I completely understand, its rough on most lithromantics. I usually end up dating people I was friends with first and I'm lucky the romantic relationship lasts more than a couple weeks. I hate how it always ends up because once again, they were friends before. I can like someone romantically for months, but when they finally reciprocate, the feelings dwindle down to nothing but annoyance and being uncomfortable when they want to hold hands or even be romantic at all.