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At first I was going to say what others have said, that is to cut her out completely but I understand that going to school with someone makes these things extremely difficult. When I was at school I had some toxic people in my friend group that I had to spend a lot of time with, so what helped me was emotionally removing myself from the situation. This has been a really important skill for me to learn, and I'm even doing it with my best friend's best friend (who lives with her) right now. She thinks we're really close but I don't like her one bit, and she doesn't need to know that because I'm preserving my relationship with my best friend. Sometimes your social wellbeing is somewhat dependant on the other person and that really sucks, but creating a relationship where she thinks you're close but you can protect yourself from her emotionally and detach yourself completely without her suspecting anything might be a solution. This might involve keeping the conversations between you light and smalltalky, and refraining from telling her any further personal information. Other than that you continue to be nice and friendly. I know that this can be a really hard thing to do, and of course it's not for everyone, so I wish you luck regardless.

Same! I thought that romance repulsion I felt when someone asked me out or confessed their love for me was butterflies. Wow I was stupid!

I have a new headcanon. Tanaka from Tanaka-kun is Always Listless is definitely aromantic. Some quotes Ohta about Tanaka: Hmm, I remember him saying love was bothersome. Ohta about another character: You want to instill in Tanaka the passion for romance that he lacks! Ohta: So you don't think about getting a girlfriend or anything like that? Tanaka: Well, of course, the inappropriate curiosity all boys have is present in me, but not enough that it's worth the effort to act upon it. In other words, I'm interested in the erotic, but the process to get there is too much work. I don't think it can get much more aro than that, even if it is out of sheer laziness ? I haven't even finished the show yet, those are just my favourite quotes so far

From looking at the stats for everyone's results, the already seemingly dodgy test seems pretty much useless ?

This happens all the time so at this point it's not even surprising. Often the songs by women are equally as worrying. The lyrics are 99% of the reason I hate pop music.

I'm really awkward about compliments, unless it's from my squish then I'm extremely flattered

This makes so much sense, thank you for explaining! I never understood what made someone nonbinary rather than cis but now I think I understand better. I definitely get gender role strain and I feel it almost daily, but I don't experience the other things you mentioned (I have a gender neutral nickname but I've been using it my whole life) so that would make me a cis woman.

Oh hey, what do you know I personally wouldn't be counting the relationships category since it was so normative Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 151 of 200Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 61 of 200You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)

The point is is that we shouldn't have to seperate relevant parts of ourselves like that and instead specify why they're related experiences for us personally (if that makes sense?). The pressure to seperate parts of ourselves feeds into erasure in my opinion.

Me neither! My sister was obsessing over her wedding recently (since she's currently engaged to a complete moron) and I'm glad it's died down right now cause it was getting on my nerves. One day I might just pull a Sue Sylvester and marry myself for the comedy of it all.

Aha! I found the source of my dream last night. Usually something from the day before triggers a dream and this comment triggered a (queer) platonic date in my dream. This might inspire me to come up with ideas to drag her away from her clingy roommate

https://memegenerator.net/instance/72494319 I made this joke on tumblr recently, thought it deserved a meme

Ive thought about this a lot and I'm not completely sure. My most recent squish developed for a female friend I was starting to get to know better, and it faded once we were a lot closer (specifically the night where we were drunk, sharing a bed and talking about personal and stupid things). My other squishes started once I began a friendship with a guy, but would go on for much longer because I was too afraid to be emotionally intimate with them (since this kept on resulting in romantic relationships/feelings that I didn't want) and so it wouldn't go away until I innevitably gave up on the friendship. So I guess the ideal for me is that once I have the relationship I want with the person the squish fades and develops into a loving platonic bond. So pretty much like the romantic example you gave, only platonic.

I get how this can be pretty unrelatable for arosexuals (and romantic asexuals, in the case of tumblr) which is why I tend to specify that my posts are of an aro ace perspective but in my experience a lot of romo aces won't do the same, often sounding like romanticism is essential and the likes. I don't know what my point was but I think it would be easier for everyone if they would start these discussions with "as an *insert orientation*" and/or end it with "these are my personal experiences as an *insert orientation*" because all of us have different perspectives which can be vastly different between arosexuals, aro aces and romo aces.

I'm much the same. I've considered platonic dating because I don't think dating has to be romantic unless the people involved are being gooey lovey. Also, @BlueCandle, couldn't have put it better myself.

I get what @Zemaddog is saying about non gender related body dysphoria as I have experienced it myself (as a result of societal pressure, which went away after I lost weight). I also feel like I've experienced gender dysphoria, but when I left school the problems went away so the dysphoria went away, which led me to believe I'm cis. Is that wrong?

I tried online dating recently and I found it pretty difficult. I made it very clear that I was an aro ace who's only interested in platonic relationships and friendships, I even made my profile invisible to straight people for good measure, and I talked to some awesome people who I got along with, but I got the vibe that they were fine with me being ace but needed me to have romantic feelings or give into a romantic relationship. Last night one of them even went on about sexual fluidity and how I could be Demi(romantic) and that's when I decided I'd had enough for a while. Basically, I've decided that I need to keep my qpr scoping exclusively to people on the aro spectrum, who understand my discomfort with romantic relationships and my desire for a relationship anarchy type relationship, who won't try and fit me into their boxes. I'm glad I gave it a go because I learnt that it wasn't for me, and that I don't feel the need to actively look for a qpr, that one day I'll find what I'm looking for.

So I know there's been studies done about the length of your index and ring finger corresponding to your sexuality with gay men typically having longer index fingers, straight men with longer ring fingers, straight women with even finger lengths and lesbians with longer ring fingers. I was wondering how this data fits the aromantic community so post your data in the comments This is all in good fun so I'll kick this off: I'm an aromantic asexual woman and my ring finger is longer than my index finger.

It's actually a mashup of both of our melodies that we wrote for theory class. I agree it's awesome