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FishPanda

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  1. Part of it is social conditioning, obviously. But I've seen my cousin's daughter put her brother's toy car to sleep once, so at least some of it is instinct and/or natural inclination. The old "nurture vs nature" argument.
  2. I never ever want to have kids. For me it's kind of at the same level of losing my ability to walk or going blind, life-ruining wise. I really don't like kids, and the thought of being pregnant makes me both creeped out and freaked out. It's like something out of alien and it makes me dry heave. Seriously, it's almost phobia-like. It's one of those urges I never really got - I see people cooing over babies and I'm like "ugh. it's a squashed up human. What's so cute about that"? Also the thought of being responsible for something so helpless is a big nono. I'm okay with them once they reach the age of 4-5, though. Surprisingly, I was a really popular babysitter as a teenager. Kids LOVED me. Maybe because I didn't baby them or talk down to them. I'm pretty sure this has nothing to do with me being aromantic, though, because I've never played "mother and baby" with my dolls as a child and the first time I announced I wasn't ever having kids was in the second grade.
  3. I've never actually come out and said it. But I think they all know at this point. I'm 28, and my last relationship was at 18. I've always been very clear about not wanting kids (first time I said it was during the second grade, and I'm pretty sure everyone believes me by now), and in the last years I've been very clear that I like being single and I don't want a relationship. I've just never defined it. My parents pretty much let me be, they don't pry. If I wanted to talk about it I'm sure they'd listen, but I don't feel the need to say anything more. Every time I say I don't want kids or that I don't want a spouse they're like "okay". But they're basically like the most open and accepting people ever, so I'm not worried. I think they are a bit disappointed about not getting grandkids from me, because I'm the eldest and my younger sisters aren't very enthusiastic about it either (my youngest sister doesn't want any, my middle sister doesn't say she doesn't want kids but she's not in any rush to do it before she's 30, so we'll see), but their basic attitude is "it's your life, do what makes you happy".
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