El011
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alskdls really wish i could go back to not thinking i’m aro ngl things were a helluvah lot easier. i mean, sure, it wasn’t fun constantly searching for a crush that was never gonna happen, but now i’m in a far stickier situation and man do i just wanna go back and pretend i’m not aro haha what are you talking about—
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so identity question. does anyone else ever hear love songs and fantasize about singing them to their future spouse and getting kind of teared up? also if this definitely does not sound like an arospec thing let me know, i definitely will not take it as invalidating.
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i have a squish on this guy i hooked up with and i have the classic 'what if it's actually a crush tho?' doubt. Disaster Aro vibes
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there's this aro guy on youtube who talks about his experiences being aro but not ace (he's straight) and has talked about straight privilege in the aro community and used his privilege to advocate for others and talks about aro experiences and i have the biggest sexual crush on him omfg ?
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not to be That person but i feel like a lot of language used on aven is super clinical sounding. like how everyone refers to people as males or females, or to non-ace people as sexuals. like "she's a sexual female" or "I'm surrounded by sexuals." Calling people sexuals, especially, is just really dehumanizing imo. it sounds like everyone is talking about animals rather than other humans and it gives me the creeps. has anyone else noticed?
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i don't like allosexual or alloromantic either btw. i feel like they group marginalized people with oppressors and imply that non ace and/or non aro people are a coherent privileged group with shared experiences and that's obviously going to be wildly untrue for lgbt people, women, poc, intersex people, disabled people, etc. also, a lot of people act like there's a certain level and frequency of attraction and relationship to sex (and romance) that you must have in order to be "allo" which sexualizes people without their consent and is actually just super creepy to assume about someone. i use the term gray aro because i find it useful to describe what i'm looking for in a relationship and how i feel about attraction, not because i think there's an inherent difference between me and someone non-aro or that they have privilege over me. we should just say non-ace or non-aro, those terms don't assume or imply anything besides that the individual doesn't identify as ace and/or aro.
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