BigWoofEh

Heya! I'm 24/M and in a straight relationship if three months. I've always had trouble with long-term relationships, the longest one kept being at 9 months. I'm starting to wonder if it's due to being Aro or Greyromantic and would love any i put people have. I've been in four relationships over eight years that all seem to follow a pattern of infatuation to becoming comfortable with the other person, to later feeling trapped or like interactions (like calling only to say good night or trying to fall asleep together) start to feel suffocating, even if it's during a reasonable amount of time. The same feeling has started to creep up with this relationship, though I know this is the healthiest one I've ever been in. The conversations became hard to keep. I feel like I'm carrying them and forcing them, which is also a part of the pattern. Meanwhile, I know there are conversations about the world (politics, sciences, events) that I could be having with friends. I've always found them attractive, even if not physically. This all feels very confusing to say. But hopefully it makes sense. Short explanation is I have some libido, like interaction, feel some vague attraction toward my friend group, and don't know if this adds up to being Aro, greyromantic, or just a real piece of work. Any ideas? Happy to explain more as needed.