Chronos

Thanks for all the answers. I asked mostly because I just found out about aromanticism and finally started thinking about it, and the first thing the two friends I talked about it said was "Maybe you just didn't find the right one yet". That, unsurprisingly, got me thinking even more.

Now that I am in college I live in a kinda big city, but I'm from a small backwater one. And the chief reason I wanted to get out of there (even out of that state) was to try and find someone(s) I could identify with, talk to and form some kind of bond. I have always been a loner, but it doesn't mean I don't want someone to talk to. I have to admit as well that I was hoping to find "the right one". I believed one reason that I never had felt attracted to anyone was maybe because the sampling pool was too narrow.

For better or worse I have abandoned those ideas by now.

@Cassiopeia: Thanks for taking time to write. I do believe it's more complicated then that for most people. More like a process. I was just tired and didn't know how to bring up the topic.

@Edit: forgot to say, I'm 22 now.

So, you are a writer @Rising Sun?

What do you like to write about?

You people, at what age more or less you just said "f*** it" and stopped waiting for "the right one"?

10 hours ago, Zemaddog said:

Am I the only one who just really didn't like the word love when I was younger? The word just didn't sit right with me, and I don't think I actually ever said it until I was at least a teenager. Even then, I was hesitant about using it. Maybe it was due to  society associating the word to romance, or the fact that I don't feel like I have ever experienced it (except for maybe my pets). Am I alone in this thinking or are the others who felt the same way?

4 hours ago, Elluna Hellen said:

 

Come to think of it, I never really tell people 'love you' (I do with my pets though. Go figure). Though it's not because i don't like the word.

I third this. Although I don't care about other people using it, I never felt comfortable using it myself. Mostly because I never knew (and yet don't know) what exactly it means.

Specially because some people use it so unceremoniously that it loses some of it's depth.

I dunno, I'm only rambling.

I never really cared for romantic scenes on movies. I didn't dislike them, but didn't care, except when it started to compromise the quality of the movie (or what I considered "quality" at the time). I really liked and still like Disney movies, but I thought they were exaggerating about love, since it is a cartoon and fairy tales anyway.

The biggest difference was how I didn't care about relationships during school. I barely remember in high school my classmates commenting something about going to parties to "catch"/"stay with" other people ("pegar", in Portuguese, and I still don't know exactly what this means).

Mostly I didn't care, or notice. I didn't think about me having any kind of relationship. If it happened someday, cool.

Only two years ago, when I stumbled on the concept of asexuality and aromanticism, I stopped to think about it. And realized these labels fit me.

YMBAI you just noticed that the other kids had already started dating, like you saw on TV, when you were like 15 (I was, and am, kinda antisocial).

YMBAI you really loved the ending of Pacific Rim because the romantic interest couple didn't kiss, and hugged instead.

YMBAI you always loved Disney movies, but never understood all the fuss about love and just accepted it as something invented or exaggerated, since they are fairy tales anyway.