Kadence

I say ‘I love you’ to my partner and my friends, but that’s just me. If it makes you uncomfortable, then you don’t have to do it! There are other ways to express love other than verbally

Something I realized some time after figuring out I was aromantic and started to analyze the kind of relationships I wanted instead of the kind society taught me to want, it was not a hard conclusion to come to that I was polyamorous. It’s a strange combination if you don’t know about QPRs, and it’s one of those things where I wonder if I’ll ever get more than one QPP at a time. I have a wonderful partner right now and we’ve both expressed a desire to have other partners and/or a polycule, but we’ve yet to find anyone. I don’t see it talked about too much (I could always juts be looking in the wrong places) but I wanted to hear about the experience of other polyam aros (a little bit cause I’m curious, a little bit to reassure myself that more than two exist).

This would depend on two things. One- the aro person’s willingness to be in a QPR or something similar and two- how quickly my alloromantic friend falls in love. See, if it was my best friend, who has a tendency to develop crushes really quickly, I would discourage her from pursuing a relationship with them but if it was one of my friends who don’t fall in love as quickly then I would tell them to talk to the aro person and see if they’re open to some kind of relationship. In the end, that would also be my advice to someone like my best friend, but I’d also be like ‘it’s prolly not a good idea’ as well.

This is a question for all you aros who have been in intimate relationships or have been intimate with another person. Do you remember your first kiss? I was in one real relationship and it lasted two and a half years. During that time, I know I kissed the girl I was with hundreds of times but I can’t remember my first one. I remember pretty much every other first in that relationship except for that one. I wanted to know if that was an aro thing or me/that relationship thing.

I always find it incredibly interesting that most aro people who take these polls are female and the second most is non-binary. The non-binary one makes sense, we've done a lot of research on LGBT+ orientations and are more likely to have chanced on the word and explored it more open-mindedly but female... I guess guys are typically more 'queer-shamed' than girls so maybe guys are less likely to take pride in their aromantisim or maybe even discover it. I don't know, this is just speculation, but I am very curious and fascinated by this kind of stuff.

I'm an athiest and I actually think that it helped me to discover and accept my aromanticism better, though it didn't have a direct impact. For one, when I became an atheist, I had to completely rethink how I thought of the world down to the fundamental parts of my mortality. Having already done that once, when I discovered I was aromantic, I had to rethink everything I thought I would have in the future. I had to rethink my values when it came to relationships of every kind. It was a lot easier doing that after already having to have done it once.

I totally understand the math bit. I super passionate about writing fiction and fantasy and I do joke to myself about writing being the closest to being in love I've ever gotten lol. I also slip into weird, semi-poetic rants and I'm told I talk like I'm writing a book, so I understand that haha Welcome to Aropocalypse, it sounds like you've contributed a lot to the aro-spec community already lol you're definitely more of an activist than I am

What’s your ideal “date” with your non-romantic partner? Mine is cuddling on the couch watching Monty Python movies and discussing life

So, I was just reading The Adventure Time Encyclopedia and Hunson Abadeer called love an abomination and now my new headcannon is that he's aro

Sex

Drown

I'd rather have a bunch of snek friend than get married

Bar fight

no one's posted here for a while

1921

Banned for having the name of the worst villain's in one of the stories I write

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This is entirely up to you and the label you feel most comfortable with, if you identify with the term straight, use that, if you identify with the term bisexual, use that

1. I went through two periods of questioning and four label changes. First, I thought I was pansexual then I settled on bisexual, just cause the label felt more comfortable and I identified as that for a while until I realized I wasn't attracted to men. After that, I called myself a lesbian until recently, when I basically came out to myself as non-binary and I've just been calling myself gay. 2. I was rather comfortable with my sexual orientation (even if I hadn't fully switched to the label I'm using now) when I found out I was aromantic. Now that I think about it, it was my sexual orientation that led me to discover my romantic one. I have dated guys in the past, guys that I didn't really love or even like, and when I realized I wasn't attracted to men at all, I realized that I'd faked that love. Then I thought about it more and I realized that, even though I was sexual with the girl I dated in the past, I had done the same thing with her as I did to all the guys I've dated. That led me to the discover I was aromantic. 3. I consider my sexual and romantic orientation separate because they are two separate parts of me. There's the part of me that wants to have sex with woman and another part of me that doesn't want a relationship or even feel romantically attracted to anyone. They coexist but they are still distinct.

Marriage is definitely a social construct lol no one can argue that, it’s is literally something created by people for social purposes (well, it was created to sell woman for livestock or political power but it turned into something for social purposes as we came to realize that woman aren’t something to be sold)

I agree, a pet deserves to be loved and given all the time, attention and dedication they deserve. When I move out, I will make sure that I will be able to give it what it needs and if I can’t then I won’t get one cause they deserve better

I agree 100% I live with my parents rn and they won’t let me have a snek but when I do, I wanna get a ball python at first cause I hear they’re good starter snakes

Ça va bien! You spelled everything fine lol Thanks, my dream snake is a kingsnake cause they’re beautiful and royal

For Me -Dearlie is my comfort aro song I personally like I Don't Need Love by NIIC, Heart Heavy & Alone and Sublime by Mother Mother and I'm Good by The Mowlgi's is a really awesome feel-good aro song