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Collie

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  1. I'm grey-aro, but I just call myself straight up aromantic most of the time.
  2. I have OCD tendencies, which means in regards to doubts that they tend to stick around, cause significant anxiety, and I ruminate over them heavily. At least, before meds got my symptoms under more control. Questioning is completely normal, but if you find you're going round in circles constantly, you have to learn to live with the uncertainty.
  3. I'm autistic as well. Studies have shown that autistic people are disproportionately likely to identify as LGBTQ, and there are theories for why that is. But so far as I know, nothing conclusive. It could be because we care less about fitting in overall, or it could be something in our brains or DNA. Aromanticism is usually defined as not experiencing romantic attraction. But pinpointing what that is, is kinda hard. It's an emotional experience, and emotions can be very subtle. I identify as (dark grey) aromantic because I have no interest in dating anyone at all ever. But some aromantic people do want to date and just don't feel the special feelings. There are different kinds of attraction besides romantic or sexual, as well. Sensual, aesthetic, platonic, etc.
  4. Currently have Poison from Hazbin Hotel on loop
  5. I saw a post that was joking like "always remember that the reason you're single is because you like Dragon Ball and if you didn't like Dragon Ball you could have whoever you want" In similar jokey fashion, I reblogged with a "thank goodness! Dragon Ball fan for life!"
  6. I'm offended that you agree w them and not me
  7. I think I was 20, maybe 19 when I first learned about asexuality and subsequently, aromanticism. I didn't comfortably identify as either until 25+ though.
  8. If you think agender describes your experience with gender, then you're agender. There's also a lesser-known label used on AVEN called cis-genderless, where you're basically agender but associate with your AGAB bc..... why not. But it's always your own decision how you want to label it.
  9. Sounds similar to my experience. I'm fine being perceived as female, prefer non-gendered at all but don't think society will ever accept that so I just settle for being seen as a woman. I actively dislike being seen as a man or male in any way. I go by agender or demigirl.
  10. Collie

    squish?

    Yes, squishes can be intense.
  11. I just appreciate how I'll "ship" some characters and "root for" the ship to become canon..... but when I actually see fanart of said ship being romantic or sexual or both I'm just like "hm, don't like that" So I think most of my ships I really just want them to be QPRs, lol. There are clear and obvious exceptions, but most of my "ships" are probably QPR
  12. Sounds like sensual stuff to me, aside from the "ok with soft romo relationship" part. Only you can decide what that is. It could maybe count as queerplatonic?
  13. When I was assessed for autism, one of the statements on my official diagnosis letter was how I dislike being touched. So I guess it's an autistic trait.
  14. Most romance in Western media feels forced for some reason. Whereas Eastern media such as anime seems to do it right.
  15. Never and tbh I can hardly imagine it outside of writing fiction about it
  16. I too am prone to imposter syndrome. I questioned for months and years about being a-spec and often denied that I was because the whole "am I, aren't I" tug of war was so stressful. It was easier to just assume I was straight and nothing else. (I have OCD tendencies, which I think played into this.) I now quite comfortably identify as aromantic. You'll get there eventually. It's ok to call yourself aro even if you're not 100% sure.
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    Art Thread

    Nice! Did you use the colors from the furry flag design by Fursona Pins at the bottom??
  18. I have a bit of experience doing novel-styled roleplays. Of course, I suppose it helps that my RP partner was doing half the work in writing their own character. Plus, my primary RP partner is literally a romance fanfic author, soooo. What sticks out to me from my experience is.... actions. How does the character feel? What are their thoughts? Romantic doesn't always have to be passionate confessions and dramatic gestures. Sometimes even just the characters hanging out in the same space together can be romantic. Small things like gardening together, or helping with the dishes. It's the little things that make it worthwhile. It's true enough that when it came to things like kissing and stuff, I had to scramble and do a lot of research to figure out how to do that. I most often followed my RP partner's lead.
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