO THAT SHE EVENTUALLY LEARN TO BE A GOOD MOTHER. GL WITH FINDING A CARING PARTNER CONGRATS BTW, HOW ABOUT A SQUISH THREAD ON AROCALYPSE [Q] NP, IT'S OK TO BE [SERIALLY] MONOFORUMOUS

Hmm, I'm indeed not sure... there are plenty of people here who will listen to you better than I would. Anyway, your previous squish is now gone, and I yet see no reason why the new one is necessarily going to be a wreck. Let's hope for the best until you learn more facts about him!

Ouch, what happened? I thought squishes can't be harmful if done right. I mean, who on earth would hate to have one friend more (i.e. befriending you)? Or do you mean some kind of monoamorous queerplatonic attraction, i.e. did you want them to be exclusive with you in some way?

I thought I was a heteroromantic ace (earlier - that I was a heteroromantic heterosexual) because I aesthetically prefer 'generalized females' - people who like to beautify creatively (most females - both cis and trans - except very 'vanilla' ones, but also male goths, for example). I have to admit that I used to mistake intense envy of successful 'generalized females' for romantic attraction